Anna Glasgow is an empowerment coach with a passion for personal growth. She has a Master’s Degree in Educational Leadership, and runs the amazing program, “Badass With Boundaries.” We connected over her toddler’s potty training journey on Instagram, and today she joins me as part of my ongoing series in which I simply talk to very cool people! Anna and I break down why boundaries are so important in helping yourself and your family feel safe and secure, the most common areas in which they tend to be crossed, why women tend to have weaker boundaries than men (and how this is exacerbated in parenthood), and how to create your own boundaries using your Love Language and Anna’s Hell Yes/Hell No Method.
Anna shares how leaving an abusive relationship sparked her passion for this topic, and details her own experience hammering out boundaries after becoming a mother. Teaching consent, healing childhood wounds, and reparenting are also discussed. We chat about not having to justify our boundaries to anyone, trusting our intuition, and Anna reminds listeners that boundaries don’t make you a bitch - they make you a badass. To learn more about Anna’s program, visit www.AGlasgowCoach.com or email her at AGlasgowCoach@gmail.com.
 
The Finer Details of This Episode:

No one has absolutely everything figured out - everyone has a chink in their armor

Women tend to have weaker boundaries, which only get exacerbated through parenting

When boundaries and rules are constantly changing, it’s a cluster fuck and makes everyone feel anxious and insecure

Men and women view chores differently, and it’s up to us to vocalize our expectations instead of leaving them unsaid and resenting partner or kids for not meeting them

It’s hard to say what we need, because it opens us up to feeling vulnerable or being rejected

Anna shares how leaving an abusive relationship sparked her passion for setting boundaries and teaching others to do the same

Moms tend to have “grayer” boundaries than Dads - Dad will simply say “No” and move on

Anna’s Hell Yes mentality - if she sits down and asks herself whether she wants to do something or attend a certain event, if it’s not a “Hell Yes,” then it’s a “Hell No”

Knowing what you definitely want or don’t want in life helps your boundaries shape themselves

Hell Yes/Fuck No Theory also applies to teaching consent - it’s either Hell Yes, or Fuck No and there is no gray area

Your Love Language should factor in as you set your own boundaries

You need to set boundaries not only with partners and loved ones, but also with yourself

Not being able to hold boundaries for yourself (food, social media consumption) is often related to unhealed childhood wounds

Hammering out her own boundaries with family after becoming a mother

Stay neutral when people ask questions or pass judgment - you don’t have to assign meaning to it or take comments personally

Parenthood has tested Anna’s boundaries and shown her which faults she needs to work on

Reparenting and accepting that your child may not like the boundaries you’ve set

You don’t have to justify your boundaries to anyone

Too much information from the internet and social media has caused us to doubt our own intuition

 
 
Links:
Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com
Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU
Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - 
https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738
Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Anna Glasgow’s Website www.AGlasgowCoach.com