John Wineland is an LA-based men's group facilitator, speaker, and teacher who has been guiding both men and women — including yours truly — in the realms of life purpose, relational communication, sexual intimacy, and embodiment for the better part of a decade. His teachings are profound and powerful, but he seems to have the unique ability to deliver it with a light and humble heart. I don’t know if I’ve met another individual on this planet as warm and receptive as John. John's embodiment-driven teaching draws from not only over 30 years of experience with his own Buddhist meditative practice but also from 10 years of intensive study and practice with the renowned Yogic Intimacy teacher David Deida. Drawing from Deida's revolutionary framework — as well as the deep lineages of Vajrayana, Tantra, Kundalini yoga, Taoist, and Iron Shirt Qigong traditions — John seeks to create a profound experience for people longing to express their deepest desires with open, fierce, and loving hearts. This multi-faceted approach is both energetic and highly practical, which I can vouch for personally — John’s guidance helped me expand my capacity for communicating with, understanding, and feeling understood by members of the opposite sex (although I’m sure his work can be applied to all relationships, regardless of what they look like).  This episode is almost like a one-on-one coaching session, and a lot of the questions I ask him come from a very personal place. So, you’re going to get a very honest view of what my romantic journey has been like and what I’m looking for out of a relationship today. 08:20 — What’s the newest development in John’s constantly-evolving teachings? What does it mean to be healthy, sexually? The stages of health The most sacred form of sexual health   11:30 — Conscious sexuality Why are people so interested in podcasts about sex? How most of us first learn about sex: kids at school and movies (or pornography) Having casual sex — yay or nay? When should sex enter the equation in a new relationship? How we can create negative karma with unconscious sex Conversations that we should be having in all of our intimate relationships, serious or casual   21:30 — Why men need to cultivate the feminine more deeply Moving beyond the desire for casual sex Any spiritual practice will make you more open and receptive, which will activate the feminine part of you that wants love, wants connection You can’t own your masculine if you’re rejecting your feminine   28:10 — Conscious ways to end a relationship Do men and women have different preferences? A recipe for the ideal way to end a relationship Toxic Masculinity Vs. Toxic Femininity There’s nothing wrong with feeling any emotion — it’s how they’re contained that can become an issue What should be priority #1 for men   36:12 — Learning masculine energy individuals can learn to have an awareness of their feminine It only takes three or four sentences (and a lot of courage) to communicate what’s in the depth of your heart... ...and you shouldn’t just accept it if someone shames you for that Good feedback Vs. Bad feedback in a relationship What we can learn about relationships from movies What can and should men bring to a modern, powerful woman? Integrating physical practices to build a deeper level of awareness and perception   55:57 — A huge challenge for every person today: revealing the truth of your heart (in a way that it can be accepted and honored) The art of revealing the truth of your heart as a gift It requires yogic practice and nervous system training to master this art Do you have a Masculine Core or a Feminine Core — relationally, sexually, and spiritually? When you might have to step into the masculine or feminine, even if it’s not natural for you, to support your partner How do you know if you’re in a relationship that’s wrong for you or if you need to do more inner work?   01:09:33 — Relating John’s teachings to my recent ayahuasca experience You ha