Longing for a Father
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What will become of these children and, eventually, of this world? A father is the first hero in a child´s life. He has the potential to wound but also to heal.
Michael Stahl shares with us his own difficult ‘father story.‘ He takes us to the places where he was wounded, but also to the places where he found healing, when he and his father finally became true friends.
He also tells how he was reconciled with his own son, after neglecting him as a result of the demands of his work. And he describes what he experiences in schools when he helps children and teenagers to be reconciled to each other and with their parents.
The book helps the reader discover the adventurer and hero in himself, and to satisfy the true longings of the heart. It immerses the reader in a world full of love, humility, and forgiveness, and it is a treasure trove for those searching for roots, identity, and truth.
Michael Stahl
Michael Stahl ist Fachlehrer für Selbstverteidigung. Als Gewaltpräventionsberater arbeitet er für TV-Sendungen sowie an Schulen, in Heimen, Gefängnissen, Gemeinden, Firmen usw. Er wurde 2009 mit dem „WERTE AWARD“ und 2015-2023 mit „SOZIAL ENGAGIERT“ ausgezeichnet, ist verheiratet und hat zwei Kinder.
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Longing for a Father - Michael Stahl
Michael Stahl
Longing for a Father
GloryWorld-Medien
© 2015 Michael Stahl
© 2015 GloryWorld-Medien, Xanten, Germany (www.gloryworld.de)
All rights reserved
Scripture quotations are taken from The Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.
Translation from German: Cay Donlin
Editor: Janet Mayer
Layout: Manfred Mayer
Cover artist: Rainer Zilly, www.kreativ-agentur-zilly.de
Photo: istockphoto (Stephanie Phillips)
Printed in Germany
ISBN (epub): 978-3-95578-101-9
ISBN (print): 978-3-95578-901-5
Order No. (print): 356901
Contents
Preface
1 A Day Like Christmas
2 The Dream
3 The Butterfly
4 The First Voice
5 ‘STAHL’ in Good Hands
6 The Answer
7 Stories of Fathers
8 Light in the Darkness
9 The Odyssey
10 The Father’s Love Letter
11 The Darkest Hours
Epilogue
Dedicated to all fathers and sons,
to my father and my children,
and the Father of all fathers.
Preface
This book is about a part of my eventful life. Stories full of pain and grief, but also full of trust and devotion. This is also the story of a father about his father. Written for fathers and sons. In a world where more and more kids are growing up without fathers, or with fathers who do not have much time, it is difficult to talk about the best and most loving Father of all fathers. But I will dare to talk about God as a Father.
It is a love story!
In the First Commandment of the Bible, God introduces himself to us, saying, I am the Lord, your God
(Exodus 20:2). I emphasize the words I AM YOUR
.
That is nothing less than a declaration of love! If you have ever fallen in love, you know what I mean. We often close a love letter with (I AM) YOURS.
This book tells about a loving Father. Whoever discovers this Father for himself, will find his roots, his identity, and the true meaning of life. Join me on my journey and find meaning for your life.
Fathers must never forget that they are also sons—sons of their earthly fathers. If we want our own children to be good and strong, we should ask ourselves, are we also good children to our parents? Are we children who honor our father and mother, love them, and tell them we love them over and over again?
This book is a challenge. Look at the wounds that have been ‘beaten’ into you. There is a time for healing. What is good must prevail in this world again.
For that to happen, however, we have to change ourselves. We should know ourselves well. Who are we? Where do we come from? What is the meaning of life? And where will we go one day? We men always ask ourselves the same questions: Am I a real man? What is it that makes me a man? What about our longings and dreams? Are we good sons and good fathers ourselves?
Questions and more questions, which can only be answered by the one who created us. Longings that can only be fulfilled by the one who put them into our hearts. We often hear of ‘burn out.’ That means there once was a fire burning. The question is, who started the fire in the first place? And how do we keep it burning, or how do we reignite it?
Join me on my journey to my first hero, my own father. Walk along with me for a while through the dark valleys. Come with me to the place where I failed as a father. Hear about the miracles I was allowed to experience, and draw richly from the treasure contained therein for you.
Trust, even if it is hard for you. The fact that you are reading this book is no coincidence. It came into your hands because you are infinitely precious in the eyes of God the Father. I am sure that he wants to tell you something through these stories. Open the ears and eyes of your heart. It could be that even today your whole life will be changed. It is up to you and it is within you. You have the gift to be able to change the world.
Michael Stahl
1 A Day Like Christmas
It was a rainy, late summer morning in the late seventies, my birthday. I was standing dreamily at the window of our little old house and was looking out onto the street.
I felt as if Heaven was crying along with my soul. Birthdays are always something special, just a little like Christmas. Days on which you might think you’d be treated specially. The world around you treats you differently, as if you were more valuable. Things often turn out differently than you’d have thought or wished it would. I wasn’t expecting a cake with candles to blow out, or a festively decorated room. No, just a smile, a gesture, a soft touch or a nice word, especially from the most important man in my life, my father, and hero. Lost in my thoughts, I was staring out of the window. Life out there seemed sad and gloomy to me. What would the day be like?
A party, a very special day, the day of days for millions of children.
Excitement welled up in me. My thoughts circled insecurely till the door of the living room opened and ripped me out of my dreams. There he stood, just a few steps away from me, my father.
His face was firm, striking—void of any emotion. I sensed it was not a special day for him, not a party day, not a reason to celebrate, no feeling of Christmas. Our eyes met. With the confidence of a ‘birthday boy’—a boy who is under special protection because of that day—I went towards him, this big strong man, and dared to ask, Dad, what do I get for my birthday today?
We faced each other, father and son. You could have heard a pin drop. Seconds became an eternity. I could have asked anything, just not that question, on that day, at that time, at that place. Overwhelming and powerful, he stood across from me. I was completely at the mercy of his answer and everything that was now going to happen.
I knew right then that I would not get a present, wrestle with the wrapping paper, or cut a ribbon. I knew that I would get something very different than what I had wished and longed for.
The world seemed to stand still, as if it had stopped breathing, as if the whole universe was waiting spellbound for what was going to happen.
My father looked firmly into my eyes. His face was full of contempt. It appeared to me as if he were taking a breath. But no, that’s not what it was.
He spit right in my face. His saliva ran down my face. In my deepest grief, I heard his voice,
Is that enough? Do you want more of it?
Then he left the room.