In our family, we are going through some important paradigm shifts around parenting - through a coach, articles, books, etc. It's great! It’s also hard to look at the mistakes.  The truth is that it is hard to change. It is not only difficult to do things differently, but it also takes courage. It takes courage to say, "You know what? I was doing things wrong and now I'm going to do it better.”  It's vulnerable and can feel excruciating - very! But it is strength, not weakness, to change. God is a good God and He will lead you when and how He wants you to change.  There are times the enemy will use those genuine convictions from God as opportunities to take you into a tailspin of self-doubt/self-loathing...don't let him!  Here are some fantastic tools to give you more insight to help you change faster without the issue of depression that you've done it wrong for so long.  That's the beauty of Jesus...He is leading you. He is guiding you.  He is revealing what He wants to reveal to you in the season He wants you to learn it. We can trust Him on that.  The fact that you're willing to "go there" means you're already on the right track! Blessings, Belah PS - If you leave an iTunes review and send me a screenshot, I'd happily send you a couple of free trainings from some of my best-selling courses! If you're not sure how to do this, find out how at delightyourmarriage.com/itunes