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A Quiet Wisdom - Peggy Connolly
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Print ISBN: 978-1-54397-968-8
eBook ISBN: 978-1-54397-969-5
Contents
Acknowledgements
Author’s Note
The Tree Hugger
Great Expectations
Truth and Tears
The Blame Game
Perfection Is an Illusion
Kintsugi
The Family Jewels
Cat’s Eat Birds
A Red Letter Day
Roasting Marshmallows
Christmas At Our House
Becoming an Advocate
Unerring Grace
The Mission
Meditation
Jenny and the IPhone
Resilience
The Beat of Her Own Drum
Holding Kindness
Taking Care of Mom
A Double Edge Sword
Finding and Loving My Daughter
Acknowledgements
To my husband, Jim, who has been by my side throughout this life journey. Your unwavering love shored me up when the cracks would appear. We cried and laughed and argued our way through 50 years of blessings. We fit like a glove.
I am eternally grateful to Merek who saw the possibilities in me when I was too bruised to see them myself. You kept me on track when I would hit a wall whether it was in my discovery and healing process or in my writing. You showed me the path to self-love, sometimes with patience and love and sometimes with a thump on the head – whatever it took to wake me up.
To Mary, who encouraged me to stretch my wings and fly. Your confidence in me was my catalyst to begin.
Just because you don’t look like the other crayons in the box,
does not mean you still can’t make the most beautiful pictures!
My daughter, Jenny, is not like the other crayons in the box.
She is the rarest of the color crayons
and she has colored some profound
and beautiful pictures
for those who know her.
Author’s Note
In traditional Japanese aesthetics, wabi-sabi, in its barest sense, is the Japanese art of finding beauty in imperfection and profundity in nature. It’s simple, slow, and uncluttered, and it reveres authenticity above all. Our intellectually developmentally disabled (I/DD) children are the essence of what is wabi-sabi. They are asymmetrical and have a simplicity about them that begs those of us who are willing to do so, to see them through a cherished lens. My disabled daughter, without knowledge or purpose, has taught me how to live the wabi-sabi philosophy. She has helped me find the beauty in imperfection.
She patiently waited for me during her early years to become accustomed to my upside-down world that began with her diagnosis. This is my journey pertaining to giving birth to and living with an I/DD child; my path to finally seeing her innate wisdom as I began to accept and honor my daughter completely as she is. She continues to amaze me with her kindness and her infinite capacity for forgiveness. Even with her brokenness, she is the most authentic and wisest woman I know. She has evolved over the years, and I’ve had to sometimes run to catch up with her.
She is my teacher. And I can’t help but laugh out loud, for as wise as she appears to be, she still awkwardly clomps out the door to get on the bus that will take her to work-with her rain boots accidentally on the wrong feet.
Life journeys are as individual as each of us. Those who walk their path in a mindful manner may relate to this story of my journey with my intellectually developmentally disabled daughter, Jennifer, and coincidentally coming to love myself through connecting with her. Writing this book, with all the lovely as well as painful memories, has proven to be a camera lens for me in that it allowed me the opportunity to clearly see and focus on some of the outstanding moments of this tangled journey of coming to deeply love my disabled child. It has helped me to find my voice in the grief and the fear and the great anxiety of birthing an imperfect developmentally disabled child. This story has many watershed moments that have proven to be healing for me therefore allowing Jennifer to grow into her own power and self-awareness. It has opened my eyes to her uncomplicated worldview that is the source of her quiet wisdom. Come with me on this journey of how I came to love my daughter.
The Tree Hugger
She didn’t come into the house right away when she got off the bus from work the other day.
I stood at the door watching her move about the yard. It was one of those rare and perfect early spring days when the breeze is gentle and the sun invites you to shed your jacket and enjoy the feel of its warmth on your skin. She moved around the yard examining everything. When she got to the big tree that shades us from the summer heat, she impulsively stretched her arms around its trunk and just laid her cheek against it. She hugged that tree for a good 30 seconds or longer oblivious to anything else. She gave it her full attention. She seemed to be listening to it or maybe she was just appreciating it being in her yard. Then, to my surprise, she meandered over to a smaller tree and again hugged it to her giving it a few pats as if to say, Good job, little one
. My eyes leaked with tears at the quiet beauty I witnessed. How could I