The Truly Alive Child: For Those Who Seek a Grander Vision for Our Children
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The Truly Alive Child: For Those Who Seek a Grander Vision for Our Children provides powerful tools and techniques for all adults to support children in re-connecting with child-like wonder, love for learning and natural creativity. The tools include honoring uniqueness, developing deep relationships with nature, embracing the “real” child and many more. A visionary and life changing book.
Simon Harrison
Simon Harrison is Emeritus Professor of Social Anthropology at the University of Ulster and has carried out ethnographic fieldwork among the people of Avatip in Papua New Guinea. He is the author of, among other works, The Mask of War (Manchester University Press, 1993) and Fracturing Resemblances: Identity and Mimetic Conflict in Melanesia and the West (Berghahn Books, 2005).
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5In this ever changing world we need to constantly think about protecting our children. Life is so different now. Kids are exposed to so much ugliness that they aren’t able to see the true beauty that our world has to offer. Our children need an environment that encourages them to be creative and successful and to embrace the good. I have found help for parents or anyone who is longing to look beyond their own truth to look beyond conventional wisdom and to be able to seek a greater vision.“This is not a prescriptive book. There are no suggestions for what facts children should learn, or what they should be able to do at certain ages. This book looks deeply into how we can provide an environment for children that encourages them to discover their deepest potential. It provides us with ways in which we can support children in how to be creative, not what to create, and in how to be successful, not what to be successful at.”Getting children engaged can be tough with everyone’s busy schedules. Harrison asks the question, “Why do we educate our children?” There is a very simple answer to this question. 1) To fulfill the soul’s innate desire to learn and experience more. 2) To provide independence for our children. 3) To ensure we can not only compete, but win.Harrison invites readers to create change, go back to basics, to embrace the real child, to celebrate uniqueness and to rethink success, to name a few. Real life experiences are also found within the pages. Truly Alive Tips can also be found in each section. For example: “Setting up the Physical and Mental Environment. How we set up the physical and mental environment around children has a great impact on their choices.” These in-depth tips help parents ask the right questions in order to get the child thinking about what interests her. Harrison suggests that children need to reach deep within them to find their spirituality.Harrison's purpose for this page turner is to bring back and instill in our kids the child-like wonder that they have when they are young. Keep children engaged and encourage them to ask questions about the world around them all the time, not just when they are small. Open up the lines of communication, creativity and a child's natural sense of curiosity. If you are not sure how to awaken their sleeping spirituality this book will help you in ways you couldn't imagine.About the author:Simon Paul Harrison is the founder of Wild Earth’s Children, an organization that provides hands-on experiences in nature to reconnect people of all ages to the Earth.
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The Truly Alive Child - Simon Harrison
Like a pure mountain spring that comes from deep sources, this book will nourish and refresh you each time you dip into it. Something very special is happening on these pages.
Kim John Payne M.ED author of Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier and More Secure Kids.
This thoughtful, joyous, heart-centered book is powerful nourishment for every small person in your life -- including your own inner child, who deserves to become truly alive and truly happy. Here is the instruction manual for nurturing that vital spark in yourself and others.
Susun Weed, author Wise Woman Herbal for the Childbearing Year
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The Truly Alive Child:
For Those Who Seek a Grander Vision for Our Children
by Simon Paul Harrison
Published by Fox Walking Publishing at Smashwords.
Copyright 2012 by Simon Paul Harrison. All rights reserved.
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The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The book is sold with the understanding that the intent of the author and publisher is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.
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When I was five years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down happy.
They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.
~John Lennon
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Table of Contents
Introduction
Thank You
Beliefs
From Your Heart or From a Report?
Is This Book for You?
1. Creating Change
Our Greatest Challenge
A Good Day to Die
Creating Change
Many Paths Lead to The Mountain Top
We Are in Need
Children Live What They Are Taught
2. Back to Basics
What Will We Feed?
Changing Gently
Our Birthright
Drew’s Story
From Doing to Being
3. Embracing the Real Child
The Real Jake
Body, Mind, and Soul
We Are All One
What I Do for You I Do for Me
4. Why Do We Educate?
Snake, Hawk and Bear
Desires, Survival, Competing, and Winning
Fear
The Core of Your Truth
Could There Be Something More?
