Dave: Shame blocks connection

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Dave: Shame blocks connection

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32 minutes

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Nov 26, 2018

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Shame keeps Dave from connecting with other people. He finds a way to reach toward Hillary.

Released:

Nov 26, 2018

Format:

Podcast episode

Titles in the series (46)

Real people. Real problems. Real talk. Normally, therapy sessions are totally confidential — but this podcast opens the doors. Hillary McBride and her clients want to help demystify mental health. No actors. No auditions. No artifice. This is what people really sound like when they talk about traumatic births, turbulent divorces, eating disorders and tough childhoods.

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OPP Extra - Hillary McBride interview: Creator and producer of Other People's Problems Jodie Martinson sits down with Hillary to explain how OPP was made, and what challenges they faced in putting it together. by Other People's Problems
14 min listen
Franklyn: Heartbreak in a digital world: Franklyn revokes his access to tracking his ex-wife's whereabouts through her phone. It's his last connection to her. by Other People's Problems
23 min listen
Belle: The eating disorder voice inside: Belle has a voice inside her head that torments her with messages of self-hate. She turns to food to feel better. Hillary tries to help her with a therapy called EMDR. by Other People's Problems
24 min listen
Megan and Clark: Learning how to be married all over again: Megan and Clark are going through some major life changes. Clark welcomes the change. Megan is supportive yet can't help but miss what's been lost along the way. by Other People's Problems
32 min listen
Sloane: Childhood trauma changes everything: Sloane is planning her wedding, but childhood memories make her fearful of what could go horribly wrong. Although she's excited to start a new stage of her life, she's having nightmares of her wedding day. They all revolve around her mother. by Other People's Problems
27 min listen
Maggie: When good moms need to be bad: Sometimes we use thrills - even illegal ones - to lift our mood when we're feeling down. Maggie is a stay-at-home mom who struggles with the humdrum of raising little ones. But can she find a way to feel proud and powerful without resorting to destructive thrills? by Other People's Problems
25 min listen
OPP Extra - 'Maggie' interview: 'Maggie' talks with OPP creator and producer Jodie Martinson about what it was like to be a part of the podcast, and how the microphone in the room affected her. by Other People's Problems
15 min listen
Guided meditation: Ease your anxiety: Host Hillary McBride advises her client Hannah to listen to a guided mediation on her commute to help ease her anxiety. Here's one for you to use, with Hillary as your guide. by Other People's Problems
10 min listen
Hannah: Coping with anxiety: Hannah's anxiety is out of control and that's making it hard to get through her day at work. by Other People's Problems
26 min listen
Hillary's podcast pick: Mic Drop: If you liked how Other People's Problems let you into the minds and hearts of ordinary people you'll love Mic Drop. Listen in as teenagers share their mood-swinging, dream-chasing, rule-breaking dramas and adventures. by Other People's Problems
11 min listen
Andrew: Unlocking memories of childhood sexual abuse: As a teenager, Andrew was sexually abused by someone he trusted. Even though the perpetrator was an adult, and to an outsider it would be a clear case of child sexual abuse, the experience felt more complex to him at the time. by Other People's Problems
30 min listen
Patti: Birth trauma: The birth of Patti's son still haunts her today. What can she do to overcome those memories that are keeping her stuck in guilt and regret? by Other People's Problems
20 min listen
Sloane: Putting a name on this problem: Hillary introduces Sloane to the idea of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder to help her understand why she feels so overwhelmed at times. But will the diagnosis help Sloane feel more or less empowered to change? by Other People's Problems
27 min listen
Ethan: Space for a new baby: Hillary works with Ethan to imagine playing and connecting with his new baby. He's worked for years to process the terrifying experience of almost losing his wife during the birth of their first child. by Other People's Problems
26 min listen
Patti: Giving until it's all gone: Patti strives to be perfect and does so much for her son and husband. Hillary helps her see that giving even more is not the answer. by Other People's Problems
24 min listen
Dave: Shame blocks connection: Shame keeps Dave from connecting with other people. He finds a way to reach toward Hillary. by Other People's Problems
32 min listen
Franklyn: Carrying old hurt into new love: Franklyn has begun dating again after his divorce. But hurt and fear from the past are making it hard for him to dive in to new love. by Other People's Problems
24 min listen
Layla: Healing from rape: *Warning: This episode details a sexual assault and may be triggering for some listeners. A chance encounter at the pool has triggered Layla to remember a sexual assault. In this session, she begins to heal. by Other People's Problems
41 min listen
Ellie: Abusive with me, but loves our daughter: Ellie's decision to leave her abusive relationship has restored her sparkle. But how does she foster a good relationship between him and their daughter without getting hurt again? by Other People's Problems
25 min listen
Other People's Problems live! "Family Inheritance": Recorded in front of a live theatre audience at the HotDocs Podcast Festival, Hillary McBride discusses how our families shape us for better and for worse by digging deeper into Sloane's story and her own. Featuring special expert panellists Kwame McKenzie and Tina Malti. by Other People's Problems
49 min listen
Maggie: It's okay to feel good: "You don't get rid of shadow, you learn how to use it. There is strength and goodness and power even in the shadow" - Hillary by Other People's Problems
29 min listen
Lu Ripley: Talking about suicide (Special guest): *Warning: This episode references suicide and may be triggering for some listeners. When someone you love is suicidal, talking about it is daunting. In this podcast extra, host Hillary McBride, producer Jodie Martinson, and expert guest Lu Ripley get real about how to have candid conversations and ask that terrifying question: "Do you want to kill yourself?" by Other People's Problems
22 min listen
Louise: Surviving an eating disorder and COVID-19 (Plus, a special interview with Hillary): Louise had to be hospitalized because of anorexia. In the hospital, she contracted COVID-19 and has had to be isolated for weeks. She and Hillary speak compassionately to the eating disorder part of Louise for how it has helped her cope with her suffering, and ask it to move aside so that the real Louise, the parts of her that want to live fully, can begin to take over. Plus, we hear a candid interview with Hillary, who has personal experience with an eating disorder. NOTE: This conversation was recorded over video conferencing software over weak hospital wifi, and the audio quality is hard to understand at times. We’ve done our best to improve it but recommend listening in a quiet space with good headphones. by Other People's Problems
35 min listen
Sloane: Ending it with an abusive mom: As Sloane prepares to welcome her first child, she confronts the painful relationship she has with her own mother and her wish the relationship could end. by Other People's Problems
28 min listen
Belle: Suicide and parental guilt: *Warning: This episode references suicide and may be triggering for some listeners. Belle is feeling suicidal and like a bad parent. Hillary talks with her about the idea of a "good enough" mom. by Other People's Problems
32 min listen
Andrew: Opening up during lockdown: Andrew has been working on connecting with others. Although he is making great strides, Andrew is finding it hard to connect with his wife. As the corona virus forces him to close his restaurant and isolate at home with his family, Andrew must get vulnerable and ask for what he's been longing for — intimacy. by Other People's Problems
26 min listen
Louise: Ready to feel alive: It’s been a few weeks since we released a bonus episode from Louise about being hospitalized for anorexia and contracting COVID-19 in the hospital. Now, she’s home, healing, and determined to take steps toward recovering from her eating disorder and letting her true self shine through. by Other People's Problems
35 min listen
Tom: Riding big waves of emotion: Tom connects with Hillary over Zoom during a lunch break at work. He's been working to understand and experience his emotions, connect with his wife and kids, and compassionately factor in his ADHD. Hillary is amazed at how far Tom has come from their first session to where he is today, taking the time to take care of himself, and model for his kids how to express big feelings appropriately when they come up. by Other People's Problems
30 min listen
Introducing Food, We Need to Talk: Food, We Need to Talk from WBUR follows one woman's quest to end her war with food. Hosts Juna Gjata and Dr. Eddie Phillips wield solid science, medical knowledge, common sense and an endless supply of dad jokes to teach us how to eat better and feel better about it. by Other People's Problems
4 min listen
Guided meditation: "Feel life flowing through your feet”: Slow down today and join Dr. Hillary for five minutes of mindfulness. This meditation, which she wrote, is intended to help you feel grounded and more at ease. (If you're too busy today, then you may want to play it twice.) by Other People's Problems
6 min listen

