Extra Ordinary Woman: True Story

By Ditto M. Bweendo

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris UK
• Release date: Aug 31, 2010
• ISBN: 9781453564493

Ditto M. Bweendo

Ditto M. Bweendo was on 12 May 1952. 28 years of marriage to the late Ednah N. Bweendo and 9 years of knowing each other at schools and colleges before marriage, it is something that Ditto can brag about. Any two people that have known each other that long show signs. They became the lovebirds, it was so nice while it lasted, only Ditto did not know when the end would come. This is one of his special books that took him years to complete in memory of his ExtraOrdinary Woman (True Story). You have not made a mistake by picking this book. Read it and pass it on, share the pain and the joy.

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Copyright © 2010 by Ditto M. Bweendo.

Library of Congress Control Number:   2010912590

ISBN:   Hardcover   978-1-4535-6448-6

ISBN:   Softcover   978-1-4535-6447-9

ISBN:   Ebook   978-1-4535-6449-3

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Contents

Chapter 1 Introduction

Chapter 2 Her school days

Chapter 3 Her Friends

Chapter 4 Dating

Chapter 5 30 April 1977 and what followed

Chapter 6 Venturing into another country

Chapter 7 Prayerful Ednah

Chapter 8 Wittiness of Jesus Christ

Chapter 9 Her Children

Chapter 10 Together forever—but death

Chapter 11 Network of Young Friends

Chapter 12 Home Going and The Preaching of the Word

Chapter 13 Last word

Foreword

I need to point out from the onset that I am humbled by the fact that you have asked me to look through your work and make editorial comments. I count this a great privilege indeed. I have gone through the work and can only report to you that it is well written, particularly, looking at the nature of the book.

I must commend you, Mr. Bweendo of passionately loving your wife, the late Mrs. Ednah Nosiku Bweendo, the way you did. Every page of the book depicts the kind of love you had for your wife. Now may I encourage you to see to it that the manuscript is published.

From me and my family we say, We are looking forward to reading the biography of the late Mrs Ednah Nosiku Bweendo, The ExtraOrdianry Woman.

May God bless you and your family.

Rev. Kresi K. Mbae

Assemblies of God

25/06/08

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I have thoroughly gone through the book; it is a well prepared piece of work, encouraging. It makes one look back their life and want to continue pleasing the Lord. Good work Mr. Bweendo.

Thank you, for allowing me to be a part of such a great work about this Extraordinary Woman.

She was indeed extraordinary.

Thank you,

Pastor Benson Mooketsi & Family

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I first came to know Ednah on 14 January 2004 in Maun when my wife and I visited Botswana—Maun during our holiday. One thing that struck my spirit about her was her cheerful warm characteristic to strangers. It was, exactly, like Bible time people who entertained strangers. She was so cheerful as though she had known us for some time. Three days later she organized a delicious dinner for us, though we were not their visitors. In the book of Hebrews 13:2, we read, "Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares."

At that very time we noticed that she was a woman of influence like the woman of Shunem. 2Ki 4:8-11. And it fell on a day, that Elisha passed to Shunem, where was a great woman; and she constrained him to eat bread. And so it was, that as oft as he passed by, he turned in thither to eat bread. 9. And she said unto her husband, Behold now, I perceive that this is an holy man of God, which passeth by us continually. 10. Let us make a little chamber, I pray thee, on the wall; and let us set for him there a bed, and a table, and a stool, and a candlestick: and it shall be, when he cometh to us, that he shall turn in thither. 11. And it fell on a day, that he came thither, and he turned into the chamber, and lay there.

She never stopped hosting us each time we went to Maun.

I recommend this book to every one, it will, surely inspire you.

Apostle Lazarus Malala

Senior Pastor Great Grace Tabernancle

Acknowledgments

There are many people who invested in the development of this project who must be acknowledged. This project took a long time to complete. Without them I would not have been able to meet the requirements of putting the right stuff and finishing it.

My gratitude to my girls and the boys, Samantha, Sangsta, Sally, Obiajulu and Phillip. These kids shared with me a lot—many a time our kids know us better than we know ourselves, they knew their mom and they were always joyous in her presence. Kids! I love you so much.

I want to say thank you to my friends and relatives—my elder sister, Bina Brendah, ‘gal, we have tested a similar situation’. She read the earliest manuscript and threw in some suggestions. Oh! that girl! My father, who said these words during our wedding, I thank God who has given me the forth daughter. During the burial, he said these words, God has called my forth daughter. It was beautiful to have known her. I will always remember her; she gave me 5 well behaved grandchildren. Barnabas Shana and his wife are friends indeed, Barnabas a village mate. When my wife passed on, his wife gave birth to a handsome boy. Barnabas said these words, If it was a girl, I was going to name her after the late. Where I come from this is normal. It is interesting to know that Barnabas had just come back from Zambia burying his sister. Now there he was going back with me to Zambia for the burial of my late wife in the same village. Such are friends you can not forget. He took time to read the manuscript and made some handsome suggestions. I thank Mr. and Mrs. Malambo for their input in this book. I thank Mrs. Chalebgwa and Mrs. Bolane, they read the manuscript and made suggestions. My friend and mentor, Dr. Joseph Mbaiwa, he read and made a lot of suggestions which I followed. His advice I can not forget—he is a friend and a mentor to me. Ms. Jackie Tolbert, after she read the manuscript told me she was ready to invest a ‘small’ amount to see to it that the book was published. She is still a family friend. Mr. P. Ntau, for the photos and a short video.

They are many who made this book come to life, others are contributors to a few lines inside. All of you, I appreciate. If you did not contribute to the writing of this wonderful book, you would not make a mistake by purchasing one or two copies. God bless you and yours.

Finally, I would like to say thank you; Lord, my God, for making us meet in 1968 November 3.

Chapter 1

Introduction

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No man would be going looking for something other than a woman of his dream. I am no exception. When I came to myself, I went about looking for a woman and thank God, He led me to this woman. The woman of my dream is described in the book of Proverbs 31:18-28; and Ecclesiastes Chap. 9:10. The reader must know that the woman of my dream came into being inside of me long before I gave my life to Christ. I believe my mother played a significant part in this direction in my life. I admired the way she treated my father. Bina Blue, she used to be called. She was a great woman. In this book I am not talking about her. However, she caused me to look for someone like her. And God is faithful and brought this woman into my life. First, when it happened, it was like boys and girls, you know the usual I love you and bang, it happens. You see, my mother respected my father. Now I know why Sarah had to refer to Abraham as ‘my lord’. It was respect. She loved dad, big time. She was submissive to him, I am not talking about the submission that you see around because the pastor has said so, and then at home it is not there at all. She learnt how to respect and love and treat her husband from the old school. There are so many things I can say about my mother, but like I said, this book is not about mom, but about the woman who became my queen, my biscuit, my honey, my tomato, my wife, my friend and hence, The Extra Ordinary Woman.

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband; but she that makes ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. This means that he that is blessed with a good wife is as happy as if he were upon the throne, for she is no less than a crown to him. A virtuous woman, that is pious and prudent, ingenious and industrious, that is active for the good of her family and looks well to the ways of her household, that makes conscience of her duty in every relation, a woman of spirit, that can bear crosses without disturbance, such a one owns her husband for her head, and therefore she is a crown to him, not only a credit and honour to him, as a crown is an ornament, but supports and keeps up his authority in his family, as a crown is an ensign of power. She is submissive and faithful to him and by her example teaches his children and servants to be so too. This is the kind of woman I wanted to have for a wife. Ednah was that kind of woman. She was not an anyhow woman. She did not treat me like she was my elder sister, because I already had one—Bina Brendah. She did not treat me like she was my mother, I already had one. What am I saying? I am gracefully saying she was not controlling; rebellious; stubborn; and manipulative. I am not saying mom was manipulative person, but she used to control me like any other mother would do to her children, no to the contrary. Bina Brendah (my elder sister) was not manipulative to me either, so was Ednah. She was not. We were trusted friends.

She is not regardless either of her own person, proper appearance of her presses and wardrobe. She has coverings; she has also tapestry, carpeting, or quilted work for her beds; and her own clothing is linen cloth, and purple. This is the kind of woman I wanted to be for a wife. My wife was keen in her dressings, she was sensitive of fashions, my wife dressed well and was envy of both young and older women and I was always proud to be with her. She was not an ‘anyhow woman’. An anyhow woman is that one who does things against her husband’s will. She wears whatever she wants; she goes to where she likes to go and she says things in opposition always. An anyhow woman never attracts her husband. Even if she changes her hair style, her husband never notices; even if she wears a new dress, the man of the house never notices because she only calls her hubby as hubby, but her heart is not there at all. Ednah was never an anyhow woman. She never wanted to offend me. In dress, we were in tune to each other.

She is a loving wife, and feels for the respectability and honour of her husband. He is an elder among his people, and he sits as a magistrate in the gate. He is respected not only on account of the neatness and cleanliness of his person and dress, but because he is the husband of a woman who is justly held in universal esteem. And her complete management of household affairs gives him full leisure to devote himself to the civil interests of the community. This is the kind of woman I wanted to be for a wife.

Now to the moral management of her family. She is wise and intelligent; she has not neglected the cultivation of her mind. She is amiable in her carriage, full of good nature, well tempered, and conciliating in her manners and address.

In her tongue is the law of kindness. This is the most distinguishing excellence of the woman. There are very few of those who are called managing women who are not lords over their husbands, tyrants over their servants, and insolent among their neighbours. But this woman, with all her eminence and excellence, is of a meek and quiet spirit. Blessed woman! This is the kind of woman I wanted to have for a wife. My wife managed her morals well. She was never a lord over me. She was not the other woman described in Proverbs 19:13. The contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. The man who has got such a wife is like a tenant who has got a cottage with a bad roof, through every part of which the rain either drops or pours. He can neither sit, stand, work, nor sleep, without being exposed to these droppings. With this kind of woman, a man is disabled—he can not perform. God never made Eve to be lord over Adam. That is to say neither was Adam lord over Eve, but Adam was the head of the family. You do not have to be poor to help the poor, but rather, maintain your wealth to support those who may not be like you. In the same vein, man is not supposed to be lorded over by his wife, but the woman to submit to her husband. Man should maintain his status to continue being who is in the eyes of God. There are so many men these days with contentious women. I repeat, I call them anyhow women. Always contending with their husbands. God help the