The Grief Chronicles: With You in My Eyes Like Flaming Flowers: A Survivors Guide to Death by Overdose
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This is the story of my grief recovery after my daughters overdose death. "So perhaps you think this is going to be a tale of how I traveled to some exotic land, how I left everything behind, and how I met fellow travelers on some road to Zanzibar to recover from my grief. Perhaps you think this is going to be a story of redemption, of how I lost myself in booze and then found myself on some street corner or dark alley, and then got my life back together again. No, rather this is the story of how I went deep inside myself and found a reservoir of strength in my day to day existence, in the small motions and rituals of ordinary life. For many of us do not have the luxury of “leaving it all behind”. We must move forward, inch by inch, increment by increment, waking up each day to face a world that seems so empty to us now, climbing an internal mountain every single day, an epic mountain taller than Mt. Everest, a mountain that the outside world cannot view. So to you, fellow grief travelers, I say, be tough in your own little way. Pull on your sturdy grief knapsack with all the sturdy grief supplies in it, ropes and pulleys, and trudge your way up the grief mountain. Because I’ll be waiting for you at the top."
Marie Minnich
Marie Minnich is a creative entrepeneur and author. She resides in Palm Springs, California with her mini-schnauzer, Max. You can typically find Marie hiking in the foothills of the San Jacinto mountains with Max, shooting digital photography and dreaming of other worlds.
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The Grief Chronicles - Marie Minnich
The Grief Chronicles
With you in my eyes like flaming flowers
A SURVIVORS MANUAL FOR DEATH by overdose
Marie Minnich
1st Edition
Copyright February 2016 by Marie Minnich
Smashwords Edition
ISBN:9781310502460
The Grief Chronicles: With You in My Eyes Like Flaming Flowers
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Cover photography: Marie Minnich
Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven?
Would it be the same
If I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong
And carry on,
'Cause I know I don't belong
Here in heaven.
Eric Clapton, Tears in Heaven
Dedicated to my dog, Max
Acknowledgements
Above all I would like to thank my daughter, one of the most beautiful souls I have ever known. Then I would like to thank all the thousands of families who are living this sad journey with me. This is a journey that no parent or family wants to take, but a journey that, unfortunately, many of us have had thrust upon us.
I also wish to thank my family, my daughter and son, and friends who have stood by me during some pretty fierce trials by fire.
Forward
This is the chronicle of my grief recovery after my daughter’s death by heroin overdose at age 32 in 2009. In writing this chronicle, I initially struggled with whether or not to make this story personal to just one unique set of circumstances, the death of a loved one, in my case my beloved child, by overdose. Because of course, grief is universal. Much of what I experienced after my daughter died from an opiate overdose is applicable to all families and people suffering from the inexplicable mysteries of grief. But I also feel that when someone dies from something that has a societal stigma attached to it, as a death by heroin overdose does, that it also adds another dimension of grief for the grieving survivors. Nonetheless, there are sections of this book that others who are grieving the death of a loved one may find comforting, and I hope that they do.
My daughters name was Mary Elizabeth Mickelsen, but I will use her name sparingly for purposes of this story. Australian aborigines believe that to speak someone’s name after they have died is to call them back. And I no longer wish to call her back. But in the beginning, I called her name every minute of every day.
I hope that my chronicle may help others who wander through the desolate valley of grief to find some comfort and solace. You may never fully recover from a grief so deep that it feels like it has pulverized all the bones in your body, so much that your entire foundation has collapsed, but perhaps one day you will find you have grown new bones and can walk upright again.
Introduction
grief is a G.I.F.T.
Grief is a form of transformation
Grief is a gift. Grief is the greatest form of transformation that exists for us. This is not something that you are going to want to hear in the beginning of your grief process. But grief is a necessary part of the process that opens our heart to the healing that is required to regain ourselves after the loss of our loved one. It took me six years to comprehend this process. In the beginning, the pain of losing my daughter was so