Even in fourth grade, Barb knew they had to get out. They had seen David Bowie in drag on SNL and realized there was something better out there, something that felt right.  Sometimes the binary – whether that be for gender, sex, or position in bed – just doesn’t honor everything we are. So we go punk rock and say f*ck it. In this episode, we’re talking to musician, Billboard Platinum music producer, author, and overall icon Barb Morrison. We're renegotiating what gender, sex, and everything in between means to us, and how that drives what we ask for–and who we become–in our relationships. Here’s some insight Barb gives us throughout the episode: Gender is who you want to be, sexuality is who you want to f*ck What it’s like knowing who you are but not having the words to describe it (yet) Discovering your sexuality can happen through cartoon characters, crushes on 2nd grade teachers, punk rock, maybe even a gay boyfriend or two Sometimes we just need to bottom for God and accept whatever love (or lessons) the universe has in store for us Life is a tragedy in close up and a comedy when you zoom out…it’s good to trust that there’s a bigger picture Exploring our roles and possibilities in the bedroom is essential, as is investigating your desires Sex evolves in a partnership, and it can be seen as connection and communication just as much as a tool for pleasure If you’re still thinking about Tom of Finland (as we are), check out this WikiWant more Barb? Learn more about them here. Pre-order Barb's book “Bottoming For God” here!While you’re at it, find them online: www.barbmorrisonmusic.com  https://www.instagram.com/barb__morrison/ https://twitter.com/barbmorrison https://www.instagram.com/bottomingforgod/Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online and join our mailing list at www.hotterthaneverpod.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpodYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453