Power up Your Self-Talk: 6 Simple Habits to Stop Beating Yourself Up and Reclaim Your Life

By Michal Stawicki

Empower Your Life Despite All of Your Problems

What if shame, guilt, inadequacy, low self-esteem and painful memories of your past failures no longer plagued your mind? What if you could take full control of your life and achieve the goals and success you always yearned for with just a few easy habits?

"When we tell ourselves something is too hard, or easy, or that we are successes or failures, it's self-talk."

Six years ago, the prevailing thought in Michal's mind was: "It's impossible." His life attitude was "just get by," and his mind was eroded by the memories of his failures. Today, he is a bestselling author who liberated his wife from her day job, and spends most of his days empowering fellow authors and millions of readers around the globe.

In "Power Up Your Self-Talk," he shares the simplest techniques that helped him and his readers to overcome the sneaky (and often brutal) self-sabotage of the mind.

In this book you will learn:

• Why you failed so many times despite your best intentions (and how to change this)
• How to instantly elevate your mood to escape obstinate dark thoughts
• Which elephant in the room self-help gurus fail to address in most of their teachings
• How to overcome the resistance of years of faulty thinking
• Why habits are the best remedy against negative self-talk
• The undervalued habit that everyone can practice and tune into their self-talk (would you believe it can create new brain cells?!)
• The one thing you need before you can apply all the great personal development advice
• The easiest way to quickly rewire your brain into positivity
• How to steer your self-talk so self-insults and vicious internal remarks will no longer cripple your performance
• Two cardinal rules for preparing your battle plan with your subconscious
• Bonus: no bonuses! Just pure content in concise format to get you started in only moments.

Power up your self-talk, empower your life and stop being your own worst enemy.

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Michal Stawicki
• Release date: Jun 1, 2019
• ISBN: 9781393016069

Michal Stawicki

Proven techniques from a practitioner. True stories.Does the concept of 'visualization' sound ridiculous to you?Do you consider mental exercises, the "law of attraction", "manifesting" and self development to be a waste of time or hokey-pokey?Has it been years since you thought seriously about your life?Welcome to the club! That describes me just a year ago. I was overweight, stressed, constantly worried about my finances and quietly desperate about my relationship with God. I was aimless. I had no plans for where my life would be in 2, 5 or 10 years.I'm a reader. I've read several thousands books in my life; there wasn't much else to do in Poland before the fall of communism. We had a black and white TV with only 2 channels; I didn't see my first computer until age 11. So, reading became my biggest habit.In August 2012 I read a book called "The Slight Edge" by Jeff Olson. It took me a whole month to start implementing ideas from this book. That led to me reading numerous other personal development books, some effective, some less so. I looked at myself and decided this was one person who could surely use some development. In November of 2012, I created my personal mission statement; I consider it the real starting point of my progress. Over several months I applied several self-help concepts and started building inspiring results: I some weight, greatly increased my savings, built new skills, got rid of bad habits and developed better ones.I'm very pragmatic, a "down to earth" person. I favor utilitarian, bottom-line results over pure artistry.Despite the ridiculous language, I found there is value in the "hokey-pokey visualization" stuff. I now see it as my mission to share what I have learned.My books are not abstract. I avoid going mystical as much as possible. I don't believe that pure theory is what we need in order to change our lives; the Internet age has proven this quite clearly. What you will find in my books are:- detailed techniques and methods describing how you can improve your skills and drive results in specific areas of your life- real life examples- personal storiesSo, whether you are completely new to personal development or have been crazy about the Law of Attraction for years, if you are looking for concrete strategies, you will find them in my books. My writing shows that I am a relatable, ordinary guy, not some ivory tower guru.I've been married over 12 years. I'm a father of two boys and one girl. I work full time in the IT industry, and recently, I've become an author. My passions are transparency, integrity and progress.

Book preview

CHAPTER 1

The Powerful Problem

Hey, you worthless piece of shit! Yes, I’m talking to you!

Are you mad at me?

What kind of self-help book is this, if an author starts it that way?

