The Other Woman: Healing from Bondage

By Ayanna Brown

In this book she will no longer be discussed in hushed tones or in vague manners, the other woman will be exposed for who she really is. The mirror is turned on the Other Woman and the woman who looks back will surprise you. She is not only exposed, but deliverance is made available to her. Learn effective tools to be healed from the bondage of living the life as the other woman.

Sexual sin, complacency (in mediocrity) and ungodly compromise are just a few of the components of the nature of "The Other Woman", she has a past, present and she will be around in the future. The question is will that Other Woman walk in the healing from the bondage of that lifestyle.

• Language: English
• Publisher: True Vine Publishing Inspire, Empower, Produce
• Release date: Jun 4, 2012
• ISBN: 9781476489803

Ayanna Brown

L. Ayanna Brown holds a Masters degree from Teachers College, Columbia University and a Bachelors degree from Wesleyan University. She is the author of Words of My Mouth, Meditations of My Heart and the featured spoken word artist on the "It's Time" audio CD. She is the producer and director of the annual Speak It Collections production, "The Poetry Nook: More than Just Poetry" grassroots theatre with a positive message. L. Ayanna is also the Founder and Executive Director of AFCOM: Ambassadors for Christ Outreach Ministry Inc., a Christian faith based community service organization based in Mount Vernon, NY.

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The Other Woman

L. Ayanna Brown

Copyright 2008 by L. Ayanna Brown

Published by True Vine Publishing Company at Smashwords

ISBN: 0-9786088-5-2

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Scripture quotations taken from the Holy Bible, King James Version, New King James Version, and NIV.

Cover design by Michael Thompson: www.MichaelDavidMedia.com

Dedication

To my father, Pastor Edward L. Brown, whose sermon, The Other Woman taken from the text of Ruth, Naomi and Orpah, planted the seed for this book. Dad, I love and appreciate you for who you are.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Introduction 1

Chapter 1: The Other Woman

Chapter 2: Who Is the Other Woman Really?

Chapter 3: Still Settling? The Other Mentality

Chapter 4: The Spirit of the Other Woman

Chapter 5: Other Woman Be Thou Healed

Chapter 6: Rise from Your Rut!

Conclusion

Acknowledgments

HALLELUJAH JESUS! I thank and praise my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for His mercy, kindness and purpose in my life. I am thankful for knowing that His word will not return unto Him void but will fulfill its purpose in the very thing to which it was sent. I am grateful to know that everything I have experienced and will experience will only make me stronger and will be a blessing to others. We overcome by the words of our testimonies. I want to say thank you to the men and women who shared their stories for this book. It is because of your willingness to share your experience that others will grow and benefit. You know who you are. Thank you to my mother and my family who always asked when the book will be released and wouldn’t let me forget this project. It has taken some time, but now it is here. As always thank you to my church family, Abundant Love Apostolic Church in Mount Vernon, New York for your support and encouragement. A special thanks to First Lady Sarah Brown, Roxanne Smalls, Roschelle Salmon McKenzie and Pastor David E. Dean, II., for your input in the first drafts of this book. I couldn’t leave out my publisher, Timothy Bond whose personal touch eases the publishing process. May God continue to increase your clientele. God bless you. Thank you everyone.

Introduction

It was twelve noon and I answered my office line, Hello. The familiar voice of my boyfriend, the one with whom, I was in love, the one with whom I had hoped to spend the rest of my life, was on the other end. In a grave tone he asks, How much do you love me? Slightly confused and troubled by his tone and the question I respond, more than I can ever express, you mean the world to me. He says, I have two things to tell you. Every sense in my body tells me something is terribly wrong, and my heart begins to beat extremely fast. My temperature rises and my flesh feels hot. He says rather quietly, about seven months ago, I cheated on you with a woman you know and I know it is seven months, because, he pauses, that’s how many months she is pregnant. Silence, knowing the woman he was referring to, my heart dropped, everything stood still, the tears flowed like a fountain and the only words I could say was, you don’t even realize how much I hate the both of you right now. I hung up, knowing, that was the end of our relationship.

For three years, prior to that day at work, I remained in a relationship with a man that God told me was not the one for me. Throughout that time, I had an inkling of his infidelity with various women but chose to deny it and believe his lies. I am a woman that has been hurt by and has been the other woman. I was operating as the other woman, through my settling and compromising (which are the characteristics and mindset of the other woman), rather than as God’s woman.

In hindsight, I recognize that my spirit wouldn’t allow me to be content in ungodly relationships, substandard job positions, or with mediocre thoughts because that was not the design God created for me. Those characteristics of the other woman, were not in God’s plan for me. Out of this wilderness period, as I refer to it, the Lord began to expose to me the spirit of the other woman, and the actions of other-ness that operate in so many of His children’s lives: these actions are compromise, settling for mediocrity and sexual sin.

The journey in writing this book has been an interesting one. The Holy Ghost has corrected, instructed and reminded me of who I am and where I have been throughout this process called life. God has blessed me with the ability to empathize with other people’s situations, feelings and circumstances, and to vividly express those emotions through writing. This book has been written through experience, by divine inspiration and much biblical research.

God planted the seed for this book before I was even conceived, but I had to be taken through a process in order for this book to come forth. Let me take you back to how this process began. Shortly after completing graduate school, I had a new car, a professional position, a serious relationship with my first love and I had just completed my second degree. My desire to seek the Lord and to be pleasing to Him was sincere, but at that time I was very naive and vulnerable to the pitfalls of the