In this episode, Aaron discusses the significance of processing emotions in a healthy way, how being the underdog fuels her, and what it was like to win the Ultimate Fighter Season 30 with his guest Juliana "Killer" Miller.  Juliana gets emotional as she shares personal stories of triumph and pain, almost quitting MMA fighting and signing up to become a military pilot, but found someone who believed in her and encouraged her to keep going. Juliana also gets candid about how sex sells and how, on social media,  changing her physical appearance from sweating in the gym to looking attractive helps her financially and in her career as she strives to become more than a fighter in the world of MMA.  She emphasizes the importance of being 100% committed and consistent in pursuing goals, and how sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom to make a change. She shares her personal experience of feeling frustrated and angry, but finding release and a healthier way to channel her emotions through martial arts, which helped her deal with manic depression and learn how to overcome it. She believes that incorporating self-defense and emotional intelligence programs into school districts can have a positive impact on children's lives and help them develop important life skills. Overall, the episode emphasizes the importance of taking action and making positive changes in one's life to achieve success and happiness. [00:00:00] Overcoming fear in MMA. [00:07:36] Fighting for financial stability. [00:12:30] Overcoming childhood trauma. [00:17:00] Traumatic relationship and fighting. [00:19:29] Women's self-defense seminar. [00:22:21] Incorporating self-defense in schools. [00:26:05] Surviving rock bottom moments. [00:30:18] Overcoming mental obstacles. [00:36:02] Learning to forgive oneself. [00:39:37] Forgiveness and trauma. [00:41:57] Breaking the abuse cycle.  [00:45:30] Overcoming adversity and commitment. [00:49:09] Procrastination and change. [00:52:18] Changing gender roles. [00:56:15] Women & femininity in combat sports. [01:03:32] The highs and lows of fighting. [01:07:00] Dealing with a tough loss and finding gratitude. [01:25:29] The meaning of "bushi".  [01:50:15] Moving forward after tragedy. [02:00:22] Controlled chaos in fighting. Quotes:  "But it might sound funny, but like I'm comfortable in the underdog position. Every time people write me off and are like, she's going to lose, I shock the world." "Defend yourself at all times, which correlated to my life huge because I had been through so many things from childhood." "My life's purpose is to help protect the youth by creating systems that will change the world." "I think the moral of the story is everything is possible as long as you want it." "The universe does not like wishy-washy half-ass attempts at things." "If you're a hot girl, you're going to get paid 10 times more." "shoot your shot a thousand times, baby, because eventually, it's going to land." "When you get around people that are winning, it just oozes into you in some weird energetic way."   Connect with Juliana:  IG: /https://www.instagram.com/killermillermma   Connect with Aaron:⁠   Website: http://www.chatsandtatts.com⁠ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chatsandtatts  IG: http://www.instagram.com/chatsandtatts Chats & Tatts YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/chatsandtatts Aaron IG:⁠ http://www.instagram.com/aarondellavedova⁠ Guru Tattoo: http://www.Gurutattoo.com