"When love speaks and both sides listen, hearts connect and healing begins." In this episode on the Deconstructing Mamas podcast, Shelby, author of that quote, and her daughter, Kahrin, share their heart-breaking and hope-filled "coming in" story about the journey to healing for both of them after Kahrin discovers that she likes girls.Shelby and Kahrin's fierce desire to finding healing and love after years of hopelessness and destruction from rigid faith systems and toxic beliefs will leave you dumbfounded, grabbing for tissues and a lot more healed yourself. If you know someone, love someone or are someone who lands outside the "heteronormative box" or you are wondering how and where to land on this emotionally-charged topic, this episode is for you. Give a listen. We promise that you won't regret it.SHOW NOTES:Shelby Spear, mom of three grown kids, wife to one very good guy (as she likes to call him) and author of the book, How are You Feeling Mama (You Don't Need to Say "I'm Fine"), and her daughter, artist and musician, Kahrin Spear, are family not because they have to be, but because they want to be.Shelby's words help all moms to feel safe pulling back the veil on all the broken and challenging parts of motherhood while embracing the laughter and joy of the beautiful moments. She is also a Certified Emotional Intelligence Coach, Certified Meditation Teacher (CMT), speaker, and love enthusiast who is passionate about helping others "change the way they look at things so the things they look at change." When you visit her website, you will feel a rush of grace in every direction.Named after several generations of women in her family, Kahrin's voice is PURE (the meaning of her beautiful and unique name) and soothing, not only to the ear, but to the soul. She is an indie/folk singer-songwriter from Cleveland, OH.  And simply put, she writes music to help people heal, herself included.Websites:  www.shelbyspear.com   www.kahrinmusicofficial.com   www.lovespeaks.life Facebook: Shelby Spear, Author  Kahrin Music Official Instagram:  Shelby Spear    Kahrin Music Official  OTHER MENTIONS:Glennon DoyleAbby WambachEmily P. Freeman