The Anger Book
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THE ANGER BOOK provides a broad overview of the many facets of anger by combining commentary, quotes, and illustrations, and it concludes with a section on tips and techniques for dealing with your own anger and a questionnaire to help you decide what to do. It covers these main topics:
- the pervasiveness and destructiveness of anger
- controlling anger and making choices
- letting go, expressing your anger, and forgiveness
- promoting change
- anger and fear, denial, love, and betrayal
- when anger becomes fun
- what to do when you or someone else is angry
Gini Graham Scott Ph.D.
Gini Graham Scott has published over 50 books with mainstream publishers, focusing on social trends, work and business relationships, and personal and professional development. Some of these books include Scammed (Allworth Press, 2017), Lies and Liars: How and Why Sociopaths Lie and How to Detect and Deal with Them (Skyhorse Publishing 2016), Internet Book Piracy (Allworth Press 2016), The New Middle Ages (Nortia Press 2014), and The Very Next New Thing (ABC-Clio 2010). She published a series of books on homicide: Homicide by the Rich and Famous (Praeger Publishing 2005; Berkley Books paperback 2006), American Murder (ABC-Clio, 2007), and Homicide: A Hundred Years of Murder in America (Roxbury 1998). Scott has gained extensive media interest for previous books, including appearances on Good Morning America, Oprah, Montel Williams, CNN, and hundreds of radio interviews. She has frequently been quoted by the media and has set up websites to promote her most recent books, featured at www.ginigrahamscott.com and www.changemakerspublishing.com.
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The Anger Book - Gini Graham Scott Ph.D.
THE PERVASIVENESS OF ANGER
Anger is everywhere, since it is a survival mechanism that helps us be assertive in threatening situations or at times when we need to overcome a challenge to gain an advantage. It helps us fight if necessary. At times, anger can be a response to a perceived problem—from anger at oneself for an error or flaw to anger against other individuals or society as a whole.
But at other times, anger can lead to great suffering, as well as the angry person being negatively viewed by others. Often a person who is angry will find still more reason to be angry, because of these feelings of suffering or being rejected by others. And commonly responding with anger can become a habit, so one is even more likely for those angry feelings to grow.
In short, anger is pervasive, and sometimes it can be used for the good, but at other times, it leads to negative consequences.
The following quotes describe how this anger can turn into a common response to everything or gain disapproval from others.
Show me an angry man, and I’ll show you someone who gets things done.
Anonymous
Anger is like food for the soul. It helps one survive and thrive, since anger teaches us to fight when necessary, just as flight can help us get away when it makes no sense to fight.
Anonymous
He that will be angry for anything will be angry for nothing.
Sallust, Roman historian and politician, 86-35 BC
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Everybody in America is angry about something.
Anthony Braxton, American composer and instrumentalist
One effect of an individualistic culture that’s poor at instilling mutual respect is that people jump more quickly to anger or violence.
Geoff Mulgan, CEO of the National Endowment for Science, Technology, and the Arts (NESTA)
I am awfully greedy; I want everything from life...It is difficult to get all which I want. And then when I do not succeed I get mad with anger.
Simone de Beauvoir, French novelist, political activist, and social theorists. Author of The Second Sex. 1908-1986.
THE DESTRUCTIVENESS OF ANGER
Often anger is viewed as a destructive force, whereby if you feel angry and express your anger, this will come back to harm you. In effect, you will experience a backfire effect. As much as you might feel a satisfied release in letting the anger out by attacking someone to get revenge or justice, in the end, that expression will be punished. You will poison yourself, like you have drunk or eaten some toxic substance. It’s like the law of attraction or karma coming back to even the score. So you have to face the consequences of your anger, because if you say or do something in the heat of anger, you may regret it later.
Another reason to avoid erupting in anger is that this belittles you. It makes you seem a lesser person to others, because you can’t control your anger. In fact, from a spiritual perspective, becoming angry diminishes you and your very soul, whereas showing warmth, kindness, and friendliness, all opposites of anger, makes you become bigger, like a brighter star in the sky.
Anger can harm others, too, as well as yourself.
So the message here is don’t just give in to your uncontrollable anger. Find a way to channel or manage it constructively. Otherwise your anger will come back to bite you, like an angry dog or cat you kick on the street.
The following quotes express this theme.
The Consequences of Anger
Anger is a brief madness.
Horace, Roman poet, 65-8 BC.
Anger does not solve anything; it builds nothing.
Thomas S. Monson, American religious leader, author, and president of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints
You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.
Guatama Buddha, Indian sage, 564/480-483/400 BC
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Anger is as a stone cast into a wasp’s nest.
Pope Paul VI, Bishop of Rome, leader of the worldwide Catholic Church from 1963-1978.
Expressing anger is a form of public littering.
Dr. Willard Gaylin, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Columbi College of Physicians and