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Marriage Lie #1: “If It’s Work, It’s Wrong”
Marriage Lie #1: “If It’s Work, It’s Wrong”
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Length:
21 minutes
Released:
Oct 28, 2020
Format:
Podcast episode
Description
“I give up,” he said, throwing up his arms. He was ready to leave the session. But before he walked out, I asked, “Can you tell me what just happened? Why are you giving up?"
He told me, “Look, we have struggled during this marriage. Not just now. Other times. I just believe that if you are struggling in a marriage… if things aren’t just moving forward… it isn’t meant to be. It’s wrong.” And he turned to leave.
I responded, “Well, that’s a big fat lie you are believing!"
He stopped, looked back at me, and said, “You have 10 minutes to prove me wrong."
This wasn’t the only time I have encountered this lie. And let me be fair: he wasn’t meaning to lie to me. But he was. In reality, though, he was repeating a lie he believed. There is nothing so dangerous as a lie that we believe, but is entirely false!
My client was ready to leave his marriage because he believed the lie.
In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I start a series on the Lies of Marriage. These lies are things people believe (and act on, because they believe them) that are false, untrue… a lie. But when they take on a life of their own, they unnecessarily destroy marriages.
In this first episode, I tackle the lie, “If you have to work on it, the marriage is wrong.”
Listen below.
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He told me, “Look, we have struggled during this marriage. Not just now. Other times. I just believe that if you are struggling in a marriage… if things aren’t just moving forward… it isn’t meant to be. It’s wrong.” And he turned to leave.
I responded, “Well, that’s a big fat lie you are believing!"
He stopped, looked back at me, and said, “You have 10 minutes to prove me wrong."
This wasn’t the only time I have encountered this lie. And let me be fair: he wasn’t meaning to lie to me. But he was. In reality, though, he was repeating a lie he believed. There is nothing so dangerous as a lie that we believe, but is entirely false!
My client was ready to leave his marriage because he believed the lie.
In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I start a series on the Lies of Marriage. These lies are things people believe (and act on, because they believe them) that are false, untrue… a lie. But when they take on a life of their own, they unnecessarily destroy marriages.
In this first episode, I tackle the lie, “If you have to work on it, the marriage is wrong.”
Listen below.
RELATED RESOURCES
Who I am and Why I do What I do
The Truth About Conflict
Marriage Challenges
Save The Marriage System
Released:
Oct 28, 2020
Format:
Podcast episode
Titles in the series (100)
“Why Should I Even Try?” – When Discouragement Hits… Hard: Several people have asked me the same thing: "What if I am not even sure I want to save my marriage? I am so frustrated and discouraged, I feel like quitting... not even trying." It is a great question! (By the way, by The Save The Marriage Podcast