In this episode, queer astrologer Colin Bedell and I problematize outdated gay stereotypes, such as masc4masc and Grindr Tribes through a critical lens, tieing this to the subject of homonormativity. We talk about the origins of homonormativity in heterosexual patriarchal systems, how queer men can work towards dismantling patriarchy, and the importance of healing our relationships with straight men. We also discuss ways of overcoming judgment within the LGBTQIA+ community, whether Grindr tribes help or limit our sexual experiences, and Colin also shares astrological updates related to these topics.
Can't Host is a gay men’s sex and relationships podcast aiming to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, and explore the complex dynamics of gay relationships, with the aim of creating opportunities for healing and growth. We'll discuss whether size matters, question the top/bottom binary, talk about healing sexual trauma, how to overcome dick- and body-shame, falling out of love with someone, homonormativity, and more. If you're a gay guy who's frustrated with the rigid rules of the gay community, seeking more joy and authenticity in your sex life and relationships, you're in the right place!
About Me
I’m George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening.
Yet, my gay dating life since hasn’t always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can’t Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/
About Colin
Colin Bedell is a queer Gemini Twin from Long Island, New York.  He's a passionate student of secular personal-growth systems, and the universal spiritual themes explored in A Course in Miracles. Well & Good Magazine listed Colin as one of the most influential people in the wellness industry and as a 2020 Innovator. Complementing his work with QueerCosmos, Colin's the weekly horoscope writer for Cosmopolitan.com. He’s the #1 bestselling author of A Little Bit of Astrology, Queer Cosmos: The Astrology of Queer Identities & Relationships, and Gemini. Most recently, he was on 'Written in the Stars,' an astrology-based dating show premiering on Discovery Plus in November 2022.
Colin's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queercosmos/
Colin's website: https://www.queercosmos.com/
Queer Cosmos book: https://www.amazon.com/Queer-Cosmos-Astrology-Identities-Relationships/dp/1627782931/
A Little Bit of Astrology book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1454932236/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1
Gemini book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1454938935/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i2 
Resources Mentioned
Homonormativity definition: https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/01/homonormativity-101/
Connect With Me
Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/
Website: https://georgelizos.com/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos
Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/
My Books
Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj
Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf
Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd