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Switches or Dials?
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Length:
14 minutes
Released:
Jul 14, 2021
Format:
Podcast episode
Description
No, this isn't some electrical engineering idea. Instead, it has more to do with human nature.
We often want to find the switch, the on/off switch for some situation. Turn off stress by doing this, turn on fitness by doing this. On or off. With a switch.
This causes us to be looking for some super-easy, simple solution... often to complex issues. Particularly when it is a marriage crisis.
A marriage -- much less a marriage crisis -- is not an on/off situation, and no simple switch will turn it around.
Yet that is what many people want. The solution that is as easy as flipping a switch.
Yes, your marriage can be saved and improved, but not with some simple switch. Instead, think about it as dials. Instead of a master switch, there can be a number of dials. Dialing up connection. Dialing down conflict. Dialing up warmth. Dialing down resentment.
We discuss this tendency to look for a switch -- and the need to focus on the dials -- in this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast.
Listen below.
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We often want to find the switch, the on/off switch for some situation. Turn off stress by doing this, turn on fitness by doing this. On or off. With a switch.
This causes us to be looking for some super-easy, simple solution... often to complex issues. Particularly when it is a marriage crisis.
A marriage -- much less a marriage crisis -- is not an on/off situation, and no simple switch will turn it around.
Yet that is what many people want. The solution that is as easy as flipping a switch.
Yes, your marriage can be saved and improved, but not with some simple switch. Instead, think about it as dials. Instead of a master switch, there can be a number of dials. Dialing up connection. Dialing down conflict. Dialing up warmth. Dialing down resentment.
We discuss this tendency to look for a switch -- and the need to focus on the dials -- in this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast.
Listen below.
RELATED RESOURCES
Why Connection is so Important
Dangerous Tricks
The No-Contact Rule
3C Approach
Save The Marriage System
Released:
Jul 14, 2021
Format:
Podcast episode
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