Ep # 187: Finding Bids for Connection From Our Children

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Ep # 187: Finding Bids for Connection From Our Children

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May 18, 2022

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In this episode Siope breaks down Effective Communication and how you, as a parent, can apply Gottman's principle of Bids for Connection to your parent-child relationship.

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May 18, 2022

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