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People Pleasing, Being Alone and Living In Denial

People Pleasing, Being Alone and Living In Denial

FromThe Dating After Divorce Survival Guide


People Pleasing, Being Alone and Living In Denial

FromThe Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

ratings:
Length:
32 minutes
Released:
Feb 14, 2021
Format:
Podcast episode

Description

Moving right along from Episode 3 and just in time for Valentine's Day (if you haven't listened to it start there, actually just start at Season 1 because this is a story, not a podcast made up of standalone episodes)! It's the holidays and yours truly, Eric Payne, The Divorced Dillinger, travels home to visit the family! Before it's all over I will have eaten my way through Chicago, connected with old friends, weighed in polygamy, and held court with a trio of prayer warriors. See below for the episode acts and topics and their timestamps:
(03:47) Act 1: Dealing With Rejection
How rejection can manifest negatively in your life such as imposter syndrome
A better way to view rejection and use it as a springboard for success

(10:18) Act 2: The Power of Being Alone
Using solitude to your advantage
Understanding the paradox of people-pleasing and ways to go about breaking the codependent need to please others
and why you should

(15:10) Acts 3 & 4: Acceptance is a Hell of a Drug
Reconnecting with old friends over the miles and the years
The damage and dangers of living in denial and keeping secrets a.k.a. ignoring the truth
The power of being present, accepting your circumstances for what they are, and what this means

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Resources from the Episode : 
This episode's poem, As the Drip Drops, can be found here: http://epayne.me/poetrybook (http://epayne.me/poetrybook)
You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerch (https://epayne.me/podmerch)
Sign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayne (http://patreon.com/ericpayne)
Get control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care (https://epayne.me/self-care)
Learn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA (https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA)
Some episode music by Epik The Dawn and Temper Beats
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About The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide
Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.
Released:
Feb 14, 2021
Format:
Podcast episode

Titles in the series (60)

Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage & fatherhood blogger, tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want. What Does Starting Over Mean? Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself. It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey of trying to find love again and discovering himself in the process.