Maybe you are outraged. How dare I say such heinous things about you? How dare I judge you so harshly and obscenely?

The way you talk to yourself is worse, certainly, than the way anyone else talks to you.

– Seth Godin

I just wanted to make a point. There is a pretty high probability that you’ve said much worse things to yourself. And you didn’t become mad or outraged. Instead, you consented.

I purposefully started the book with this outrageous insult. If you cannot stand invective from me, how can you stand self-inflicted verbal abuse? I wanted to evoke anger. I wanted you to stop hiding the problem you have. I wanted you to acknowledge that you insult yourself like this and much worse, and you do it without purpose or reason. You go overboard with it and it destroys your life like nothing else.

And I want you to do something about it. Read this book. Learn how to change your self-talk for good. Stop being your worst critic, tormentor, judge, and hangman. Turn your life around.

I’ll keep the language in this book civil and will refrain from referring to excrement from now on. The only ugly expressions you will find in it will be examples of negative self-talk.

Well, if you were mad because I insulted you and you’ve never said any crap to yourself, I’m sorry, and this book is clearly not for you. You are above negative self-talk and already live happily ever after. I’m so glad for you! People like you are like sunshine for this world. Thank you for being the best version of yourself.

However, very few people are like that. In fact, virtually everyone I’ve ever met in real life (not in the magical bubble of social media) was struggling with their self-talk and this struggle was always at the source of their life struggles. We judge ourselves harshly. We belittle ourselves. We are full of self-doubts and self-loathing.

When I wrote my book about overcoming shyness, From Shy to Hi, I shared negative thoughts that crossed my mind when I was about to approach a stranger and start a conversation. It was a real slop bucket. I was blown away when every beta reader I shared the advanced reading copy with said: Yeah, me too. I tell myself such atrocious stuff all too often.

That was the first time I’d ever gotten confirmation that I was not a lonely madman. We all share this affliction. I started to see this theme again and again. Self-talk was affecting everything I was teaching about.

For example, if you want to change your personal philosophy (the topic of my book Trickle Down Mindset), you must pay attention to your self-talk, or it may undermine everything you want to accomplish. You may read zillions of personal development books and listen to gurus around the clock, but it’s to no avail if your self-talk torpedoes everything you consume.

Well, this guy had it easy; I, on the other hand...

Bollocks! I don’t have his money/friends/wits, so it’s impossible for me.

Yes, I wish I was like him, but I’m not. I’m a worthless piece of sh...

If you want to develop persistence and follow one course of action for the long haul (the topic of The Art of Persistence), your first obstacle is your self-talk. Whatever you say to yourself about persistence, or about the discipline you resolved to follow, will affect your performance. That’s the reason only 9% of folks succeed with their New Year’s resolutions. The rest tell themselves ugly things, especially after the first failure to keep their commitment. And they quit.

Crappy self-talk is also the main reason that only 42% of Americans even bother making a New Year’s resolution. Instead of attempting to change their lives, they simply say to themselves: I’m no good. I’ll fail anyway, so why bother?

Voices in your head are robbing you of your money when you spend it on useless trinkets like a fifteenth fridge magnet to feel the boost of shopping-induced dopamine. They rob you of your health when you reach out for junk food or roll over and go back to bed instead of going out for a morning jog.

What you say to yourself determines if you will do your job well. In fact, your self-talk often determines if you do any work at all. And it’s your negative self-talk that makes you lash out at your spouse or your children, not what they’ve done or said to you.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

– Eleanor Roosevelt

It Won’t Be Easy

Make no mistake, changing your self-talk is not an easy feat. The more negative it is and the longer you’ve lived with it, the harder it will be. That’s not a threat, it’s a statement of fact. You’ve been conditioned for years to say the worst possible things to yourself. It is likely you haven’t taken even a first step towards reaching your full potential in decades.

However, no matter how hard it is going to be, you have no other choice. Well, not a real choice. You may choose to ignore this book and this advice or quit after a few first feeble attempts. That means you choose your current reality and accept that it can only worsen. Negative self-talk will rub your face in the mud and keep you there forever.

If you give up, nothing can change. A knight