Dear Lady..! Let your Home be Heaven
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A girl dons many roles in her lifetime - that of a daughter, sister, wife, daughter-in-law, mother, grandmother and so forth. The duties and responsibilities at different stages are aplenty and different. Many do not live a life appreciated by parents, relatives, the society, and even themselves. Causes and probable solutions for the setbacks are discussed in detail in this book.
The book essentially targets all the women and their families. The various suggestions indicated in this book are derived from experiences felt and ingested. This is a must read for all women, to enable them to lead a harmonious way of life. Happy Reading !
Dr. Maria Theresa
Born in Kanyakumari district, India, Dr.A. Maria Theresa M.A, M.Ed, MPhil, P.G.Dip., Ph.D., has 25 years of teaching experience. She is a Gold Medalist in M.Ed. and has a Doctorate in Child Care. She was awarded the title ‘Awareness Creator’ by the catholic Arts and Literature Committee of Madurai. She is a passionate writer and has been contributing to as many as eight weekly and monthly journals in South India, thereby influencing thousands of readers. Till now five of her books in Tamil have been published and well received. Her primary target is to reach out to a multitude of people around the globe to enlighten the women and younger generations.
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Dear Lady..! Let your Home be Heaven - Dr. Maria Theresa
Dear Lady..!
Let Your Home
Be Heaven
By
Dr. A Maria Theresa
Year of Publication: 2015
© Copyright 2015 by Dr. A. Maria Theresa.
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Dedication
Dedicated to my mother, Mrs. Agnes.
Irrespective of the many hurdles and rough paths that life has thrown in her way in the name of domestic issues within the family, the strength with which this one woman tied her family together is the core and trigger for this book.
This 80-year old woman upheld herself as the innocent daughter, strong-willed pillar for her spouse, the strict yet loving mother, the respected and adored mother-in-law (not an easy feat at all!) and the kind and always lovable granny for her grandchildren. She has been the role model for me in every walk of life and she continues to live with us through her values and lessons that she imbibed in me. Dear Mother, this book is a dedication to everything you were for me.
Acknowledgement
I acknowledge the effort put forth by
Dr. T. John Paulus as the editor and translator,
Mr. J. Ignesh Paul as the translator and proof reader,
Mr. J. Jerry Paul as Photo editor and proof reader.
Author’s Note
"Metamorphosis of seeds into crops is the secret of Nature
Transformation of words into an Article is the skill of a writer"
I surrender my heartiest gratitude to Him, for having instigated and goaded me to think of and write on this topic. Because, on glancing at my work once again, I am awed that it was written by me.
Though a woman might pray for years together to beget a child, she cannot bear the fetus in her womb for more than 10 months. However much fondly the parents raise their daughters, the daughters cannot remain with their parents and have to leave their maternal home one day.
Most parents wish to get their daughters married to a good man and rejoice in watching her lead a happy life. As a result, 95% of the girls bask in this marital bliss. But there are many women who enter into this sacred pact and get entangled in such a way that the life being led is not appreciated either by their parents or by the society
Few end up faking their life. While a few others flee from the same. Why should one flee? If we are true to ourselves, then there is no need to either fake or flee, correct?
Many families in recent times are stunned to a halt by women’s ineptness. This book has been written based on the analysis of the reasons behind the dysfunctions in domestic life.
Poet Bharthi’s vision of the modern day woman is expressed in the literary form of words in this book, Dear Lady..! Let Your Home Be Heaven
.
It is no easy feat for a woman to attain a name and respect from all in the society. She has to fine tune herself in many ways to attain such an irrefutable reputation.
With this book, I have tried to provide some pointers that would help a girl live her life without much pain and woe, thoughtfully and happily with minimal issues.
Not only are all the facts and statements in this book deeply felt, but some are first hand experiences that have been penned down for the benefit of the readers. This book will most definitely be a guide to many a woman who wish to bring peace and harmony into their lives.
Preface
‘Women are the eyes of a country’. ‘Women are the household lamps that radiate light’. True, as long as they remain ideal.
Goodness thrives and evil gets defeated because of a woman. How far is this true and accurate? It would not be sufficient if women alone say a resounding Yes
in unison. The entire society needs to voice this out! But is the modern day woman living this kind of life? Doesn’t the society’s skepticism sound genuine?
Like how every creation in Nature has more than one dimension, the unique creation called woman
has multiple aspects and dimensions. A woman has to showcase her multi-dimensional persona of being a daughter, sister, daughter-in-law, worker, mother, grandmother, a member of the society and so forth.
Gone are the days when a woman was just a decorative piece at home whose only duty was to cook whatever her husband provided without any questions. The modern day woman dislikes being an ornament. When there is a surge in the development of education, networking, technology, job opportunities, communications, there is an equivalent growth in a woman’s social, scientific, cultural and educational aspects too. Many a time, women not only equal men in caliber but also surpass them.
