The First Two Rules of Leadership: Don't be Stupid, Don't be a Jerk
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How can you improve your leadership results beginning right now? The First Two Rules of Leadership: Don't be Stupid, Don't be a Jerk provides a clear path to increased results and higher job satisfaction for the leader and the people he is leading. Written for the leader who wants to do great things, but is overwhelmed with the complexities of leading, it is a book with a very simple message: think your decisions through and take care of your team.
Written by bestselling author David Cottrell, The First Two Rules of Leadership: Don't be Stupid, Don't be a Jerk offers tried-and-true leadership strategies that stand the test of time—all of which you can put into practice today to positive results. The principles discussed apply to businesses in every industry, as well as schools, hospitals, churches, and even homes. By following the two rules outlined in the book's title, you'll improve morale, decrease turnover, increase your own job satisfaction, and have a whole lot more fun leading.
- Lead with confidence and class
- Make better decisions and develop synchronization on your team
- Coach smart, deal with poor performers, and focus on what's really important
- Listen to your team, encourage positive performance, and attack complacency
You can lead your team to achieve extraordinary results! The First Two Rules of Leadership: Don't be Stupid, Don't be a Jerk gives you the expert tips and tricks you need to treat your team with dignity and respect—so you can all enjoy the benefits of winning with class.
David Cottrell
David Cottrell, president and CEO of CornerStone Leadership Institute, is an internationally known leadership consultant, educator, and speaker. His twenty-five-plus years of business experience includes senior management positions with Xerox and FedEx, and his management expertise is reflected in twenty-five highly acclaimed books, including Monday Morning Mentoring and Monday Morning Choices. He has been a featured expert on public television and has presented his leadership message to more than 300,000 managers worldwide. He lives in Horseshoe Bay, Texas, with his wife, Karen.
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The First Two Rules of Leadership - David Cottrell
Contents
Cover
Praise for The First Two Rules of Leadership
Title Page
Copyright
Introduction
Don't be Stupid
Don't Be Stupid—Hire Smart
Smart Hiring
Seeing Their Best
Don't Be Stupid—Coach Smart
Myths of Coaching
Everyone Is Not the Same
Are You Coaching Smart?
Don't Be Stupid—Deal with the Sleeping Stars
Leadership Lesson from the Links
Your Toughest Job
Check Yourself
The Irony
Don't Be Stupid—Synchronize
Why Synchronize?
Simplify
Synchronization Begins with You
Unintended Contradictions
Don't Be Stupid—Concentrate
Taking Control
Establish Order
Identify Your Priorities
Know When to Say No
Attack Procrastination
Managing Your Concentration
Meetings with Meaning
Balancing It All
Don't Be Stupid—Value Integrity
Integrity Breach—Everyone Is Vulnerable
Trustworthy
Guarding Trust
Leading with Integrity
Cornerstones of Integrity
Everything Counts
Confidentiality
Don't be a Jerk
Don't Be a Jerk—Listen Up
Be Present
Be Patient
Be Active
Be Interested
Leadership for Breakfast
Don't Lead Naked
Don't Be a Jerk—Make a Decision
Decisiveness
Contingency Planning
The Last to Know
Dealing with Interpersonal Conflicts
Molehills to Mountains
Find Solutions Quickly
Dealing with Adversity
Don't Be a Jerk—Answer Why
Why Do We Do What We Do?
Sharing Knowledge
The 95/5 Rule
Tumbleweed or Redwood
Don't Be a Jerk—Encourage
Do You Care?
Managing the Climate
Don't Be a Jerk—Attack Complacency
When Mediocrity Sets In
Change Is Good…Your Turn
Moving Through the Exit Door
But, Times Are Good …
Hero or Jerk?
Grand Entrance
Don't Be a Jerk—Lead with Confidence
What Do You See?
Attitude Is Internally Controlled
Look Inside
Something Can Be Done…
There Is Something You Can Do…
Optimistic Confidence
Winning with Class
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Three Ways to Bring The First Two Rules of Leadership into Your Organization
Everyone Nedds to Lead
The First Two Rules of Leadership Package
Other Books by David Cottrell
Index
End User License Agreement
Praise for The First Two Rules of Leadership
Leading this way will result in an engaged, inspired, and highly productive team while also being more fun and fulfilling for the leader.
—Kip Tindell, Co-Founder and Chairman, The Container Store (one of Fortune's top 100 places to work for 14 years in a row)
Simple, practical, and profound rules to help you become a great leader. A must read for any leader.
