Porn is commonly used to accompany masturbation. So how can you enjoy porn ethically, so there’s more of the pleasure and less of the guilt?    On this episode, Sara chats with erotic filmmaker Paulita Pappel (www.paulitapappel.com) on what constitutes “ethical porn” and how to consume it in a healthy and responsible way. As someone who has been both in front and behind the camera, Paulita shares her journey into erotic filmmaking and how she defines her role as a feminist in the industry.   She shares her personal motivations around starting Lustery, a shame-free space for people to share home-made videos of their love and lust with the world.   We also discuss the changing conversation around porn, which is becoming more nuanced and take some time to challenge some commonly held stereotypes.   We wrap up the conversation with some practical tips on being an ethical porn consumer and setting aside the performative mindset around sex.   Instead of porn being a topic fueled by stigma, this conversation with Paulita relooks at porn as a genre of entertainment and a way to understand our sexuality, when used responsibly.   So if you want to develop better porn habits or explore new fantasies, this episode will give you the tools to make the most informed choices in terms of what you consume.      ---   -   Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed   -   Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com   -   Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram   -  Check out our sponsors that help keep this show free: OhMiBod (http://lovelifetoys.com, @ohmibod) and Promescent (http://promescent.com, @promescent)   -  Detailed show notes for this episode at http://sarasense.com/podcast