When You Are Not a Priority You Are an Option: Dating, Relationships and Marriage

By Kevin Kirksey

Dating

Relationships

Marriage

Hurt

Pain

Disappointments

Failures

Bitterness

Selfishness

Will touch your heart

Will make you laugh

Will make you think

Will encourage you

Will touch you spiritually

Has some poetic style

Keeps it real

Is soulful and has some ghetto conversation

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Oct 18, 2010
• ISBN: 9781452086552

Kevin Kirksey

I am an author/poet, writing with passion and from my heart. My relationship with God is the key. I have had my ups and downs like any woman or man in companionship. Music has given me passion and great inspiration. My words come deep from within my soul that lips can't explain.

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INTRODUCTION

Love

Dating

Relationships

Marriage

Hurt

Pain

Disappointments

Failures

Bitterness

Selfishness

Will touch your heart

Will make you laugh

Will make you think

Will encourage you

Will keep your attention

Will touch you spiritually

Has some poetic style

Keeps it real

Is soulful and has some ghetto conversation

If you are dating, in a boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship, engaged or married, this is definitely the book you need to read.

I dedicate this book to my Son, Mom, Dad & Sisters. You have been there through thick and then and never gave up on me. You believed in me and my work (vision).

I thank GOD for you all forever and always.

First, I give God the praise and glory. If it was not for the Lord our side, where would we be?

Thank you for stirring up this dialogue between men and women to give us the solution that has been around for hundreds of years.

Many of us have abandoned our values and standards disallowing a God sent mate to come into our lives. Instead we settle for Mr. or Ms. Right now. Too many of us base getting into a relationship on sex, having fun and what they do for you. A person’s

heart will tell you the real truth.

Many of us have cried over failed relationships, engagements or marriages that did not work out. You should take responsibility of what went wrong. Some never heal over time because they keep holding on to what happened yesterday. Close that chapter and move on. Do not waist precious time when someone does not want you.

We all have imperfections and faults. If you think there is a perfect man or woman; you are in for a rude awakening.

No relationship is without struggles, trials and tribulations. Some won’t be able to handle it and walk away. They have limited patience and endurance to work out adversity and conflict.

Can past failed relationships impose a problem in future ones? Yes

If you carry hurt and trust issues into them.

There are those of us who play games and are users, making it hard for those who desire a serious relationship.

Some may tell you, I don’t have to be with you but I still love you. One may say, I still love you and always will. One may tell you, I am not in love with you anymore, step back, accept it and move on. Some bitter pills of love are hard to swallow, the sooner you do, the better off you are.

Some of us are selfish and only think of ourselves most of the time, actions speak louder than words. You can’t buy God sent love, never can and will. Some folks will take you for a ride, taking your kindness for weakness if you let them.

Life does not present any freebies. If you are not willing to deal with the hand that has been dealt, find another dealer.

When you tell yourself I am never going to get married, remember there is death and life in the power.

If your heart conceives it, then it shall be. Speak a word to yourself and believe that God will answer your prayers, no matter how long you have to wait.

When we choose a mate, things always fall apart. If you don’t believe it look at your relationship track record.

We know it is hard and frustrating sometimes to be patient waiting on the right one. Those that wait upon the Lord will renew their strength and mount upon wings and fly like eagles. God will never forsake you. We need to shake loose past relationship issues that maybe keeping us shackled and bound from moving forward. Are you prepared to receive the right man or woman God has for you? We organize ourselves for a car, house, property, but rarely for a God sent mate. Many of us don’t have a good foundation for a successful and healthy relationship.

Some women are impressed by a man’s physique, status quo, looks and what kind of car he drives. Some men are attracted to a woman’s beauty and physical assets. Looks can be deceiving.

Things were good in the beginning, they could do no wrong and communication was great. How do you react when communication breaks down and attitudes change? Remember how good they smelled and looked when you both first met; putting on your best show. They were full of compliments and sweet words. Is that really who they are? Some put on a front thinking you will not see through them.

When was the last time you cut the TV and phone off setting the mood between you and your mate, setting the ambiance taking the flow even higher.

No relationship is perfect. You can never judge a book by its cover. It’s not the packaging that counts, but the contents.

Sometimes the pages get stuck together and you end up missing the best part of the story. Take your time and read their book page by page.

All dating/ relationship advice is not good from family and friends. Who do you know that has a strong spiritual, healthy and successful relationship or marriage?

It takes time to learn each other, along with what pleases and ticks the other off. Rome was not built in a day. Can you accept them for who they really are?

The honeymoon phase last only for a while and then the dust settles in. Now, you really get to know them for who they are.

Some couples have communication problems at a point in time. They may argue and get on each other’s last nerves. It boils down to can you tolerate that person’s imperfections and issues. Many are afraid to tell you the truth and have that dreaded conversation. It is like having bad morning breath and they won’t tell to you to go and brush your teeth. When do you find out? When the pooh-pooh hits the fan.

Anything worth having will not come easy. Don’t keep lingering on about the past, press onward and upward toward the mark towards a brand new start. If you keep looking at yesterday; you will be blinded not seeing the blessing at your feet.

When you build your love on the right foundation of God’s word it will last forever. Why? Our heavenly father has let us know, his word never comes back void.

Weeding through the bucket of crabs and bad apples is a trip. The things we have to go through to receive that diamond in the ruff. It is worth it in the end. Once we learn and grow wise, doing what God has instructed us to do, and then we will see the benefits of his will in a help mate.

If you do things your way, zip your lips and take your medicine like an adult. Learn and grow wise from foolish choices.

Giving should be a two way street, don’t be stuck on stupid or a be a fool. Depositing love is powerful, but will drain you when no emotional deposits are being placed in your love bank account.

How do you think God feels when you get engaged and it never works out?

How do you think God’s feels when you get divorced?

How do you think God feels when you keep having pre-martial sex disobeying his word and covenant?

God gives us the blue print, but many of us ignore the red flags and get into a train wreck. Then we have the nerves to go crying to our family, friends and God.

We have to decide if we want to take the risk. Many of us are not ready for a commitment we say one thing and mean another. Read the section of the newspaper that tells how many divorces that have been recorded each month.

WHEN YOU ARE NOT A PRIORITY YOU ARE AN OPTION

LADIES below are some questions for you if you are involved with a man:

1. Are you willing to fall in love with man that deserves it?

2. Are willing to love a man with your heart without fear?

3. Are you willing to love THE ONE’S dirty drawers?

4. Is he leading your relationship in the right positive ways?

5. Do you grow spiritually with the word of God more than anything with that man?

Note: If your answers are no to most of the above questions, then you don’t have much.

What is it called? Soon to be ex if nothing transforms

Fellows below are some questions for you if you are involved with a woman:

1. Are you willing to fall in love with a woman that deserves that?

2. Are willing to love a woman with your heart without fear?

3. Are you willing to love that woman’s dirty panties?

4. Is that woman an asset or liability in your life?

5. Do you grow spiritually with the word of God more than anything with that woman?

Note: If your answers are no to most of the above questions, then you don’t have much.

What is it called? Soon to be ex if nothing transforms

Contents

When You Are Not a Priority You Are an Option

Love

Players

I Am Just a Man

In The Bedroom

I am more than a woman

DIRTY DRAWERS

Hurt and Pain

We All Need a Prayer Warrior

Dating and Stuck On Stupid

Chivalry Handbook

Move On

TITLE: A MAN AFTER A WOMAN’S HEART

A woman

She is one that is to be loved and so much more

A man’s heart will tell you everything and not his lines like everybody else

The heart is pure because he will open up unlike others being sensitive but yet strong leading the way with God as his guide

He is not embarrassed to cry in front of you because he is human and not weak

Even Jesus weep for mankind

He isn’t afraid to fall in love with you because deep in his heart he knows you are THE ONE and not just a booty call or making casual deposits within you

He has loved other women but you are the last woman he wants to be in love with

Your heart is what he wants, why? he understands you can love anyone, love only goes to far and will fall short in a matter of time. Being in love is on a different level

He will build with you having his own purpose with God, work (not his job), plan, vision and dreams

He will build a place where you can flourish as the woman of his dreams

He knows your independence is an asset and does not make him insecure