Ep #209: A Nuanced Approach to Effective Consequences

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Ep #209: A Nuanced Approach to Effective Consequences

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Nov 9, 2022

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What do you do when you issue a consequence for negative behaviors, and your child accepts it, but there is still something that needs to be fixed? This podcast answers that question.

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Nov 9, 2022

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Join ADHD Parenting coaches, Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen, as they provide solutions to help kids with ADHD improve their behavior and heal families. Need individualized help? Sign up for Parenting Coaching https://www.smarterparenting.com/coaching/

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Ep #209: A Nuanced Approach to Effective Consequences

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