So you’re dating someone new - would you want to know if someone else had intel about them before you went on a date? Or would you want to find out if anyone had dated (or was currently dating) your long-term partner? Julie and Yue debate the pros and cons of these ‘Are we dating the same person?’ groups and if they are helpful or harmful to your dating life. We discuss the concept of paying it forward to other daters, why it doesn’t always to work to skip to the end, and how to use these groups more effectively if you do choose to engage.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEHoney Pot: Get 25% off your first order of personal care products such as washes, wipes, pads, tampons, and probiotics: http://thehoneypot.co/summerHelloFresh: Get 16 free meals plus free shipping by going to hellofresh.com/dateable16 and use the code DATEABLE16Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: http://www.armoire.style* Check out Hinge: https://hinge.co/* Check out VIIA and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://viiahemp.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy