Handbook of The Game: How to Attract and Seduce Beautiful Women

By Mikael Olsson

The Handbook of The Game is a highly condensed manual on seduction and courtship. It contains a comprehensive guide on how to improve your love life and make it into what you want it to be.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Mikael Olsson
• Release date: May 22, 2013
• ISBN: 9781301955220

Mikael Olsson

Mikael Olsson is a professional programmer, author and web entrepreneur. He enjoys teaching, writing books and making sites that summarize various fields of interest. The books he writes are focused on teaching their subject in the most efficient way possible, by explaining only what is relevant and practical without any unnecessary repetition or theory. He can be reached online at Siforia.com.

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Table of Contents

Handbook of The Game

About

Game Plan

Attraction

A1 - Opening

A2 - Female to Male Attract

A3 - Male to Female Attract

Attraction Locations

Comfort

Kino Escalation

C1 - Connection

C2 - Trust

C3 - Intimacy

Dating Places and Ideas

Seduction Preparation

S1 - Foreplay

S2 - Last Minute Resistance

S3 - Sex

Relationships

Social Skills

Routines

Topics

Tests

Body Language

Style

Before Going Out

Taking Action

Copyright

Acknowledgements

About the Author

Handbook of The Game

How to Attract and Seduce Beautiful Women

By Mikael Olsson

Copyright © 2013 Siforia

First Smashwords Edition - May 2013

www.siforia.com

About

This book provides a condensed guide to the art of seduction – also known as the game. The game is not about getting laid. It is about forming loving, intimate relationships with women. The game is also not about manipulating women. It is about the mutual experience of giving women what they want and in return getting what you want – whether a female friend, a lover, a girlfriend or a wife. What this book will teach you is not a trick or technique, but a lifestyle – the lifestyle of the alpha male. A man who has power and choice with women.

This is an area of life that we do not want to leave to chance. As men, this is something we really want to get handled. We do not want to sit around and wait for the women to come to us, to have it happen by chance. We want to be in control of this, in a position of power. The good news is that, as with most things in life, the game is a learnable skillset. You can learn how to attract, seduce and form relationships with women. What is more, with the right game plan you can learn this in a matter of months.

Let the game begin.

Game Plan

There is a universal courtship sequence that happens between humans. We all essentially go through the same steps from meeting a partner to forming a sexual relationship with them. If you know the steps and know how to move from one to the next, it becomes easy.

From meeting a woman to beginning a sexual relationship with her goes through three fundamental stages: Attraction, Comfort and Seduction. First you have to attract her, by demonstrating your value to the woman and making her interested in you. This leads to comfort building, where you take the time to get to know her and to get comfortable with her. Lastly, you have mutual seduction. Once the woman is attracted to you, and comfortable being with you, she is going to want to be seduced or may even seduce you.

Courtship phases

The game plan that will be used in this guide is the M3 model. This is a linear game plan that splits up the three stages of courtship into nine phases. These phases are:

Attraction

A1 – Opening

A2 – Female→Male Attract

A3 – Male→Female Attract

Comfort

C1 – Connection

C2 – Trust

C3 – Intimacy

Seduction

S1 – Foreplay

S2 – Last Minute Resistance

S3 – Sex

Having a game plan allows you to refine the steps as you go along. You will be able to calibrate where you are and how to move forward. This multilayered game plan also opens the possibility for multiple goals. It can be applied no matter what you are looking for – whether a sex friend, a lover, a girlfriend or a wife.

Routines

Within each phase you will be using practiced routines, so that you are not reinventing your communication all the time but instead refining it. You will be talking about similar ideas in similar ways. However, that does not mean you will be saying the same thing to everybody you meet.

The irony of having a game plan and routines thought out in advance is that things will seem more natural than if you approach a girl without any preparation. It also means that you will be able to progress much quicker than if you did not have a plan.

Accelerated Dating

To find the right girl for you, you will have to go through a few. Spending months getting to know a girl before you find out that you do not have much in common is not a good strategy. You should use an accelerated dating program instead, and that is what this guide will teach you.

Even if you have a special girl in mind, if you are not able to attract her you need to develop your skill set with many other girls first. The way to get the specific woman you want is to get good with women in general. If you know how to get women, you will know how to get that girl. The confidence and social skills you build learning to be good with women will also spread to other areas of your life.

With a good game plan it takes four to ten hours, or on average seven hours, from meeting a woman all the way to beginning a sexual relationship with her. It may take you a week to gather those hours, but usually one to three days. While this may not seem like a lot of time, it will be more than enough to get to know the girl and to decide whether you want to spend more time with her. Remember that this is not the traditional courtship game where you spend weeks of dating, delaying what was there in the first moment after you met.

Attraction

Attraction is the feeling one has toward another person when they have sexual interest in them. It is an emotion felt similarly by both men and women, but for completely different reasons. Attraction is not a process that happens by choice. A woman cannot consciously choose to feel attraction any more than a man can. It is an unconscious process that happens in response to certain traits. If a man displays these traits the woman will be turned on, just as when a man sees a hot woman.

If a woman feels attraction for a man, then nothing else matters. The man does not have to be her type, match her expectations or conform to her preferences. She will want to be with him regardless of any of that. It is deeper then logic, social conditioning, religious belief or peer approval. It can trigger a complete restructure of the values a woman says she wants in a man.

Attraction circuitry

Men's attraction circuitry is hardwired for fitness indicators. That is why waist-to-hip ratio, facial symmetry, breast size and body shape are all so important for men's judgment. For a woman, value is not as simple as looks. Women are attracted to fit, tall, good looking guys, but they do not put as much weight on physical traits as men do when choosing women. They may think they do logically, but what women respond to is different. Their attraction circuitry is more honed towards social status, which is derived from the man's personality. Essentially, attraction is 80% personality and 20% looks for women, and the other way around for men.

We have value judging circuits embedded in our minds designed to help us choose an attractive mate, meaning one that has good genes. Just as men can instantly judge the attractiveness of a woman, so too can she instantly give an initial evaluation of how attractive a man is. The man's attraction value however is not as static as a woman's value is to a man. It will rise or fall in an interaction as his personality is exposed to her. To give a metaphor, attraction for men is like a light switch whereas for women it is a volume knob.

Status

Social status is very intimately connected to female attraction. The basic formula is that females use signs of fitness to attract high status males and males use high status to attract fit females. Your status is your social standing, where you stand in a group. Women are attracted to men whom they perceive as having higher status than themselves and not to men who convey lower status. You simply cannot make a woman feel attracted to you by communicating lower status. This is a key principle in the courtship game - never communicate lower status. Put another way, make sure that you are very obviously cooler than the girl is at all times. Let this principle guide all your communication and actions in order to trigger and maintain attraction. Most mistakes men make with women somehow relate to breaking this principle.

The amazing thing about status is that it is mostly about your self-image. You do not have to be rich, famous or the head of a large company. If you believe you have higher status, and thereby behave as if you do, then you will have it. A large part of our brain is dedicated to reading social dynamics and we can instantly tell a person's social standing based on their body language, posture and other communication. If you communicate higher status, then you will be higher status. You can walk up to any woman and just start acting as if you have higher status, and as long as you are congruent she will respond to that. She will treat you differently from most guys who unconsciously take on a low status self-image in the presence of attractive women.

To have success with women you need to see yourself as high status. As a high status person you do not try to get status, you just assume you have it. That is how you walk through the world. You see yourself as important and do not allow others to disrespect you or your time. High status men do not seek approval from women or accept second-class behavior. They do not make excuses, apologize for who they are or allow women to control them or their emotions. Instead they lead with confidence and expect others to follow, because they make their lives better. Keep in mind that a high status man will typically have very little drama and confrontation in life, because everyone just accepts and respects his status. It is the men who do not have status and are striving for it that will have all the drama.

Attractive traits

When it comes to attracting women being a man is generally good advice. Women respond powerfully to masculine traits in men. The most important of these traits, or status indicators, are: dominance, confidence, humor and warmth. These are attributes of your personality that when displayed translate into sexiness for women.

Dominance – Be decisive, ambitious, strong and independent. Lead yourself from one enjoyable experience to the next, in a way that makes others want to follow you.

Confidence – Be cool, calm and composed. Have a strong belief in yourself and what you are saying and doing.

Humor – Be playful, optimistic, unpredictable and fun to be around, as opposed to boring or serious.

Warmth – Be kind, caring and protective to those who have earned your trust.

These are the foremost traits of the alpha man, the man who has power and choice with women. However, having these traits is not enough. To trigger attraction you need to be able to convey them effectively in your interactions