When we take ourselves too seriously, we can snuff out the playful eros energy that keeps relationships vibrant and alive.

After all, the happiest marriages thrive, rather than just survive. They are joyful because each person feels free to fully be themselves—without the need to pretend or contort themselves to earn approval.

Making room for two people to be true to themselves and the relationship is where the real magic happens.

I recently met with Dr. Jerry and Tammie Duggar of the Simple 7 Lifestyle Podcast to discuss how couples can find more happiness and a deeper sense of freedom in their relationships, and how the quality of our relationships impacts both our mental and physical health.