Accepting Life On Life's Terms
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What can you do when your life is falling apart around you? Is it really true that you can "be happy no matter how bad things are" as the majority of pop self-help books and many therapists say?
The reality is that life can be challenging. Many times we can't just think happy thoughts and expect that life will be easier. However, there is something we can do! The philosophies and psychologies of Taoism and Stocism and the personal philsophy based on the author's life experiences offer ancient wisdom that will help us get through the hard times, while being more fully present in life's joyful moments.
This book incorporates teachings that the author has used to help countless clients get through incredibly difficult times, during his many years in roles such as being a psychotherapist along with other life roles. Chris draws from his wisdom from being a contextual psychologist, Taoist philosopher, Aiki-Judo Sensei, coach, personal trainer, current role in law enforcement, as well as from his own personal life experiences.
Accepting Life On Life's Terms offers ancient wisdom for today's troubling times!
Originally Published 12/28/2018 This digital version is the latest version!
Chris L McClish
Chris L McClish - a man with "many roles, many journeys, and one spirit!" Chris offers wisdom gleaned from his experiences of having served for many years as a psychotherapist. Currently he is a Probation and Parole Officer. Additionally, he had been a certified life-coach, Judo Sensei (instructor), Taoist philosopher, author, artist, musician, mindfulness-meditation instructor, and other life roles. He is also the host of a podcast that is growing in popularity, Cup of Tao.
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Accepting Life On Life's Terms - Chris L McClish
Acknowledgements
Iwish to thank the field of Taoism and all the wonderful books and teachers starting with the Tao Te Ching . I would also like to thank the psychological field of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (the wonderful people who founded and spread it), Judo – including my colleagues and the rich philosophical foundation behind it, my clients and students that I have had the privilege of working with for many years, my colleagues, my family, and those who entered my life, and to those who have left my life and yet have inspired me to continue reaching out to others. A special thanks to my family, including my wife, Stacey, my children and grandchildren, and those who are close to me and supported me all along.
Introduction
Something led you to this book. What was it? Was it the catchy title? Do you already have a bunch of books on self-actualization, self-help, Taoism, philosophy, or psychology, and are you wanting to add to your collection? Are you a spiritual writer or reader and looking to critique another book? Is this book the beginning of your journey? Are you looking for happiness? Do you want the magic answer?
I have a confession. You will not find the one single secret to happiness in this book, or probably will not find the magic cure
in this - or any other book written by humans. The road that you travel will still be rough, you will still face the stresses of life with the certainty that bad things in the world will continue to happen. Why not just throw this book away (or delete it)?
Before you decide to toss this book, allow me to inform you that even though you may not find the secret of life, at least not by way of merely reading this book, instead you may discover that this book can be a significant part of your journey.
I don’t claim that this is a great book, nor even a good one. This book is what it is. You will be the one that makes this a good book, or even a great book. You will ponder the concepts presented here and then add to them with your own thoughts. You will make this book be of great value by using the philosophy in a way that allows you to take moments in life and then start seeing the past, present, and future in a different light, meanwhile committing to be in the here-&-now in a more present and meaningful way.
If you have already become familiar with every concept presented here by reading every philosophy book, spiritual book, etc. and you find this book to be just boring old news, that is fine too. Maybe you came across this book because you needed to hear these things again. Take what you need and leave the rest.
To some, the concepts presented in this book may sound familiar. Why? The reason this information sounds familiar is because most, if not all, modern self-help, psychology, philosophy, and spiritual development books do not contain new ideas, but are presenting ideas derived from philosophies and religions that are ancient. The concepts in these new books, along with all the new scientific breakthrough
websites, are usually presenting rehashed information (that has been around for quite a long while), being rebranded for a new generation. Does this mean the ideas are invalid in today’s modern society? It is not a bad thing that ancient wisdom holds true today. We need the same philosophical wisdom to guide us in these times, as it did to those people facing different stressors long ago.
Where did all this wisdom come from? The wisdom came from the great mystery. I (and Lao Tzu) call that mystery the Tao, but you can call it God, the Universe, whatever. Ancient philosophers, mystics and pious spiritual figures gained this wisdom and had described it in their written works. In this modern age, you get glimpses of the mysteries and philosophical insights in many places, such as self-help books, modern psychological theories, company slogans, bumper stickers, and even in memes on social media!
I also want to inform you that I intentionally made this book short and concise. I personally struggle getting through large books. Therefore, I wanted to present this book as a brief roadmap.
If you have not read the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu, I would encourage you to do so. There are many good translations, I hope that you find one that speaks to you and then dive in. It was my goal to present concepts in a way so as not to do yet another line-by-line interpretation or add another version of the Tao Te Ching to the saturated market.
I am on a journey just as you are. I enjoyed a long career as a psychologist, meanwhile I also enjoyed teaching as a Judo Sensei. I have always had my fingers in several pies
. I have also been an artist, digital artist, web-designer, bicyclist, woodworker, musician, and more recently as a law enforcement officer. I have been studying philosophy and spirituality for a long time as well. Since most of my career life was spent as a psychologist and Judo teacher, you will find my way of explaining Taoism done in the light of my background.
I, just as you probably have, experienced suffering in my life (I will not go into detail now, but let’s just say that my life hasn’t been easy). I have had those personal phone calls in the middle of the night. The calls that left me worrying about a family member who was in distress (or in trouble), and the phone calls that shook me to the core by informing me of some tragedy such as the death of a loved one – which has happened too many times in my life.
At some point we all experience suffering. Life is a great teacher, not always a kind one, but if you listen and look, you may hear and see some things that you might not have otherwise noticed.
~ 1 ~ Life is what it is
We are not always in the driver’s seat of life. Life happens the way that it unfolds, whether or not we like it. It is human nature to have desire and attempt to control our situations through planning, problem solving, and doing what we can to try to get through it all unscathed. Yet, life doesn’t always work out the way we plan. When things fall apart, which they will, it does little good to blame ourselves, because whether we have been kind or unkind, life will still storm down upon us.
You may be thinking what a depressing way to start out a book!
. We need to be reminded