In this episode Mark and Steve openly address a PBSE listener's questions about what to do with an addict spouse in recovery who still tries to exert control and practice manipulation. -  Why porn/sex addicts can tend to shift blame and accountability.-  Addicts can have a strong affinity for relying on external factors for their emotional stability.-  Why real recovery begins and ends with "ME."-  We have NO control over our partner's perceptions—these are "their reality"—stop trying to do battle with them!-  It's NOT your job to "make your partner feel better," and it's NOT their job to make you feel better! We can support each other's recovery and healing but we should not take OWNERSHIP of them!Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling ServicesHere's an article that can help you in recovery from Porn Addiction—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/post/what-got-you-into-your-porn-addiction-can-help-get-you-outIf you're a spouse suffering in Betrayal Trauma, this article can help—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/post/why-would-your-husband-who-loves-you-gaslight-youTrying to heal your marriage relationship? Check out this article—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/post/do-sexual-entitlement-and-a-healthy-marriage-go-together