We're kicking off season 5 with a real bang as Hannah is joined by Emily Nagoski, who is a sex educator and author of Come As You Are and Burnout. If you've been listening to this podcast for a while, you've absolutely heard Hannah fangirl about her before! Emily takes us through the very important differences between pleasure, arousal, desire, and consent and Hannah and Emily talk about responsive and spontaneous desire and how the model of responsive desire can be misunderstood and cause some ethical problems. They also get into stress and the impact of stress on sexual desire, what the stress cycle is and how you can complete it even if the thing that is stressing you out won't go away. Finally they chat about Emily's new book that she's writing currently, the world of sex research, and arousal non-concordance. Nerd out with us and welcome to season 5!!CW: rape culture, sexual assaultMORE ABOUT EMILY NAGOSKIEMILY NAGOSKI is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/emilynagoski- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enagoski/?CHECK OUT THE SHOW NOTES ?https://doingitpodcast.co.uk✨CONNECT WITH US ✨https://www.instagram.com/doingitpodcasthttps://twitter.com/doingitpodcast?WANT EARLY & AD-FREE ACCESS TO EPISODES??https://www.patreon.com/hannahwitton✏️SIGN UP TO OUR NEWSLETTER✏️http://bit.ly/HannahWittonsNewsletter