Licensed therapist Carlos Cavazos is a firecracker and an incredible source of insights and easy-to-use advice for more fulfilling relationships and hotter sex. In this episode we discuss:

How to take care of yourself first when you are accustomed to caring for others (personally and/or professionally)
The difference between independence, inter-dependence, and co-dependence
How to set healthy boundaries this holiday season
How to overcome negative-filtering, so that you can be happier in love and life
Exercises to support your mental health
How to make the festive season kinky and have more exciting sex
Sploshing and cake-sitting
Adult baby diaper lovers (ABDL)
How to reduce the stress of hyper-vigilance
How to use Naughty and Nice lists to spice things up

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Holiday Kink, Rewiring the Brain, ABDL & Setting Boundaries

00:00:05 - 00:05:03

You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can us tonight. Hey Hey hope. Everyone's doing well out there today. We have a very special guests. And we're going to be talking about how to take care of yourself when you're taking care of others will be talking about mental. Health will be skipping over the pond to Kink and holiday king and more and do you hear him already. He's a shining star. This is Carlos Kvassov's sexologist therapist and host of ask Carlos on Youtube. Thanks for being here. Thank you so much for having me. I am like super excited guys. Doctor Jazz has been like a huge inspiration. So is excited with like this sex goddess recording. This so excited I think I'm just more the sex expert goddess. Not The sex. Go One day. I'M GONNA go back into the bedroom and be an actual sex gone. There's always sign. There's always I got. I got time now. So you're a therapist and you actually come from a mental health background. You do a ton of work in sexuality which I WANNA get to buy. Your background is in mental health. And you're working with people with severe mental illness. Illness in Texas. Can you tell us a little bit about kind of the a typical client. And you think you're working for an insurance company right so I mean. The typical clients are have a severe severe mental. Illness like schizophrenia. Any of bipolar major depression. But they are towards the like almost like really difficult to function kind of level so kinda borderline align on high functioning to severe functioning severely mentally ill. So sometimes they'll be they'll be able to have a conversation with you. Oh and other days. We'll just be so paranoid. It makes it a little difficult to work with that Scott Peterson's when you are working without population and you're mentioning that you have a lot of patients you're able to manage these case loads and I'm in a different vote. I like to work with groups. Mice strength isn't working in the one on one and I joke that maybe it has to do with my avoiding of intimacy intimate conversation just a personality thing right what you're good at and you know where your strengths lie. I find it emotionally draining. It is yeah. How do you manage taking care of yourself emotionally whe...