Motherhood and Other Natural Disasters
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Jan Blackburn grew up watching Harriet Nelson, June Cleaver, and Marion Cunningham. These women, who joyfully cleaned their houses in pantyhose and heels, embodied the characteristics of the wife and mother Jan believed she would become one day. Unfortunately, somewhere along the line, Jan thinks she may have been misinformed. Unlike her television heroines of the fifties, she is perpetually late, constantly dieting, and always busy; she cannot remember the last time she enjoyed a bubble bath. Luckily, she is not alone. Apparently millions of parents never received a complimentary instruction manual with their little bundles of joy either.
Covering a span of more than twenty years, Jan offers a humorous and sometimes poignant look at the joys and sorrows of parenting while comparing a simpler time with the realities of todays world. As she reveals her secret battles with culinary mishaps, dieting, and parenting her children through changing times, Jan helps women realize that we are all in this together, even as Mom-isms, school fundraisers, and guts that leave an eighteen-hour girdle quaking in its Spandex begin to take over our lives.
Motherhood and Other Natural Disasters shares one womans journey through the mythical, magical mystery of motherhood, proving that none of us are alone as we navigate through the roller coaster ride called parenting.
Jan Blackburn
Jan Blackburn lives in Indiana with her husband and two cats. She is a nurse and columnist for a local newspaper. With her children now grown, she is finally realizing her lifelong dream of writing stories and sharing them with others.
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Motherhood and Other Natural Disasters - Jan Blackburn
MOTHERHOOD
and Other Natural Disasters
SKU-000596293_TEXT.pdfCopyright © 2013 Jan Blackburn.
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ISBN: 978-1-4624-0476-6 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4624-0475-9 (e)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2012923759
Inspiring Voices rev. date: 01/23/2013
Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1 Looking for Harriet Nelson
Chapter 2 Super-Woman Syndrome,
aka Every Woman Is a Working Woman
Chapter 3 Give Me Liberty or Give Me Children— Uh, I Mean Death!
Chapter 4 Maternal Lies I Have Known and Loved
Chapter 5 That Elusive Quality Time
Chapter 6 The Way to a Man’s Heart
Chapter 7 Vacationing with Children— A Contradiction in Terms!
Chapter 8 The Ultimate Reason That Dogs Are Man’s Best Friend
Chapter 9 All Stressed Up and Nowhere to Go
Chapter 10 I Can’t Believe I Said That!
The Day I Fell into the Generation Gap
Chapter 11 Anger and Other Maternal Instincts
Chapter 12 Hormonal Hurricanes
Chapter 13 Moving toward the American Dream
Chapter 14 The Sower of Seeds
Chapter 15 Dorothy—The Eulogy I Never Gave
Chapter 16 Remodeling Is a Four-Letter Word
Chapter 17 It’s a Woman Thing
Chapter 18 If Every Day Were Mother’s Day
Chapter 19 Men—You Can’t Live with ‘Em And You Can’t Shoot ‘Em
Chapter 20 The Greatest Kid Stories Ever Told
Chapter 21 From Diamonds to Divorce
Chapter 22 Time Marches On
Chapter 23 Delving through the Dust
Acknowledgments
Introduction
When I was a young girl I used to enjoy writing short stories; at the time I called them novels. Behind me lived a girl my age that actually enjoyed reading my musings. No matter how atrocious the stories, she always pronounced them wonderful
One year as adults we met at the funeral of a mutual friend. After exchanging the usual pleasantries, she looked me square in the eye and said, I’m so disappointed in your life!
I was taken somewhat aback by her blatant honesty, but after considering her comment for a second, I replied, Yeah, me too. Which part of my life are you disappointed in?
I always thought that you would grow up to be a great writer,
she told me. I looked forward to buying your books.
So did I,
was my comment and after thinking about it for a long time I realized finally what I wanted to be when I grew up. But at forty years of age I wondered if it was too late to start over. When I pulled the manuscript out again in my fifties the same questions still laid in my heart and mind. But at some point you have to stop dreaming about what you wish you could do and actually make an effort to do it.
So here’s my first effort. Since it took 20+ years to write it I may not live long enough for a second book so you’d better enjoy this one!
Special thanks to my kids Nick and Jake and for their friends for giving me such rich material to write about. They once threatened to sue me for defamation of character should I ever publish this book; I hope they have forgotten that threat and will instead enjoy reliving their childhoods through my eyes. Extra special thanks to both my first husband Jeff and my current husband Mike for sharing the priceless experience of parenting and for just generally putting up with me through all the stages of life and love.
Thanks to Julie Wells who patiently listened to the finished product after I wrote each chapter, who laughed and cried with me and who added so many stories to the mix… "Bet I can top that!"
Special thanks to Diane Guntrip, Tammy Stevenson, and Jana Plummer for helping me look for the original cartoon that was to be the cover of the book. It turned into the search for the Holy Grail and ended as a 20+ year old needle in a haystack
that refused to be found. Special appreciation and thanks to the library staff at the Hicks Undergraduate Library at Purdue University in West Lafayette for going above and beyond in trying to assist me in my search for this same cartoon.
Extra special thanks to my best friend Sue Davidson who drew the wonderful cartoon that became the cover. It’s actually even better because it almost looks like me, and depicts my two sons and the two dogs that helped herd my children. Thanks also to Heather Steele who helped with digitally colorizing the image for the cover.
I also pray God’s richest blessings to the entire staff of Inspiring Voices for their invaluable advice, patience, endurance and support in guiding me through this first publishing experience.
Lastly and most importantly, I couldn’t have written this book without the stories of parents who shared their experiences as well. Thanks to all for allowing me share your stories as well as my own.
My children grew a lot during the writing of this book-hopefully so did I.
Chapter 1
Looking for Harriet Nelson
I find myself watching reruns of the 1960s television series Ozzie and Harriet with a sense of longing. What interests me the most are the sequences where Harriet and her neighbor sit at the kitchen table enjoying fresh cookies from the oven while drinking coffee. They obviously enjoy a close friendship and have time to share the details of their lives. Their families are the center of their existence, and they truly seem to enjoy life just that way.
Harriet Nelson, June Cleaver, and, later, Marion Cunningham were our television heroines, embodying the characteristics of the wife and mother I believed I would someday be. Somewhere along the line I was misinformed. Instead of joining the time-honored profession of motherhood full-time, I find I am squeezing it in between housework, personal interests, and a part-time career. Sharing intimate details of my life is no longer done with friends on a face-to-face basis. Rather, it is something done over the telephone, on e-mail, or on Facebook, usually while I am doing the dishes or laundry. In reading a book on parenting, I found an anonymous quote that aptly describes the parenting experience: Parenting is something that happens while you are busy doing something else.
You never once saw Harriet Nelson come tearing out of the house, her clothes half-buttoned, her hair mussed, without make-up, and hollering, Come on, kids, we’re late!
Harriet Nelson was always on time. I, however, am a different story. Once upon a time, I too was punctual, sometimes even arriving at my destination a few minutes early. That was BC,
Before Children. Now I am either barely on time or notoriously late. If church starts at ten o’clock a.m., I can be counted on to slide down the aisle and skid into the pew with less than thirty seconds until showtime. In fact, for awhile the congregation mistook me for a deacon, because I always seemed to follow the pastor down the aisle!
Once I wore that fine makeup sold only in department stores.
Now, if I have time to put on makeup at all, I find myself digging out the last drops with a Q-Tip, making Mr. Scrooge look like a philanthropist. Once I thought that buying clothes from K-Mart was as contemptible as buying them from a rummage sale. Now I find either alternative acceptable; I’m simply glad to have something new to wear, regardless of where it came from!
I find myself alternately amused and disgusted by the television commercials in which young models complain about those tiny lines around their eyes. They recommend using their miracle anti-age cream, with an unspoken promise: You, too, can look as good as me while you are complaining.
Well, perhaps all she needs is Oil of Olay, but I am pretty sure the only thing that will fill in these cracks is plaster of paris, or perhaps surgery.
Thanks to my two lovely children, my once thin, lithe body has been replaced by a physique that any Sumo wrestler would be proud of. It would seem that my prenatal cravings did not stop with the cutting of the umbilical cord. Instead, the cravings have become more defined; I don’t eat as much—just more often. Instead of inhaling the whole pizza, I find I can now restrain myself to five or six pieces!
Prior to children, the word diet was a foreign language, and overweight was a disease process that happened only to others. The concept of dieting has now become a permanent shadow, lurking around corners and staring accusingly at me just as I am about to dive into that heavenly turtle cheesecake. I can almost hear my conscience speak to me, in a voice that sounds just like a Jewish mother’s: "Well, that will cost you a thousand sit-ups or
Why don’t you just rub it into your hips? That’s where it will go anyway!" I am beginning to understand how Pinocchio must have felt with Jiminy Cricket as his conscience, always trying to keep him out of trouble. I find myself wanting to bind and gag that still small voice that reminds me that Goodyear called this morning to see if they could use my body for blimp advertisements.
Surgery is definitely an option, but by the time they lift my face, augment my breasts, and suck the fat out of my hips, thighs, and belly,