Is there a particular behaviour by your partner that you find intensely and frequently  irritating, frustrating, dismissive or irksome? Do you know how to effectively let your partner how you feel and what change you want to see?  In today's episode we talk about an effective way of  communicating that can enable a behaviour change in your partner. We discuss the  4 step Feedback Wheel structure as suggested by Terrence Real in his book 'The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work'.1.  Describe (as neutrally as a recording video camera) what you saw or heard2. Describe what you made up about this situation (your interpretation of events)3. Let your partner know how you feel about this situation 4. Make a request for a change: what you would like to see happen (your request has to be viable and measurable)If you enjoy our podcast, please leave us a review. For Apple Podcast this is most easily done via your iPhone. If you have an android phone, please leave a review on Amazon, Spotify, iTunes or any  other platform that you are using.Suggestions for a podcast? We'd love to hear from you. Please email us at info@therelationshipmaze.comThe Relationship Maze courses:What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.