How To Parent Us

By Tito Nwachokor

Hi. I am Otito, I am a Millennial. I have friends, teenagers like me. And I have seen some them suffer from abuse and depression; and their parents had no clue.

I know their stories and it hurts to see them suffer so much while the adults in their lives think they are just been silly, recalcitrant or stubborn.

They feel misunderstood and helpless in spite of their parents best efforts to help them. So I came up with a plan....

A book about how to parent us. Well, this isn't about teaching parents parenting, its more like helping parents see the behind the scene of their children's world. This is about helping both sides have that talk they need but are not having.

I collected surveys, data, stories, just about everything parents need to know about a teenagers worldview, so they can better help them. Well, I guess, this is me talking to mums and dads about how to kick ass and still be cool.

Everybody needs to read this. Place an order right away, it's dropping on 12th of May 2019.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tito Nwachokor
• Release date: May 10, 2019
• ISBN: 9780463032312

Book preview

FOREWORD

By Johnson Abbaly

So much has changed in the last three decades. Disruptive technologies and lifestyle shifts have altered our lives forever. One of the casualties of this drastic change is the home front: Parenting.

While many parents are still knuckle-knee into the parenting templates of the 20th century, those templates don’t seem to deliver results for millennials. But rather than fix the templates, parents are trying to fix the kids. The result is a demographic war.

There are some parents willing to go all 13 yards to shift their thinking and adapt to the unique characteristics of today’s Millennials and The Generation Z. But they are quite frankly at a loss. The dynamics of the incredibly strong youth sub culture is baffling. From their netiquette, cyber lingo, Instagram eccentricities; the entire array of mind numbing sensory overload, the whole thing

feels like a labyrinth.

This is where Tito comes in handy. This young author, who is inarguably an influencer among his peers, delivered a master piece in this book. He wrote this at age 17. As a 17-year-old, he understands his culture and has a grasp of why parents struggle with their teenagers, from the point of view of a teenager.

This book provides the much needed template gleaned from within the teenage culture, on how to parent a millennial. Reading this book, a parent gets to have that subliminal conversation with their teen they’ve always wanted to have but couldn’t get the kid to open up.

How to Parent Us is replete with surveys and data extracted from young respondents on everything from why they dislike going home, to which parent they love better and why and a few true life stories

of teenage struggles with depression and abuse.

This book is a must read for parents and teenagers anywhere in the world. It is a rare insight by a very courageous young author. And it could help in no small way in mending strained relationships and healing the home fronts.

This is Tito's gift to the world. And the tender, pure spirit of the young author breathes through his book.

Johnson Abbaly

Director of THE RITES OF PASSAGE program.

Reading this book, a parent gets to have that subliminal conversation with their teen they’ve always wanted to have

Johnson Abbal

INTRODUCTION

I sincerely apologize for my harsh tone. It gets softer I promise:

Every parent seems to be an expert when it comes to parenting; Don't do that! don't do this! You're grounded! Where's my belt!? Barking out orders here and there, making rules, burning bridges etc. In some cases, they don't know what they do wrong.

The close connection shared in the womb or at infancy doesn’t remain forever. Parents sometimes feel that only they know exactly what's best for their children and that's final.

We (teenagers) are humans too! We have feelings, dreams and ambitions, schemes, questions that need to be answered, emotional needs and all other things. Some of you are doing a terrific job.

Well this book isn't your typical 'HOW TO PARENT' book (We’ve had enough of those already), It's HOW TO PARENT US, because, there is an US in the equation, we should have a say or at least a hand in our futures. How about spicing up our lives with some creativity in doing your jobs you know?

Please don't be so rigid all the time. Try out new ideas, learn new habits, throw away the old while at the same time still instilling good moral values in us your children.

Dear young folks like me; I know this book isn't directly addressed to you but I know you don't want your children to face the same problems you face now. It’s never too early (or late) for new knowledge

The world is evolving, parenting doesn’t (always) seem to be

following the trend. New is not bad.

I implore parents to please keep an open mind throughout the course of this material. I am positive that you will learn something that would help you better understand how your child thinks.

Join me as I walk you through some misconstrued theories in parenting that I've seen and experienced, with real life anecdotes.

This book promises to be an exciting, paradigm altering walk in the shoes of a Negroid teen. Fasten your seatbelts and enjoy.

PS: This book is completely Unorthodox, written by an idiosyncratic teenage outlier, if you’re looking for inspirational content go elsewhere. Hahaha I'm just kidding.

CONTROL IS AN ILLUSION

The secret of true power is to yield control

Anecdote based on a true story:

Oh this is heaven, pure heaven.

No noise, no disruption, nobody screaming at me about how horrible my room looks. How unkempt my hair is, how vague my memory on certain seemingly unimportant instructions.