How do girls and women learn to masturbate? How does that different from boys, and how does that then inform the sexuality of each? Here, we get down and dirty, sharing our own personal stories around what self-pleasing sex is for us (masturbation), and how that intersects with our dating and relationship lives. We also discuss a surprisingly fun way that several of us have found of empowering ourselves sexually, especially around speaking up for what we want in sex.