Learn the Game: Introduction to a New Lifestyle

By Canello

This books talks about the basics of dating science. It presents an introduction to a new lifestyle. A lifestyle which is more social, more interesting and more fun. It shows you the way how to make every night out a new adventure and how to increase your success with the other gender easily just by making a few adjustments in your day to day routine.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Mar 13, 2014
• ISBN: 9781491894545

Canello

Canello is a pick up artist. He’s been involved with the dating community for over 9 years now and he is considered one of the first generation pick up artists. He has dated hundreds of women so far and from 2010 he has started doing live programs showing clients how it is being done. He has high level education and he loves reading and writing. During the winter he lives in Athens Greece and he spends his summer doing island hopping in the numerous Greek islands.

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Learn the Game

Introduction to a new lifestyle

CANELLO

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Published by AuthorHouse 03/11/2014

ISBN: 978-1-4918-9453-8 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-4918-9454-5 (e)

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Contents

Chapter 1   Why someone should learn the game

Chapter 2   The Principles of the Game

Chapter 3   Women and the game

Chapter 4   The Steps

Chapter 5   The approach

Chapter 6   Win their attention

Chapter 7   Understanding attraction

Chapter 8   Attraction tools

Chapter 9   Show that you like her

Chapter 10   Learn how to flirt

Chapter 11   Physical Contact

Chapter 12   Conversation Basics

Chapter 13   Making real connections

Chapter 14   Get her out

Chapter 1

Why someone should learn the game

I personally believe that nowadays is the best time to get into in the game. Below I will explain why…

Women go out more than ever

The last 20 years the frequency with which women go out has increased dramatically. In the past, women went out either with their boyfriend or with friends. To see two or three women alone was quite rare. This was also because for a woman to go out with her friends was considered as she is looking for sex and it was criticized for the morals of the era. There were times that to get into clubs you needed to have girls in your group. This meant that the mixed groups were more, making it harder to flirt. This season belongs to the past. Since in most bars—with few exceptions—they have stopped requiring men to be accompanied by women, the groups have become more polarized. More men on their own and more women on their own. I am not saying that this is the best thing to happen; I am just saying that it definitely favors flirting. Somehow it released women and gave them the permission to go out on their own without being stigmatized as seekers.

Also in recent years, fun tends more and more to be relaxed. The era of the big clubs belongs to the past. Many people go to bars. This has the benefit that someone can go out earlier, which means he or she can get out every day, without having to stay up all night. So if you go to an area with bars you will see that almost every day it’s crowded. And a large proportion of it is women who have come alone to chat. A drink at the bar is one of the favorite activities of women. It releases the tension of the day and gives them the opportunity to talk with their friends and to communicate. The socialization of women is something that gives them energy. It is part of their everyday lives, something like the gym. They love to go out, have a drink, talk with their friends… and if something interesting happens they won’t say no.

Therefore it is very easy now to find girls who are not accompanied, even on a daily basis. This is luxury. Imagine every night you were going out you could talk to a nice girl! Would this not change the course of the night? Would it not turn the night out from a boring interaction with your best friend, with whom you have nothing else to say, into an interesting evening?

Now it is possible!

All women love flirting

It is dangerous to be absolute. But I have not met one single woman and asked her if she likes flirting and gave me a negative answer. The most common answer is who doesn’t like it?

Trust me when approaching a woman at a bar, be sure she is enjoying it more than you. Even if this interaction leads nowhere, even if you talk five minutes, even if you get rejected immediately, deep inside, she has been delighted you approached her.

Flirting rejuvenates women. It’s something they seek for. Flirting is exchange of sexual energy between a man and a woman. This energy exchange is for the woman enjoyable and refreshing. Flirting doesn’t need to lead somewhere; it doesn’t need to have a purpose. The woman enjoys the process. And if it leads somewhere all good…

The next time you’re out and on the opposite side of the bar there are two girls and you are in a dilemma whether to approach or not, think that by approaching them you will make them happy. Even if you’re not their type, they will rejoice. Having this belief the fear of approach decreases. Imagine that you are doing them a favor. For a woman to go out for a drink with her friends, to talk and listen to music is enjoyable as we said. Add up the flirting and then the night becomes super funny. They will go home happy. And if indeed an acquaintance has emerged the next day will be flying from joy.

When approaching a woman, you may have in your mind that you want to get something. But you are actually giving something. You give your energy. And you take back theirs. Where will this give and take end up, no one knows and it doesn’t really matter. By itself, however, is an aphrodisiac! And women know that…

Flirting is not good only for female . . .

You cannot imagine what the feminine energy can do to a man. It transforms him! It gives him strength to go on… it gives him confidence… it makes him rest more solidly on his feet…

Imagine you are in a club and in the group next to you there is a very beautiful girl! Imagine if you approach her and after a few minutes she gave you a warm hug! This alone has made your night. If you’re not used to the female presence in your life or if you have women, but not used in the most rapid and direct interactions it’ll look just wonderful! Not knowing a girl and within a few minutes she is hugging you! By itself it is nice… refreshing! It can make you feel delightful as you’re the best dudes in the club. Now imagine it this happened systematically and in a multiple degree. How would that make you feel? This is the power of feminine energy when she comes in contact with the male!

This is what I want to say… the interaction with women that you like, makes you feel beautiful! It gives you energy. And this is natural! No reason or explanation fits and further analyze why this is happening or why it should not be happening or why it should happen otherwise.

The interaction with women is something nice, something enjoyable and above all natural. Unless you consciously decide to live an ascetic life, then you will like to interact with women.