—Lorraine Grubbs, former Director of Employment, Southwest Airlines
David Cottrell's latest book is a must read for any leader. It simplifies the complexity of leadership into two simple rules. Read, then implement and get ready for sustained leadership success.
—Pat Williams, Senior Vice President of the Orlando Magic; author of The Success Intersection
This book simplifies the complexities of leadership and helps leaders lead with clarity, integrity, and focus.
—Jon Gordon, author of The Energy Bus and The Carpenter
"David Cottrell shares valuable insights on how to be the leader others will strive to emulate. With acumen and sincerity, The First Two Rules of Leadership succinctly lays out a sustained methodology for hiring smart, coaching performance, and leading with poise."
—Kimberly Rath, President, Talent Plus, Inc. (recognized as an Achievers 50 Most Engaged Workplace)
Two simple rules of leadership that will improve your effectiveness as a leader. . . .
—T. Michael Glenn, Executive Vice President, FedEx
This book simplifies the complexities of leadership down to two logical, necessary rules: Make smarter decisions and lead with class.
—Karl Koch, Vice President and General Manager, Enterprise Holdings
How to Achieve Extraordinary Results with Class
The First Two Rules of Leadership
Don't be Stupid
Don't be a Jerk
David Cottrell
Bestselling Author of The Monday Morning Series
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Title: The first two rules of leadership : don't be stupid, don't be a jerk / David Cottrell.
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Identifiers: LCCN 2016023291 (print) | LCCN 2016031883 (ebook) | ISBN 9781119282808 (cloth) | ISBN 9781119282822 (pdf) | ISBN 9781119282952 (epub)
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Introduction
Every day thousands of people quit their jobs. They reach their limit and realize that enough is enough. They bid farewell to friends and co-workers. They exit a familiar, comfortable place and enter an unknown territory—new job, boss, peers, and environment. They are convinced that the unknown has got to be better than the current situation that they know all too well. They believe that anything, anywhere, would be better than where they are.
So, they leave.
During their last day on the job, they have an exit interview with human resources and are asked: Why are you leaving?
They respond that they will be paid more at the new job, the benefits are better, the new job is closer to home, or the hours are better.
In most cases, this is not the whole picture.
If you believe the exit interviews, great people leave good organizations to start over someplace else because of money or for more advancement opportunities. Why would they say anything else? After all, the person leaving doesn't want to burn any bridges and has nothing to gain by telling the whole truth. Instead, they give reasons that are believable, but not accurate. Most exit interviews do not uncover the whole truth.
Occasionally, the difference in money is significant enough to warrant a move, but most of the time it's not about money or career advancement. Money is only one piece of the puzzle, and perhaps a small one at that. Most people want more than just a paycheck—they want to feel good about where they work, who they work with, and what they accomplish together as a team. In one survey, 89 percent of leaders stated that they believed employees leave because of money.¹ Yet in a parallel survey of employees who left organizations, 88 percent of people said they left for reasons not related to money.² Let those statistics sink in…only 12 percent of people left because of money. In another recent study of 17,000 people, less than 10 percent cited compensation and advancement opportunities as the most critical aspects of a job.³
Consider the situation from the perspective of the interviewer: When you interview someone for a position and ask them why they are considering leaving their current job, what do they say? Have you ever heard anyone say, Because you are going to pay me more
? Probably not. The most common response is something like, Because my efforts and contributions aren't appreciated where I'm currently working.
If people on your team are interviewing with other organizations, that is probably the same answer they are giving in their interviews.
People who plan to leave do not want to initiate a confrontation. They just want to walk out the door and not look back. They want to escape from a situation that has become toxic to them. Most have reached a point where they hate coming to work.
Even more problematic is when you have people on your team who are disengaged. They have mentally resigned from their job—and have told everyone but you that they are out of here.
Those employees will do far more damage to your team's performance than anything a competitor could do. They infiltrate your team with disloyalty, distrust, and apathy.
The truth is that most people who quit and leave, or those who quit and stay, made a decision to quit their leader. Their resignation or disengagement has little to do with pay, benefits, distance from home, or long hours. They quit because something between them and their leader has gone awry. The desire and ability to do a good job became overshadowed by the obstacles and frustrations faced every day. Ironically, most of those frustrations were created by the very person who, on the first day at their new job, enthusiastically greeted them,