Let’s say you get a diagnosis for your husband. So you finally know What’s Wrong with Him. But what if his being passive aggressive or bipolar, exhibiting adolescent syndrome, or having ADD, OCD or NPD is not what keeps you sleeping in separate rooms or has every conversation turn into an argument? Imagine that the real issue were something completely unexpected, like it was in my lonely marriage. Today it’s as if my husband never had a deficit disorder, even though he was diagnosed with and medicated for an incurable one years ago. Turns out that treating the illness is not what got me closer to feeling connected and cherished. In my experience, it’s something YOU can change that will have his face light up when you come home and have him chasing you into the bedroom. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about how to cope when he's mentally ill.  During our free Adored Wife Challenge twice a year, where we all experiment with the 6 Intimacy Skills™ together for five days, I interviewed Virginia, who has had such a powerful transformation in her marriage that I knew I wanted you to hear it. I’m excited that Virginia agreed to let me share with you what she did so you can do the same things to make your marriage thrive.  The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week had one of my students sobbing when her marriage counselor prescribed it. No wonder since this exercise only heightens the unpleasantness and hopelessness.