Attracting Genuine Love: A Step-by-Step Program to Bring a Loving and Desirable Partner into Your Life
By Gay Hendricks and Kathlyn Hendricks
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Are you ready to find the love of your life? Do you long for a deep, passionate, rewarding relationship?
For nearly 30 years, in their workshops and one-on-one counseling sessions, Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks have helped thousands of singles find lasting, fulfilling love. Now by popular demand, the Hendrickses share their proven, practical methods with a wider audience. Attracting Genuine Love distills their essential principles for finding and keeping love into one immersive, results-oriented program.
Join the Hendrickses and learn how to:
- Identify your Three Absolute Yes's and Three Absolute No's—your must-haves and deal breakers essential for relationship success
- Remove the number-one obstacle that prevents you from having the relationship you want
- Move through the three crucial psychological and emotional shifts necessary to find lifelong love
- Make a soul-level commitment to yourself, the critical step to invite love into your life
- Discover the power of fearless honesty, moment-by-moment communication, and the three other "real rules" to create a conscious relationship
Do you long to share your life with someone special? Let these two trusted voices in the field of conscious relationship show you how with Attracting Genuine Love. Complete with the Hendrickses' five most effective workshop practices.
NOTE: This title is the paperback and electronic version of Attracting Genuine Love.
Gay Hendricks
Gay Hendricks is the author and coauthor of more than twenty books that deal with personal growth, including the New York Times bestseller Five Wishes and Conscious Living.
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Attracting Genuine Love - Gay Hendricks
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Introduction
For most of us, living without true love is not an option. What that true love looks like is ultimately up to us, but anyone can create a close, loving relationship, no matter what their past history or current situation is, if they understand certain key principles and learn a few skills. In fact, most people in the course of their day-to-day lives meet more than enough potential relationship candidates. The fact that they do not find that genuinely loving relationship indicates that there is another problem. Some blame it on the busy and fragmented lives they lead. Others point the finger at television, sports, and the image-obsessed institutions of society such as fashion and advertising. The wiser ones have grown weary of finger-pointing and know that the real problem resides within.
Whether you are single, divorced, or even currently in an intimate relationship, you are probably tired of making the same relationship mistakes over and over again. Kathlyn and I feel a great deal of empathy for anyone in this situation, because we have been there ourselves. Before we found each other, we had begun to sink into that same kind of despair. We were afraid we would never attract the kind of love we really wanted. Until we discovered the tools and insights you will learn in this book, we would get out of one painful entanglement only to find ourselves bogged down in a similar version of it a few days later.
Fortunately we found a way to make the changes necessary to move from the intense pain of unconscious relationships to twenty-nine years of the most blissful and creative relationship we could have imagined. In this program, we will show you exactly how to make those inner shifts yourself so that you can draw genuine, lasting love into your life. Kathlyn and I use everything you will learn in this book in our own relationship, and although we have been together for a long time now, every year has been richer and better than the one before because of what you will learn here.
What we discovered, in our own lives and through research with thousands of others, is that there are several principles and techniques that people must learn before they can create the kind of relationship that they truly desire. In fact, without realizing it at the time, Kathlyn and I used the very same principles to make important shifts in how we related to ourselves and others that became the foundation on which we created our own relationship. We had to learn those principles the hard way,
by making a lot of relationship mistakes in our twenties and early thirties. Once we figured out these principles and techniques, it only took a month to meet each other. That was more than thirty years ago, and since then we have had the pleasure of teaching these skills to more than twenty thousand people around the world. It has been very satisfying, because almost every day of our lives we get letters and emails from people who have mastered these skills and gone out and created a brand-new conscious relationship—one that satisfies their deepest desires for genuine love.
After all is said and done, it is really genuine love that makes all the difference in the quality of our lives. Without genuine love, human beings feel constant longing. In Attracting Genuine Love, we have created a program that gives very specific answers to the question, How can I attract genuine love into my life?
It is a program that has been carefully refined in working with thousands of people over the past decade. Our program includes eight guided practices on the referred audio link that are the most powerful techniques we have found for creating the kind of real change in your life that will erase even a lifetime of unsatisfying relationships. If you follow these steps, you will discover what has been holding you back from getting the kind of love you really want and need. You will know exactly how to bring genuine love into your life—and how to keep it.
CHAPTER 1
The Power of Commitment
Here is the bottom-line truth about how to begin the process of creating a conscious relationship: nobody has the slightest chance of creating and sustaining a healthy relationship until he or she makes a conscious commitment to it. Up until the moment you consciously commit to attracting and keeping genuine love, your unconscious programming will run your love live (and usually ruin it). And once you make a conscious decision to change your unconscious programming, you have already taken the hardest step to attracting genuine love.
Whether you realize it or not, you are already demonstrating incredible power to create what you want—in fact, your current life is an example of the incredible power you possess to create, consciously or unconsciously. You might not like all that you have created. You might even refuse to accept that you have created your life through your choices and believe instead that it is something that has been done to you.
It is true that you may not have consciously chosen many of the elements of your current life; nevertheless, it is your power that has manifested them. You were able to do this because of the power of commitment. The power of commitment has given you all the things that you now have.
TAKING FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE CIRCUMSTANCES OF YOUR LIFE
In the late 1970s, during an argument with my lover of five years, I suddenly realized that it was not our several-hundredth argument. It was our several-hundredth run-through of the same argument. A light bulb came on and a moment of awareness shined down upon me, and I clearly saw that our arguments always followed the same pattern of misery-producing moves.
I stepped back from the process and wondered, "Why would I engage in a pattern like this? Given all the experiences I could be having as a human being, why do I keep repeating the pattern of lying and being lied to, being criticized and criticizing, blaming and being blamed, thinking of