Why is understanding our uniqueness important to having great sex? What is the dual control model in the context of sexuality and how does it affect our desire? What steps can we take to develop a healthy relationship with sex and sexuality after experiencing trauma or sex negative conditioning?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline have a rich conversation with Dr. Emily Nagoski about how the societal scripts we are handed according to our sex-at-birth impact our sexual expression and how these scripts are endorsed through many channels throughout our lives. Emily explains how there are accelerators and brakes that calibrate our desire and talks about her upcoming book about the three characteristics of the couples who sustained strong sexual connection.Recommended books that you have to check out:Come As You AreBurnoutThe Come As You Are WorkbookThe Body Keeps the ScoreMagnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary LoversTo learn more about Emily Nagoski, PH.D (she/her/they)Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist. IG: @enagoskiTikTok: @emilynagoskiWebsite: emilynagoski.comEmily’s NewsletterCome As You Are PodcastSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comLeave us a voicemail: 646-450-9079 Join the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes