To Be Honest I Feel You welcomes us to the next episode of Season 1, Headaches & Heartbreaks.
On Episode 2, Mcaiiah unpacks the song, Lost One by Jazmine Sullivan.
I. The Intro
The song puts listeners right in the middle of a relationship that has either ended or is in the process of ending.
It becomes clear, very early on, that the woman in this relationship believes to be the one at fault for ruining the things. She's writing from a space of defeat as she realizes that far too much damage has been done and it's likely too late to turn things around. Every line is filled with so much pain and regret and listeners are confronted with the reality that while it hurts to be hurt, it also hurts to the cause of someone else's pain.
II. The Walkthrough
The song begins with an immediate confession that she's lost a good man and clearly, she's hurt him bad. She describes that because of the pain she's caused, he's now turning to meaningless sex, alcohol and drugs to numb the pain.
Understanding that she can't make up for her actions and she leaves him with one last plea, before he leaves. This pitiful plea is heart wrenching and practically pointless, but it's her last ditch effort to show just how broken up she is over hurting this man she loved.
III. The Application
This song, in particular, reminds listeners that hurt people hurt people.
This "good man" is now acting reckless and possibly hurting someone else, trying to cope with the pain he feels. Similarly, we often times take the hurt we experience and project that hurt onto someone else. As such, the cycle continues.
IV. The Takeaway
Mcaiiah encourages listeners to feel the hurt.
Don't run from it. Don't avoid it. Don't project it.
The more we come to terms with feeling the hurt that comes from life and relationships, we won't continue to repeat the same cycles.
Mcaiiah encourages listeners to work through pain and not around it.
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Additional Resources
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us)
https://try.talkspace.com (https://try.talkspace.com)
https://www.betterhelp.com (https://www.betterhelp.com)
https://www.mentalhelp.net (https://www.mentalhelp.net)