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For When Trying To Make Everyone Happy Makes You Miserable

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If you've ever found yourself shape shifting, becoming who someone else needs you to be, saying yes when you really want to say no...
If you find yourself completely at a loss when someone asks, "What do you really want?" - you're in the best place to discover the best of you with our friend Dr Alison Cook.
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No One Told Me is for all of those times you wished someone just a little ahead of you would tell you what they did in the same situation, in the same season of life.

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Episode 00: No One Told Me is for all of those times you wished someone just a little ahead of you would tell you what they did in the same situation, in the same season of life. by No One Told Me
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…My Mom Won’t Always Buy My Groceries: Alright. We’re getting practical here. I’ve gotten lots of messages about grocery shopping. Personally, I kind of like it. There’s something kind of comforting, soothing even, about walking aisle by aisle. Of course that’s not actually a thing when a o... by No One Told Me
40 min listen
How To Be A Spouse: The first years of marriage are a lot of just figuring out the other person. How they fold their underwear, why they won’t load the dishwasher the right way and if I stare at your French fries long enough will you give me one. by No One Told Me
43 min listen
…The Truth About The Friend Zone: I thought I had forgotten what the Friend Zone was like. I haven’t. And it made me want to pull my shirt over my head and just take a minute to get myself together. My friend Caroline has a few of those stories. We shared our worst ones, by No One Told Me
23 min listen
…Marriage Is Easy. And Hard. But Also Easy.: When I got married, I was all about that ‘wifey’ vibe. I mean, I legitimately bought aprons to wear. APRONS. What even? I had great intentions of home cooked meals, fresh laundry, clean bathrooms and snuggling on the couch beneath the glow of Netflix. by No One Told Me
44 min listen
No One Told Me: Halloween Edition: This special Halloween episode was honestly born out of sitting and talking about stories that make your skin crawl. You know the kind. The ones that make your heart rate pick up just a little bit - or actually your heart is lodged in your throat. by No One Told Me
35 min listen
…Parenting Is Super Hard: After lots of convincing...lots of convincing...my husband, Ryan is finally joining me for an episode! Honestly, we took on parenting blind. Like completely blind. We didn’t read a bunch of books or go to any seminars. by No One Told Me
33 min listen
…About Weariness: As we prepped for this final show of 2018, there were lots of topics we thought we could cover. And interviews lined up to talk about them. But, something in me has been unsettled. Have you ever felt that? A restlessness? by No One Told Me
13 min listen
How To Pursue Purpose: Purpose didn’t sound so intimidating until I started getting older. It felt more important. Bigger. Checking off a to do list was less satisfying because I didn’t know what those to do’s were really for. I didn’t know the why behind them. by No One Told Me
50 min listen
Thoughts & Feelings: Valentine’s Day Edition: Everybody has thoughts and feelings about Valentine's Day. More specifically, everybody has thoughts and feelings about everyone else's bad dates. And, as the saying goes, when you post it on social media you are thereby giving everyone the right to sh... by No One Told Me
52 min listen
…Dating Isn’t Like The Movies: I knew I needed to do some No One Told Me About Dating...but I had no idea where to start. I think the last book I read about dating relationships was I Kissed Dating Goodbye and most of you would say goodbye to this podcast if I used that as my base. by No One Told Me
47 min listen
What Dress Casual Actually Means: Retail therapy is a thing. A very real thing. But, there’s a difference in buying just to buy, and moving toward an attitude of intentional purchases - specifically where our clothes are involved. Today, I’m talking to the fashion director of a Nashvil... by No One Told Me
45 min listen
…Hormones Are Not Just For Puberty: I didn’t know anything about hormones. Honestly...nothing. I didn’t know they corresponded with menstrual cycles, eating habits, moods...everything. I was at a loss until I got married and went on birth control. And then, literally, my life changed. by No One Told Me
39 min listen
Thoughts & Feelings: Thanksgiving Edition: In this episode we talk about the best sides (#corncasseroleforlife), "special" family dynamics and some things you maybe shouldn't bring up when you're gathered around the table. by No One Told Me
45 min listen
Organizing Doesn’t Have To Give Me Hives: I kept getting questions about organizing a house. Spring is coming and we’re starting to look around and realize we have a bunch of stuff. Everywhere. And it needs a place to go other than random piles. I am very good at piling things. by No One Told Me
48 min listen
…What The Enneagram Actually Means: Alright, so really, how many times have you heard or read the word enneagram in the past six months? Whether you have a vague knowledge or you’ve researched all there is about your number - this particular episode is for you. by No One Told Me
58 min listen
…Not All Advice Is Good Advice: Listen, there is no shortage of advice out there. Everybody has something to say about every something. Including me, apparently. But, just because everyone wants you to know something doesn’t mean it’s something you need to know. by No One Told Me
15 min listen
…How Controlling Anxiety Can Be: Growing up, I generally wasn’t an anxious person. I mean, I worried about who was going to ask me to prom and if my turtleneck gave me a double chin - but my life was never really altered by any of it. Until my mid-20s. by No One Told Me
40 min listen
How To Take Care Of My Face: Makeup is not something I ever cared about. I mean I threw on some mascara when I wore pants that buttoned and counted that as dressing up. But then I was squarely in my mid-20s and knew I wanted to walk into work or even the grocery store and occasion... by No One Told Me
49 min listen
…Every Mom Is Figuring It Out: Whether you’re a first time mom calling the doctor because your little one’s left earlobe seems slightly smaller than the right one and on various Google search results, that’s a marker for the plague or you’re a 2nd, 3rd, by No One Told Me
39 min listen
…I’d Be Living the Single Life: I’m going to be real honest here...I was flying blind on this episode. I thought of myself as a pretty good matchmaker. No...I don’t have any examples. But, you know, it’s like buying gifts - it’s the thought that counts. Right? Um, apparently, no. by No One Told Me
29 min listen
…Suffering Can Be Sweet: Cancer. Even saying the word, hearing the word - it makes my stomach drop. But when it’s tied to someone you love - it’s hard not just to say or to hear, all of a sudden, you feel it. When that word comes into your life, it’s a permanent marker. by No One Told Me
43 min listen
About Mom Guilt: Honestly, I feel like I’m getting this mom thing wrong more than I’m getting it right. I feel like there’s an unspoken set of expectations that linger out there that everyone else knows how to reach but I don’t. by No One Told Me
48 min listen
…When To Walk Away: If I'm honest, dating is a world I’m a little lost in. I have the most basic answers to the most complicated questions. I’ve brought in some people who can speak to it with a whole lot more wisdom than I can. Today, we’re hearing from Sarah Cain. by No One Told Me
44 min listen
Did Anyone Tell You?: An episode that will make you relevant at the Mother's Day brunch or your cousin's graduation. Enjoy! by No One Told Me
47 min listen
…The Enneagram Can Help Me: I have learned an insane amount about myself through the Enneagram. I’ve learned the why behind so much of how I respond, how I act, why my emotions get away from me. And based on the response to our last Enneagram episode, by No One Told Me
62 min listen
How To Like Myself: This episode is based on all the conversations I’ve had with so many women ranging from high school all the way to retirement about the way we see ourselves. And, you know, it’s not just a woman thing. It’s a human thing. by No One Told Me
14 min listen
…How To Buy Gifts As An Adult: Buying gifts is real hard. I didn’t realize how hard it was until I was old enough to actually start picking and buying gifts out for friends and family. So I got to thinking - how can I can make this easier this year? by No One Told Me
32 min listen
…I Don’t Have To Be Overwhelmed: We don’t have to live overwhelmed lives. Our environments feed our hearts and minds more than we realize. The good news? We can actually control a lot of it. No one told me I don’t have to be overwhelmed. by No One Told Me
45 min listen
Did Anyone Tell You?: I can’t watch E! News every night and I miss half the headlines in the morning news because I’m trying to get pants on someone so we can leave the house. Since this is a podcast to make sure you’re informed on well, life, by No One Told Me
47 min listen

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