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Other People’s Problems Introduces: Let’s Not Be Kidding with Gavin Crawford: If laughter really was the best medicine, Gavin Crawford would have cured his mother of Alzheimer’s disease. As a son, his mother’s dementia has been devastating. As a comedian though…it’s been sort of funny. Honestly, how do you respond when your mom confuses you with her teenage crush and wants you to take her to the high-school dance? Well, you laugh. Because it’s the only thing you can do. In this seven-part series, Gavin tells the story of losing his mother — his best friend and the inspiration for a lot of his comedy — to a disease that can be as hilarious as it is heartbreaking. He’s joined by comedian friends who share their experience caring for family members with dementia. The result is a cross between an improv act and a support group. Part memoir, part stand-up, part meditation on grief and loss, Let’s Not Be Kidding is a dose of the very best medicine for anyone dealing with hard times. More epi by Other People's Problems
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Patti: You don’t need to be perfect to be lovable: A COVID scare in the kids’ group Patti manages wakes up the perfectionist inside her — the part of her that feels she needs to be perfect in order to deserve connection with others. She and Dr. Hillary trace this feeling back to her younger years, and help Patti draw from her personal growth to comfort that version of herself. by Other People's Problems
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Guided meditation: The shape of breathing: As we wind down the season, Dr. Hillary McBride invites you to catch your breath and feel yourself in this particular moment. Imagining as you exhale that this breath could support you in the practice of letting go. by Other People's Problems
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Kristin: Let yourself be excited about friendship: Kristin recognizes she feels isolated and alone, at least in part because she’s kept people at a distance to protect herself from getting hurt. Dr. Hillary uses her own relationship with Kristin to model friendship and the excitement that can come from deep connection. by Other People's Problems
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Vanessa: Surviving the fear that 'everyone leaves': Dr. Hillary needs to tell her longtime client Vanessa that she’s pregnant and that they'll soon need to take a break, when Hillary goes on maternity leave. This is hard to hear for Vanessa, who has been left, physically and emotionally, by important people in her life when she needed them most. Hillary helps Vanessa navigate the pain of feeling abandoned while also assuring her: although their situation will change, their bond is secure. by Other People's Problems
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Hannah: Stop pleasing and start trusting connection: Hannah has found a range of ways to earn love and protect herself from getting hurt. In Dr. Hillary McBride’s words, she “has found a way to stay connected to people by figuring out who they want her to be, and then being that.” The two work to help Hannah trust that she can show up as her authentic self, and to believe that she is lovable as she is. by Other People's Problems
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Ethan: A deep political rift in the family: Ethan’s parents have become committed to extreme right wing ideologies, which they keep pushing on Ethan. He has tried and failed to explain to them why their views are harmful. Now, in the midst of helping his wife deal with a health crisis, Ethan has decided to step away from his relationship with his parents, despite how much it hurts. Dr. Hillary helps him navigate his grief. by Other People's Problems
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Julia: Hiding away the hard parts: As someone who has struggled with addiction and a bipolar diagnosis, Julia carefully hides away parts of herself. Dr. Hillary McBride helps her embrace her complexity, and reconcile it with her new identity as mom. “Your identity was never in addiction, was never in illness, your identity has always been something much deeper.” by Other People's Problems
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Guided meditation: "Feel life flowing through your feet”: Slow down today and join Dr. Hillary for five minutes of mindfulness. This meditation, which she wrote, is intended to help you feel grounded and more at ease. (If you're too busy today, then you may want to play it twice.) by Other People's Problems
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Coming soon: Season 4 of Other People's Problems: What does it mean to come out of isolation? In a year where we’ve needed it, this season is all about reconnecting with ourselves and one another. Dr. Hillary McBride helps her clients talk through a range of issues heightened by these uncertain times. An all new season of Other People’s Problems begins May 18, 2021. by Other People's Problems
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Andrew: Unlocking memories of childhood sexual abuse: As a teenager, Andrew was sexually abused by someone he trusted. Even though the perpetrator was an adult, and to an outsider it would be a clear case of child sexual abuse, the experience felt more complex to him at the time. by Other People's Problems
30 min listen
Louise: Surviving an eating disorder and COVID-19 (Plus, a special interview with Hillary): Louise had to be hospitalized because of anorexia. In the hospital, she contracted COVID-19 and has had to be isolated for weeks. She and Hillary speak compassionately to the eating disorder part of Louise for how it has helped her cope with her suffering, and ask it to move aside so that the real Louise, the parts of her that want to live fully, can begin to take over. Plus, we hear a candid interview with Hillary, who has personal experience with an eating disorder. NOTE: This conversation was recorded over video conferencing software over weak hospital wifi, and the audio quality is hard to understand at times. We’ve done our best to improve it but recommend listening in a quiet space with good headphones. by Other People's Problems
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Lacey: Healing from a neglectful mother: Growing up, there was a lot of conflict in Lacey’s family. After her parents divorced, the conflict stopped, but Lacey and her sister were often left alone. By connecting with her younger self, Lacey realises what she was missing: being seen and loved just as she is. Now, Lacey is doing her best to let go of the childhood patterns — the shield — that once protected her, in hopes of creating healthier ways of being for herself and her children. by Other People's Problems
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Andrew: Opening up during lockdown: Andrew has been working on connecting with others. Although he is making great strides, Andrew is finding it hard to connect with his wife. As the corona virus forces him to close his restaurant and isolate at home with his family, Andrew must get vulnerable and ask for what he's been longing for — intimacy. by Other People's Problems
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Dave: Shame blocks connection

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