Free and Full Education of Life
5. Celebrating Uniqueness
Uniqueness
John’s Story
Why is Honoring Uniqueness So Difficult for Us?
6. Rethinking Success
Sarah’s Passion
Love and Passion
Where Does Love Come From?
Balancing Knowledge and Wisdom
Hands-On Experience
Robins and Pine Trees
Dylan and the Dinosaurs
What Is Success?
Meeting Expectations
The Nature of Testing
7. Education Becomes Experience
The Role of the Educator
The Dance of Experience
Who Enables Experience?
Charlie’s Gift
Community Transformed
Teacher-Pupil Ratio
Where Will Experience Take Place?
Cross Generational Learning
8. A New Time
Time, Destination and Expectation
When Will Experience Take Place?
9. Creating Independent Learners
Fire Making With Stalking Wolf
What Is Independence?
Why Do We Turn Away From Learning?
Doing Nothing
Celebrating Struggles
Accepting Mistakes
10. Questions and Answers Support Independence
Just One Question
Asking Questions
The Questions Themselves
Seeking Answers
More Questions Than Answers
11. Finding Truth
Children Find Their Own Truths
History Is on Our Side
12. The New (Old) Role of the Earth
The Faster We Go…
Nature Connections
Earth-Time
Some Science About Brainwaves
Questions to the Earth
13. Doing Nothing
A Different World
Time to Reflect
Friend or Foe?
14. Adventures and How to Support Them
Ellie and the Blindfold Drum Stalk
Learning From the Coyote
From Straight Lines to Spheres
Adventures
15. Seven Generations
The Gifts
Looking Our Fears in the Face
The Difficult Road Becomes Easy
Seven Generations
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Acknowledgments
I believe that Bob Dylan had it right when he said the answer is …blowing in the wind.
I am grateful this one found me.
I would like to say thank you to all the children whom I have had the good fortune to have learned from and who inspire me to be more.
My gratitude goes out to everyone who has supported me in the writing of this book, particularly Rick Berry, Joanna Driver, Steve Catney, Steve Perry, Walt Gigandet, Gabriele Gandswindt, and my wonderful parents, on both sides, for their encouragement, support, and unconditional love. I learn from them every day.
I also thank Tom Brown Jr. and Grandfather Stalking Wolf for guiding me to rediscover my love for life. I hope that this book fulfills a promise I made to them both. They gave me the tools to follow a different path, to move to a different beat. I promised them that if I ever found it I would lead one more person back.
My whole-hearted appreciation goes to my two editors, Arlene Prunkl and Catherine Laurence, whose skill and professionalism were a joy to work with.
Finally I would like to thank my beautiful wife Katherine, for just being who she is.
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Introduction
Thank You
Thank you for picking this book up and opening the cover. It means you are conscious that there is so much more we can do and be for our children to allow them to experience being Truly Alive
. I doubt if there has ever been a time of greater urgency in all of human history to ask the question, why is our society not able to create children, teenagers and adults who are indeed, truly alive? Our physical future here on Earth depends on understanding deeply the answer to this challenge. If you choose to read the rest of this book, I thank you for playing a conscious, loving and peaceful role in the lives of children everywhere.
Beliefs
People intrigue me. I am fascinated with observing individuals and society and asking, why? For years, stretching back to my childhood, I wanted to understand deeply what motivates people to do the things they do and why they are the way they are. As a child, I read a book by Richard Scarry called What People Do All Day (Random House, 1968) which highlights the many different choices we have before us each day. It planted in me the seeds to continually examine the paths that people’s lives take and wonder why people make the choices they do.
When asking about a person’s motivation, each answer we discover throws up another question. Like the layers of an onion, as one layer gets peeled away another lies beneath, just waiting to be discovered. Down through these we go until we reach the very core, which for humans is made up of one thing: beliefs. People do the things they do and life happens in a certain way for them because of the beliefs they hold to be true, regardless of the extent to which these beliefs agree with reality. Perhaps a good sequel for Richard Scarry’s book could be What People Believe All Day. The whole of life stems from these beliefs: our perceptions about the world, the way we act, what we do and say, and, for the purposes of this book, how and why we guide children to discover and experience life.
The saying, You are what you eat
could just as easily read, You are what you believe
! If you believe you are happy, you will probably be happy. Believe you are poor, and life will probably show up like that for you. But then the question arises: why do we believe that life is a certain way? The answer, for almost every single person on this planet, is that this is what we have been taught. This is what parents, friends, and particularly society have told us to believe. If we are taught to believe something for almost two decades of our lives, it takes an enormous effort just to question whether it actually true for us, let alone to be able to create something different. This is especially so when everyone else has been taught the same set of beliefs, thereby reinforcing them and making them appear very real. Most of us simply follow what others have told us because that is what is considered normal
; we have never been taught any different. Our educational systems worldwide play a pivotal role in shaping society and are hugely influential in shaping individuals’ beliefs, and thus their very lives. There is a quotation, widely attributed to St. Francis Xavier, that says, Give me a child until he is seven and I will show you the man.
The implication is obviously that the importance of those first years of childhood in shaping the very nature of our lives cannot be underestimated. It is in this developmental period that beliefs, attitudes, personalities, and even our views of reality are all formed. The cake is made, as it were, in those initial years. The icing is added later in life. Thus, a great deal of what we’ll explore in this book will be the challenges that the education system has created both for the individual and for society. Life simply cannot be discussed without considering the way that children learn about it.
In my early twenties, I understood that the educational system back in my native home of England was not perfect. However, like all teachers when they start out, I wanted to make a difference in the lives of children. I also felt a strong calling to help both individuals and society. So I began my career as an elementary school teacher. It was hard work and could be extremely tiring, but most aspects were immensely satisfying. I loved being around children, watching them grow, and helping them along the path of life.
During this time, the Why?
questions intensified. I felt, as I still do, that if I could understand children better, get to the core of what makes them tick, I would be able to serve their needs better. Over the period of a few years, these questions became tinged with sadness and at times deep frustration, not at the children I was teaching, but at the very institution that purports to serve their needs. I could not (and still cannot) educate children in the way I was being asked. To my mind, so much of it was harming children, not helping them. Their natural desires to learn, to explore the world, and to have adventures were leaving them at worryingly young ages. There was so little in the English education system that honored each child as an individual. Instead, the children became points on a graph and positions in a table, taught to compete against everyone else to rise to the top. All this competition was in the name of success.
It seemed to me that the only success
it achieved was to stamp out a child’s creativity and zest for life. I found it too difficult to reconcile my differences with the system I was forced to abide by, and after just over three years, I decided to leave the government-controlled teaching profession.
My desire to help and support children intensified, but I knew it would have to take a different form; I would not have been able to live with myself otherwise. I was offered the opportunity to teach children and families how to reconnect with nature through my other passion: primitive living, or survival skills. My two mentors, Tom Brown Jr. and Rick Berry, showed me a completely different style of education called Coyote Teaching. Similar methods have been used by many indigenous peoples for centuries. Coyote Teaching has been returning to more mainstream culture first through Tom Brown Jr. (www.trackerschool.com) and now also thanks to Jon Young (www.jonyoung.org). It seeks to foster passion in the learner, and is remarkably effective at providing experiences for children that encourage them to become independent, creative beings. For me it was and continues to be fascinating to see that there are a multitude of ways to support a child’s development. Through opportunities to learn and work with Tom and Rick, I was extremely fortunate to meet a wide range of children and parents, and to learn about a variety of education philosophies. I worked with homeschooled children, families and adults, regular schoolchildren, and even Boy Scouts. It was a rich experience. I also married into a family of homeschoolers, and they gave me even further insights into the many different worlds of learning.
From Your Heart or From a Report?
There are lies, damned lies, and statistics,
said the British Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli (allegedly). He meant, of course, that it is easy to manipulate figures to get them to say anything you want. This book does not offer any statistics, latest findings, government reports, or any other facts or figures intended to shock you into action. Why? Because our lives should not be dictated by facts and figures. Life is played out in feelings and emotions. Whenever we reduce the wonder of life to mere statistics, alarm bells should start ringing. Should we seek change, for example, when 37.8 percent of a nation’s children fail at exams, or when 24.3 percent of them are clinically depressed? If we stay just below these thresholds, are those children who contribute to the statistic just the accepted collateral damage
? We like our facts and figures because we can use them to make ourselves right
and others wrong.
The Internet has proved to be a huge learning tool, because we have masses of information instantly available at our fingertips. However, it also provides us with the information to support our own views, no matter what those views are. You can find research, studies, and figures to back up just about any argument you can conceive of. This book is not an exploration into right
and wrong,
but instead focuses on the most important measurement: your feelings. I am absolutely certain you do not need government statistics to tell you what your children are feeling, or how those you teach respond to different environments and activities. This book encourages you to create change, not because the latest government report says we should, but because of what you are feeling deep in your heart. The latter is infinitely more powerful than the former.
Is This Book for You?
If you are a parent and you picked up this book because you are seeking a grander life experience for your children, this book is for you. If you are a teacher and are searching for a way to inspire children, this book is for you. And if you are an adult who is looking for ways to create a more loving and peaceful world for children, this book provides the guidance to do that. The Truly Alive Child encourages readers to think deeply about the experiences we are putting in front of the next generation. It asks us to become conscious and aware of what we are doing and who we are being for our children. It provides the means by which a child’s life experience and education (the way we learn about life) can be brought into the present moment in a loving and peaceful manner. This can be created not only by parents and teachers, but also by every individual in society. We each have a vital role to play in providing future generations with the kind of life experiences that foster love, peace, joy, and purpose.
You are invited, and given the tools, to find your own truth, to look beyond what we are all being told, far beyond conventional wisdom, and to seek a greater vision. We as adults must ask deep and meaningful questions, because they will show us where and how we can change. But we can only get close to the truth when we are willing to ask questions without deciding the answers beforehand. The Truly Alive Child guides us to ask the questions that will lead to real change in the lives of our young ones.
To create an environment for the next generations in which they no longer have to suffer fear, we must go beyond the limited viewpoint of our current educational and societal systems. To expand our views on education, we must expand our views on life itself. This book provides the framework in which we can join hands with children and walk the path of life together. In harmony, we—both adults and children—can discover who we really are. We can enjoy education, and the experience of being alive, as never before.
The Truly Alive Child explores where we are now, and where we could be if we begin to make certain simple, conscious choices. It looks at our current beliefs and explains how they have come to create an education system and life experience based in fear. Most importantly, it also shows how by changing these beliefs we can create a world that encourages children to be lifelong learners and lovers of life.
The messages contained in this book are like life itself in that everything is interconnected. It is impossible to consider any one thing in isolation. As we keep circling around, it may seem that points are being repeated, but it is like building a house of bricks: the next layer is always being added. As long as we continue to grow, we are moving toward an ever greater understanding of ourselves and the world around us.
This is not a prescriptive book. There are no suggestions for what facts children should learn, or what they should be able to do at certain ages. There are no recommendations on how, for example, we can teach science better or mathematics more efficiently. It is not about how we can squeeze another drop of progress
out of children. Instead, this books looks deeply into how we can provide an environment for children that encourages them to discover their deepest potential. It provides us with ways in which we can support children in how to be creative, not what to create, and in how to be successful, not what to be successful at.
Children have brought me some of my happiest and most fulfilling experiences. They have led me to a greater understanding of the world around me, and shown me what it is to be truly alive. I hope and pray we can find a way to serve them as life intended: with humility, reverence, and unconditional love.
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Chapter 1
Creating Change
For man, as for flower and beast and bird, the supreme triumph is to be most vividly, most perfectly alive.
~David Herbert Lawrence
Our Greatest Challenge
Can there be anything in life more sacred, more uplifting or more perfect than simply watching a young child at play? Children find eternity in a puddle of mud. They sense wonder in the flutter of a butterfly’s wings. They squeal with delight at the ocean waves chasing after their feet. They follow the calling of their soul, without question, wherever it may take them, for it is the only guide they need. They give their love freely and without condition, because they feel the whole of creation wrapping and embracing them in the safety and compassion of its bosom. Young children radiate with joy for no apparent reason. It is as if just being alive is cause enough for them to celebrate,