Lean On Me Gently: Helping the Grieving Child
By Doug Manning
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Doug Manning
Doug Manning's career has included work as a minister, counselor, business executive, author, and publisher. He and his wife Barbara raised four daughters and served as long-term caregivers to three parents. After thirty years in ministry, Doug began a new career in 1982 writing, counseling, and leading seminars in grief and elder care. His publishing company, InSight Books, Inc., specializes in books, video, and audio productions designed to help people face some of life's toughest challenges. He sold his company in 2023 but continues to write and to also post on his blog, www.thehappyheretic.me. Doug's warm, conversational voice make his books read like a long conversation with a good friend.
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Lean On Me Gently - Doug Manning
Lean On Me Gently
Helping the Grieving Child
Second Edition
BY DOUG MANNING
Lean On Me Gently: Helping the Grieving Child
Second Edition
Doug Manning
Second Edition © 2010
First Edition © 2006
In-Sight Books, Inc
PO Box 42467
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 73123
800.658.9262 or 405.810.9501
www.InSightBooks.com
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Print ISBN 978-1-892785-56-5
E-Book ISBN 978-1-892785-85-5
Contents
The Grieving Family
Understanding Grief
The Grieving Child
Children Experience Things
Children Play
Children Hit and Run
Children Relate to the Loss in Their Own Way
Children Grieve In Their Own Time
Children Grieve Slowly
The Grief of a Child Is a Broken Line
Children Use Questions
Things to Notice
Watch For Red Flags
Changes in Personality
Acting out Anger
Poor School Performance
Lack of Emotional Expression Regarding the Loss
Changes in Health Status
Prolonged Depression
Prolonged Resistance to Recognizing the Loss
Watch For Internalized Anger
A Safe Place
Building A Safe Place to Grieve
Becoming a Person of Safety
Talk About Death
Share Your Own Grief
Be Concerned Without Pressure
Give Reassurance
Watch for Pressure
Welcome Other Safe
People
Children Need Ceremonies
Tools and Resources
Preschool to Early Elementary
Make a Feelings Activity Bag
Take the child shopping (or find around the house) some of the following items:
Other handy items to have:
Late Elementary Through Teen-Age
Mood Chart
Memory Box
Memory Book
Planting
A Safe Place for Feelings
The Cemetery
Pictures
Conclusion
Bibliography
Resources related to children and grief
Helpful Grief Resource Suppliers
In-Sight Books, Inc.
Bereavement Publishing, Inc.
The Center for Loss and Life Transition
Compassion Books
The Dougy Center
Centering Corporation & Grief Digest Magazine
Family Communication
How Do You Feel Today? Productions
Grief is a family affair.
It doesn’t just happen to parents.
Nor does it just happen to children.
The whole family needs permission to Grieve IN THEIR OWN WAY,
And ON THEIR OWN SCHEDULE.
The Grieving Family
As a grieving parent you may be torn between the needs of your children and the all consuming presence of your own broken heart. You want to think only of the children, and sometimes that is possible. At other times your own hurts dominate your thoughts whether you want them to or not. You may be torn between being concerned and feeling guilty because you aren’t concerned enough.
The early period of grief is a whirl of thoughts and feelings. We ask a question, and before anyone can answer, another question pops up. We seem to have several tracks running in our heads. One track says, I am crushed and don’t think I can ever get up.
Another track may be demanding that God or somebody explain