Very often we come across parents who are insensitive to the different stages a girl dons and still consider even their adolescent daughters to be mere 5-year olds. But modern girls feel that they have acquired enough worldly exposure supplemented with arrogance that they too are equal earners.
Many nubile girls stay as spinsters, as they enjoy all securities including financial. This live-alone mass do not anticipate their future problems. Unable to live with the same vigorous determination, in a spur of the moment, a few slip in the interim, rupturing their reputation.
Women take drastic decisions today with no preparation for tomorrow. This lingering worry is alarming.
In the midst of this cultural inconsistency, Lady, how do you plan to make your residence sacred?
In this book, practical ideas and solutions are discussed in simple language. These ideas emerged from my experience in teaching some twenty thousand juveniles over a span of twenty five years and in observing almost an equal number of students. I hope this book will help in transforming women into better beings. Men can also read this book to understand how precious their women can be!!
A. Maria Theresa (The Author)
Chapters
TAKE APT DECISION
DISCRETION MARKS YOUR INGENUITY
REALIZE YOUR POTENTIAL
WHERE LIES YOUR STRENGTH
WHAT IS YOUR WEAKNESS?
YOUR AIM
LET A BETTER SHARE BE YOURS
DO YOU LISTEN TO OTHERS?
TURNINGS ARE TO BE NEGOTIATED CAREFULLY
TRACKS DO HAVE UPS AND DOWNS
PERSEVERANCE PAYS OFF
NO PROBLEM IS MAMMOTH
WHY DO WE HAVE HURDLES AND FENCES?
BE MAGNANIMOUS TO ACCEPT MISTAKES
LEND AN EAR TO ADVICE
NO DISGRACE IN COMPROMISING
EXHIBIT PATIENCE, YOU CAN
LADY! EMPATHY IS THE KEY
WISDOM DEFEATS SELFISHNESS
LEARN TO LIVE WITH MINIMAL DESIRES
LESSONS A RIVER TEACHES
SOLVE THE PROBLEM, NOT DRAG IT
NO DEATH-KNELL FOR SUSPICION
BURDENED SOULS! LISTEN A BIT
REACHED THE LIMITS OF BOREDOM?
RELUCTANT TO DO THE GIVEN TASK?
LET BIRDS FLY FREELY
AND FINALLY…..
Chapter 1
Take apt decision
The decisions one makes have the power to completely alter the remaining part of life. Who is the deciding authority and how should the decision be taken? In an ever changing world, with constant alterations in the environment, no one can force another on any decision and neither can it be taught. There are many women in a state of perpetual suffering due to decisions taken in a fit of anger and haste. A toddler doesn't have the capability to decide, but a twenty year old girl is expected to have mastered the art of decision-making. During examinations, a student is given the freedom of choice to pick and answer any question. Similar options are available in the journey of life too.
Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own common sense – Lord Buddha
Visualize the scenario of a lady carrying milk in two cans. Milk from one of the cans spilt unexpectedly. She sat there crying for a long time over it. Reaching home and boiling the other milk, she realized that it too had spoilt during the time she wasted crying over the spilt one. Life devoid of occasional sadness and business without incurring losses at times are improbable. If we continue to dwell on the grief over the bygones, the remaining part of life may also wilt away. Let us learn to see the goodness in every occurrence.
It is said that decisions should be taken when we are in a state of calm. When taken in times of anger, irritation or fatigue, they can never be well-balanced ones. The decisions we take must seem correct to us at all times. If the mind is wavery on the accuracy of it, the implication is that the decision is wrong. Let the decision be rational. This is what Wisdom of Solomon teaches us to follow. For God loveth none but him that dwelleth with wisdom
In families, work spots and organizations, if the decisions taken are majority-centric, such decisions will not be wrong, lawless or regrettable but instead will be godly and wise. An astute decision making is the most essential quality people in higher positions should possess.
The right to take decisions is not the privilege of elders alone. There should be a sense of equality. Endless fights ensue if the new entrant’s (daughter-in-law’s) views are not accepted or the daughter-in-law thinks the old hag is uncultured and ignorant. If mutual respect and compromise are ensured, there will remain peace and tranquility that are characteristic of a holy place. If the new entrant to the house doesn’t enjoy the freedom to prepare the day’s menu or to go out with her husband, then such a house sooner or later will change into a warzone. All concerned should definitely ponder over the above mentioned point.
The art of decision-making doesn’t depend on age, qualification, personality or standard of living.
At times, at least in minor matters, allow children to decide. But do monitor them. It may help them acquire the capability to decide important matters later and flourish in all walks of life. An anecdote:
"Why didn’t you