Single, Not Dead
By Brandy Lucas
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Although single women outnumber married women in the U.S., Single, Not Dead dispels the stigmas attached to flying solo. With revealing insight, Brandy Lucas gives sage advice about self-discovery, self-love and transformation. This is not another book about how to get, keep or love a man. It’s about learning how to love and become the best version of yourself. Lucas’ candid and sometimes comedic anecdotes will inspire you to end the insane cycle of dreading the single life. She proves that being single is not a destiny of doom, but an opportunity for growth.
In this book, you will explore and learn:
•Why it’s important to evaluate your reasons for seeking marriage
•How to live a fulfilled life whether you’re single or married
•What it takes to fight fear with faith
•Who you can evolve into once you embrace a relationship with God
•The possibility of thriving as a single woman instead of simply surviving
Brandy Lucas
Motivated to live a life of purpose, Brandy Lucas chooses to embrace her life as single woman. At an early age, she developed a passion for reading and writing as a form of expression. Constantly evolving, she has turned her passion into a mission to inspire, uplift, and motivate others to be the best versions of themselves. She is the founder of Luke Legacy Publications, named in honor of her late father who was a published author and poet. She would love to hear from you! Reach out to Brandy Lucas via email at brandy@brandylucas.com.
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Single, Not Dead - Brandy Lucas
INTRODUCTION
YOU’RE SINGLE, NOT DEAD
Okay, so you know how it goes. You’re at the family reunion minding your own business enjoying family, music and good food, when your sweet little granny comes up to you and says, Hey baby, have you gotten married and had any kids yet?
Can you say, mood killer?! I get irritated every time I hear that question. In your head you say to yourself, Listen granny, did you receive an invitation in the mail announcing my engagement and inviting you to my wedding? Did you get a cute little postcard with a stork carrying a baby inviting you to my baby shower? Instead of sarcastically responding, you simply smile and shake your head no. You’re still not married and you still don’t have any children. You think that you can move on from this line of questions until she twists her face up and hits you with, Well what are you waiting for?
Again, you think to yourself: Well first, I’m waiting for God to stop sending me people that test my patience, but that’s neither here nor there. If you’re anything like me you’re still holding on to that smile, but it’s now through gritted teeth.
Maybe this is only my life, but if you have reached the age of 30 plus and are not married or in a serious relationship, I’m sure you can relate on some level. Hopefully, you are in the category of women who don’t care that they’re still single. You’re enjoying life to the fullest and being single doesn’t define you or make your life less fulfilled. If you are one of those awesome single women, God bless you; I praise you and that’s my ultimate goal for myself and every single woman out there. I hope by the end of this book every single woman walks off into the sunset, living her life like it’s golden with her head held high, accomplishing goal after goal, with no fear of the future. Until then, many of us ladies—including myself——have some work to do before we get to that happy place.
In China, a single woman over the age of 30 is called a ‘leftover woman.’ The term leftover woman is used as if she is less desirable or a picked over entrée left in the refrigerator. In a society where single people now outnumber married couples, and about 2 out of 7 people actually live alone, you would think such stigmas wouldn’t still exist. I realize that when the statistics say single, they mean not legally married. As we know in this generation, we have all types of non-traditional families; anywhere from same sex couples, to the unmarried couples who call each other wifey
and hubby.
For the purpose of this book, when I speak of single people, I am referring to a class of people, especially women, who are not married or in a committed exclusive relationship.
When you have been a bridesmaid in several weddings, you start to feel the symptoms of the ‘single disease.’ After your fifth wedding and seventh baby shower, you start to panic—well at least I did. You start hitting those milestone birthdays and then you enter the ‘dirty thirties’ and for the first time you hear it. That clock starts ticking; tick, tick, tick. For every wedding invite that comes in the mail, for every friend that asks for you to be in their wedding, for every engagement and anniversary party you get invited to, that noise gets louder. Tick, tick, tick. Your friends tell you to be open, so you go from online dating, to speed dating, to blind dating, to giving your mother’s co-worker’s husband’s nephew Daquan a chance, and the outcome is still the same. Nothing works, you’re still single and the disease is spreading. You ask God, Why? What’s the hold up? Why hasn’t He sent ‘the one’? You’ve read all the books and prayed all the nights—and still crickets. What’s the cure for this single’s disease? How do you get rid of these symptoms of lonely nights and yearning for that husband, 2.5 kids, and a white picket fence? Whatever your fairytale is, there is a cure to your single disease.
You cure the single disease by realizing, it’s not a disease. We are not sick or dead, we just happen to be single for a season. Our season may be a little longer than some, but this too shall pass. We’re not dead, we don’t have a disease. Being single is just one thing that describes you. It doesn’t define you as a person. I don’t care if you’re 25, 35, or 45, if you’re still single just take a deep breath and relax. You’re not cursed or being punished, it’s as simple as, it is not your time for whatever reason or reasons. Embracing this season doesn’t mean convincing yourself that being single is the best life to have and denying the desires of your heart. Embracing your season of singleness is acknowledging that yes you want a relationship, but in the meantime, you will continue working on being the best version of yourself. It’s about finding happiness and peace in your now. Embracing your season means healing old wounds, forgiving yourself for past mistakes and stepping into your purpose. It’s having faith and not