And you know that you like it, you understand it from the countless times you got out and instead of getting close to the girl you like, you are drinking drinks with your friends. And the few times that you haven’t done this and instead you talked to a girl, you went home happy.

Women are more attractive than ever

And the attraction has not only to do with the appearance…

We live in the era of women! The women of today are more complete and successful than ever. They are financially independent, socially and sexually liberated and evolving.

At older ages there may exist even a gap in professional achievement between women and men, at new ages this doesn’t happen. The percentage of women who are graduates of colleges is the same as that of men. Young women acquire jobs, with the same validity as that of men. Many female professions, such as those associated with showbiz give women the opportunity for professional success at a young age. You go out and meet 22 year old beautiful female students who study and work at the same time; they live alone and are financially independent. Models in their twenties that have gone independent from their parents and hunt a career, they are out and socialize constantly. 27-year old girls who study in USA and abroad and make a career in companies, they find jobs immediately after their studies in a way that makes you wonder if the crisis affecting them. 32-year old too beautiful women who could easily been involved in modeling cohabiting with their boyfriends, have a stable job, dealing with their careers and do not have anything to envy in this aspect from their friend. 35-year old women with two children that when you see them you doubt if they are hers, which find time for family, job and work on themselves.

Socially, women stand on their feet more powerfully than ever. They demonstrate social skills and are not afraid of social criticism. At least they don’t give it the importance they gave it earlier. And I can say that they are interested much less than men. Why do I say this? Think how many women dress provocatively when they go out(and should do, this is something that I support if they feel so) regardless of what others say, how many do sensual photo shoots, how many upload sexy photos and make sharp comments in the social networking, how many with their behavior indicate that they are not interested in the opinion of others. These are all actions that deliver great rate of exposure on the part of women and also bring a large measure of social pressure, they know how to stand and handle. I do not think there are many men who have the ability to withstand social criticism as much as women.

The external appearance was something we were born with during old times. In today’s era it is something that we cultivate, we acquire or build. The percentage of women who are beautiful has grown too. Basically it is the norm when you go out to see the majority of women being thin, finest and having a nice style. Women take care of themselves more than ever. They exercise at the gym(as opposed to men who exercise from the outside in, lifting weights and wanting to look bulky and with better bodies, women participating in exercise programs, they exercise from the inside out, building really nice-looking body, which withstands more time). They go to salons. They watch their diet excessively, they eat fruit and vegetables, they don’t eat fat, they drink beverages, they reduce smoking(incidentally if you ask a guy why he wants to quit smoking most of them will tell you that they don’t want to suffer a lung or heart disease in the future or they do it for financial reasons, unlike most women who do it because it spoils the skin and yellows their teeth!). Despite the difficult schedule, they find time both in the morning and at night before sleep to take care of their skin. The proportion of cosmetic surgeries has increased dramatically in recent years. The oldest taboo existed against such interventions, which began from the mindset that I do not need plastic surgery because or to make plastic surgery means that something is faulty on me, which was based to social criticism and inability acceptance of defects has passed(the women now are able to recognize their faults, can easily accept and take action as quickly as possible towards correction). The cosmetic surgery is now accepted and desired by most women because they have realized that it is something that will have a positive impact. And the truth is that it has.

Chapter 2

The Principles of the Game

The game is something you can learn

The game is a sum of social skills. Some are born with those skills, while others simply need to develop them. In older times, we would say that someone has got his way with women. Or that he is very attractive, handsome, charismatic. Similarly, we would say that someone was born strong, fast, athletic, smart, multi talented and so on. Later on it was proved that people can develop different skills and not just learn them, but reach very high levels as well, through practice. It may sound strange, but success with women is also something that can be learned and practiced.

I’ve seen a lot of men who learned it, and not only did they learn it, but started at a level that was much lower than average. Success with women comes through a sum of positive references that are in somebody’s mind, which allow him to have such success. Even those who you think were born this way had such references, they just happened to get exposed to them at a very young age, for example in elementary school or in high school, and so they got a head start. It’s never late for someone to acquire such references through practice and gathering experiences. The game involves theory and practice. You learn the theory, you apply it, you see how far it gets you, then you come back to the theory, go one step further with practice and that’s how improvement comes, as with almost any skill.

If you continue to do the same things, you are going to get the same results

If you are happy with your results, I imagine that there’s no need for you to change something and that you’re reading this book just for fun or out of curiosity. But if you desire change, then you will need to change some of the things you’ve been doing up until now. Like in every field, when it comes to this game, you first need to change your mentality. A change in your mentality brings a change in your way of action. A change in your way of action brings a change in your attitude. A change in attitude will gradually result in a change of character. You need to start taking action towards success with women. To achieve this, you first lay the foundation by changing the way you perceive things.

Once you have established the following two things—changing your way of thinking and taking new action—you create a new process, a new routine in your life. What you need to do from then on is to follow the process and trust it. If you want to build a nice body, you first need to take that decision. In order for this to happen, you have to have motivation, you need to want it a lot. From the moment you take the decision, you start taking action towards that direction, you start watching your diet, you work out regularly and you incorporate a new process in your life. From the moment you incorporate it, you stop thinking about it all that much.

Your mind stops actively focusing on the process and lets the process have a positive impact on you. The same goes for the game. From the moment you take the decision to succeed and commit to it, what you need to do is design a process that will bring you the outcomes you desire. In a subsequent chapter we are going to talk about how you can design this process, so that it is easily to applicable and effective.

You don’t have to be rich, a model or a champion

One of the few things I can assure you about when it comes to the game is that I have seen beautiful women going out with all types of men.

I’m not saying that one shouldn’t try to improve, shouldn’t pursue social status or shouldn’t