Episode 218: I'm the One That I Want

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Episode 218: I'm the One That I Want

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Jul 15, 2022

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Creator of Himeros.tv Davey Wavey is joined by sex and intimacy coach Finn Deerhart and writer and journalist Duane Wells in a conversation about setting boundaries, being a better lover to yourself, spitting during sex, and Davey's trip to Sweden.

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Jul 15, 2022

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Hosted by Davey Wavey and based on the popular erotic website Himeros.tv, this is a fun, juicy version of the gay sex ed class you never had growing up. Join Davey and friends while we talk about gay sex!

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