The Gentleman's Guide to Meeting Women

By George Rypslier

The Gentleman’s Guide walks you through many of the mistakes we as men make and how the alternative, by becoming more gentlemanly in everything we do, will make it easier for us to meet the people we desire and to establish lasting personal connections.
It’s always the same old rhetoric, perhaps from generation to generation on how hard it can be to meet people; how much work it is or how we need tricks, gifts or money to lure in the object of our affections. Instead of understanding our targets, we make them out to be alien. Instead of examining our short comings, we seek to find them in others. What we often fail to understand is that when dealing with people, it’s easier to be what they are looking for than to pretend to be that person. That person they are looking for isn’t another demographic, but simply a better you.
As we let go of our own hang-ups and open our minds to the other persons’ perspective, we can substitute strategic subterfuge with general understanding. The arts of tact, class, and sincerity will get you farther with people and in life, than bluster, machismo, or deception.
The Gentleman’s Guide can help you initiate the subtle transformation from confusion and frustration to clarity and success.

• Language: English
• Publisher: George Rypslier
• Release date: Feb 11, 2016
• ISBN: 9781311259271

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The Gentleman’s Guide to Meeting Women

George Rypslier

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Copyright 2016 George Rypslier

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Chapter 1: The World We Live In

What exactly makes one a gentleman? Do we as a society have a clear definition? An officer, politician, priest? No, I think it’s safe to say that we don’t associate gentlemanly behavior with a uniform any more. Maybe we envision well-dressed men from long gone eras?

Or do we look back to them with suspicion, looking back at snobby, top hat wearing high society types that took gentlemanly behavior for conducting cruel business in a polite fashion. Maybe to you it’s just remembering Grandpa, or simply one who can manage to open the door for another.

To be a gentleman is to be able to behave tactfully, politely and reasonably in any situation. It is not simply manners for the sake of others but a state that strategically puts your best foot forward for you to receive the desired results you pursue as well as those unforeseen.

To do so one must be understanding and observant of his surrounding and of those he interacts with without having a mind clouded with bias, compulsive desires or generalizations.

Some may not care what others think of them and as foolish as that is, I ask that they coldly consider that the warm fuzzy feeling one’s gentlemanly behavior produces and of which they undervalue, to then be merely a bi product of strategic behavior aimed at getting what they want.

Others by nature may be a complete sweet heart and a gentleman so sayeth Grandma, but do not know how to take advantage of or how to capitalize on their good nature.

In this guide I will focus mostly on making one desirable to women with the main premise that the reader has dropped all the gender bias and stereotypical hogwash that can make it difficult for one to understand another’s perspective and therefore be unable to relate to that person and develop a rapport.

We are taught so much of the differences between the sexes and they become overblown perhaps because it is easier than maturing emotionally or simply because it takes less time to generalize.

Maybe these assumptions root from age old cultural or religious tactics that divide and conquer the masses. Maybe it’s economics and by perpetuating vast gender roles manufacturers can sell twice as many products. But from my experience and from what I have seen, is that all human qualities, good or bad, debauched or prudent, pig headed, filthy, submissive, bitchy, forceful, arrogant, slutty, know not gender.

There will be times that you will wonder if I am a feminist or a misogynist. I am neither but the point will be made, that some men assume the worst and some assume the best based on gender and those my friends are grave errors.

I will mention several times crudely that women are men with vaginas, for our minds work the same just that there are conditions that will change one’s perspective and ways of thinking. If your brain were to be cut out and placed into a woman’s body, you would eventually begin to see and think of things differently. Same if you were suddenly a different race, height, religion or nationality.

When it comes to your life and your interactions these things are nearly meaningless unless you choose for them to mean something. Act upon what you can observe and deal tactfully with any nonsense you may face. There are biases and double standards for everyone depending on the situation and a good goal is not to be swayed by them coming or going; Meaning that you shall minimize their effect on you while refusing to perpetuate such behavior.

Chapter 2: Angst towards Women.

In an era where having a strong male role model is almost more a privilege than a given, young men have to find that specific level of primordial traits of dominance that women find attractive and then still manage to operate within the modern guidelines of social equality amongst the sexes. Of course this balancing act varies from culture to culture. I’m not saying that one culture is or is not superior to another, but would like to point out the standing of women has varied over millennia and many parts of the modern world would seem barbaric to some of the societies that existed thousands of years ago.

For specific details I encourage to embark on your own historical studies, perhaps starting with the Story of Civilization by Will Durant. You will soon find that besides this I do not site exterior sources. I rather have much of my content considered opinion than have the reader see a citation and assume what I have to say as fact or for me to have to choose between omitting a good point or risk diverging from my main theme. I much rather make innuendos or make statements that will encourage ones curiosities.

Where is that line between being that sexy manly man that women are turned on by and being a sexist jerk? What exactly is expected of you and how does one exactly fulfill a man's role, for it can seem to vary from girl to girl. Some of the old traditions that were considered gentlemanly may be now considered chauvinist, depending on the disposition of the woman, which has some fellows walking on egg shells.

It can be a drag. It can be disheartening to be told that men and women are equal and then told that you are expected to provide for her. The economy can fluctuate and you may find yourself struggling for a job and unable to progress as fast as you would like.

The pressure to be able to provide for someone when it can be difficult to provide for yourself can be a hard pill to swallow. It could lead to resentment. After all, some societies value material wealth more than others and sometimes the bombardment of luxury good marketing can feel like a slap in the face. There will be some women that will buy into the idea of a luxurious life of which you may not fit and that’s their prerogative.

That's life, it's a raw deal, but there are far worse situations out there.

Today, Society is still going to hand women the brunt of child rearing responsibility and men with financial responsibility. Sometimes you don't get to pick your poison.

What you need not do is grow bitter with your lot in life to the point that you wallow in the insecurities society has imprinted in you only to take it out on an entire gender.

You might not even know you're doing it, but there are things we do, that are simply not gentlemanly. Now this is not to say every female is a lady. I will say again and again, that people, are people, more alike than we are different.

It's just that you can’t let the behavior of some taint your opinion of the whole or change your general behavior or outlook for the worse. Simply put, a particular girl may very well indeed be a bitch, but not all girls are bitches. Feel free to insert any derogatory name and group into that sentence.

Jerks come in all shapes and sizes and yet sometimes it may seem more so that women suck because they are a particular group you want something from. People with webbed feet could all be total assholes and you wouldn't know because you don't give