Parenting Tips Guide: How to Deal With Kids (Parenting Books, Parenting Skills, Parenting Kids, Raising Kids)

By Isabel Jones

Raising children isn’t an easy job. It requires sacrifice, toughness, a whole lot of love, tenderness, affection and attention (though this is the easy part), all so that these little bundles of joy would grow up to be people you’ll be proud to call family. Luckily, this is not that difficult to do, all it takes is a little effort and a push in the right direction.

Before anything can be said about how to teach emotional intelligence, it is important to understand that it is the position of this book and its author that what is referred to here as emotional intelligence is a complex interaction between in-born skills, instruction and experience. It is possible to teach the skills and attitudes that comprise emotional intelligence, through the process of social-emotional learning, and every person’s natural personality traits, skills and preferences will have a dramatic effect on that learning. This means that the best thing any parent can have when reading this book is an intimate understanding of both themselves and their child along with an understanding that those personal qualities will have a huge impact on the learning process. Methods that work very well for one child may fail completely with another. Even children that live in the same household will learn and develop differently. At the end of the day, remember that it is not only possible to raise your child’s emotional intelligence through instruction but also vital to their livelihood.

• Language: English
• Publisher: justhappyforever.com
• Release date: Nov 28, 2017
• ISBN: 9781386744535

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Introduction

Raising children isn’t an easy job. It requires sacrifice, toughness, a whole lot of love, tenderness, affection and attention (though this is the easy part), all so that these little bundles of joy would grow up to be people you’ll be proud to call family. Luckily, this is not that difficult to do, all it takes is a little effort and a push in the right direction.

Before anything can be said about how to teach emotional intelligence, it is important to understand that it is the position of this book and its author that what is referred to here as emotional intelligence is a complex interaction between in-born skills, instruction and experience. It is possible to teach the skills and attitudes that comprise emotional intelligence, through the process of social-emotional learning, and every person’s natural personality traits, skills and preferences will have a dramatic effect on that learning. This means that the best thing any parent can have when reading this book is an intimate understanding of both themselves and their child along with an understanding that those personal qualities will have a huge impact on the learning process. Methods that work very well for one child may fail completely with another. Even children that live in the same household will learn and develop differently. At the end of the day, remember that it is not only possible to raise your child’s emotional intelligence through instruction but also vital to their livelihood

Chapter 1: The Art of Parenting

The real role of parents

There’s probably nothing that can really, fully and completely prepare us for the role of parents. We all think we’re ready (while we boost our confidence secretly, in the bathroom mirror: You can do this, you can do this.) to welcome those little bundles of joy into the world and offer all our knowledge, our wisdom, attention, affection and unconditional love, only to find out that this is the case in about 50% of cases. The other 50% is us doing the best we can under given conditions, learning to both give and take, learning from our own mistakes (at the same time, trying to teach our kids to do the same), and basically hoping that our kids will end up being compassionate and loving people, who add value to our society.

All of these are essential in knowing your child inside and out, which in turn allows for a more profound connection, where you and your child will learn how to create and nurture a loving relationship, which will eventually end in your little one flying out of the nest, fully prepared for the ways of the world and knowing its true values. Image from Flicker by Hansen

But, how do we get to the point where we make our children valuable members of society? What do we do? Well, it’s a witch’s brew of many things, primarily of a whole bunch of love, forgiveness and understanding, in combination with teaching positivism, sharing, problem solving, the importance and value of making mistakes and learning from them, and finally, knowing when to let go.

Be positive

Positive children become positive adults. And, positive adults can take on any challenge and overcome it more easily than people with a negative disposition. It’s a fact of life. So, taking this into account, it’s no wonder then that being positive no matter what is one of the best traits to instill in your children, from early on.

By teaching them to be positive, you are actively shaping their adult perspective on life and their entire mindset. For this to be done properly, it’s essential that you yourself as a parent are a positive, cheerful person. While you may not always feel this way, remember that when you have kids, there is always something that keeps following you around: a little, awe-filled mirror, who thinks everything you do is magical and out-of-this-worldly. So, make sure that what they mirror off of you is worth it.

Staying positive can be something as simple as smiling frequently throughout the day for no apparent reason, saying a nice hello to that frowny lady who works at the store counter, or as important as knowing when not to dwell on your mistakes, and just moving along, again with a smile on your face, because even though you may not have succeeded in something, you are richer for the experience as well as the lesson.

You can also introduce a little exercise before bedtime: reporting the success