Chasing hot and cold behavior, tolerating inconsistency & trying to change emotional unavailability doesn’t sound attractive, so why the F is it attractive to some of us? Does the truth lie within our nervous system? Sarah Murphy, biology of trauma expert, would say yes and that someone with a dysregulated nervous system, who is wired for a high baseline of stress, will find stable relationships and people *boring* and will search for a chemical cocktail of excitement from people who are just not quite right for them. The pair get into: How attraction ties back to our nervous systemWhy we keep attracting the same types of people repeatedlyWhy we search for a highs through romantic love and romantic dramaWhy stable relationships feel so boring to some of usWhy Mr. Nice Guy, or Mr. Nice Girl can feel so uncomfortable tooWhy the spark disappears as the relationship progressesThe biology of the ick‘Love addiction’ and whether being addicted to someone is the same as being addicted to a drugThe biochemical drivers of cheatingLouise also shares her experience of how her ex reaching out to her after two years impacted her on a VERY interesting biochemical level. ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––LILYBOD 30% OFF This episode is sponsored by Lilybod. To redeem your 30% off click here, using code OPENHOUSE at check out:  https://lilybod.com/Louise selects:Baseline Legging - https://lilybod.com/products/c12-leggings-baseline-black?_pos=1&_sid=aba8df7b0&_ss=rSam Shelf Bra - https://lilybod.com/collections/tops/products/lilybod-sam-shelf-bra-top-tarmac-black-lc95-tbAstrid Sports Bra - https://lilybod.com/products/c12-sports-bra-astrid-tarmac-black?_pos=1&_sid=f23f65ea9&_ss=rHarmony Ribbed Tank - https://lilybod.com/products/core-collection-top-harmony-ribbed-tank-white?_pos=2&_psq=ribbed%20tank%20white&_ss=e&_v=1.0Layla Sweater - https://lilybod.com/collections/tops/products/c14-tops-jackets-layla-obsidian-grayThe Mental Health Mushroom - LIONS MANE - 20% OFF with code OPENHOUSE: https://mytwentytwo.co.uk/––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumballFollow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselifeConnect with Sarah on Instagram: @thepotentplantSign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––