Stephanie chats with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, board-certified psychiatrist specializing in women's mental health and perinatal psychiatry, about maternal mental health and martyrdom. They discuss the real reason many moms are feeling resentful and burnt out. She shares why the common prescription to just  “do more self-care” isn’t working and how it can make moms feel even worse. You’ll learn how Dr. Pooja is helping the moms she works with set boundaries and reclaim their schedules to put themselves first.  Enjoy the listen! You can find us on iTunes, Stitcher or Spotify. We’d love to hear your thoughts on Instagram or Facebook. Topics Discussed: Why the “faux self-care” we’re being offered isn’t helping The real reason moms are feeling so resentful  Realistic strategies to reduce burnout How to get comfortable setting boundaries  How to reconnect with yourself and your needs Show Notes: Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's free guide to Mental Health in Pregnancy and Postpartum During COVID-19 Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's Pregnancy & Mental Health Small Group Course Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's website Find Dr. Pooja on Instagram Pooja’s NY Times Article: Mothers Don’t Have to be Martyrs Pooja’s NY Times Article: Saying ‘No’ Is Self-Care for Parents  Pooja’s Op-Med Article: We Don’t Need Self-Care; We Need Boundaries  Take the free mini course at Dr. Elana’s Med School for Moms Learn more about Whole Mamas Pregnancy Program Subscribe to Whole Mamas Weekly Pregnancy Email Series Follow Steph and Elana on Instagram Whole Mamas Podcast Archive Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, MD is a board-certified psychiatrist and writer specializing in women's mental health and perinatal psychiatry and a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the George Washington University School of Medicine. She maintains a private practice in Washington DC where she applies an integrative approach to taking care of women suffering from maternal mental health conditions. Dr. Lakshmin is most passionate about empowering women and sees her clinical work as a perinatal psychiatrist as an extension of this mission. She is a frequent contributor to The New York Times, and her advice has been featured in Glamour, Harper’s Bazaar, Bustle and various other media outlets. Dr. Lakshmin is active in advocacy work and community building through online platforms. She serves on the Board of Directors for the Maternal Mental Health Leadership Alliance, a national non-profit dedicated to further maternal mental health policy, and the Editorial Advisory Board of Clinical Psychiatry News. She is working on a book about the tyranny of self-care.  Please remember that the views and ideas presented on this podcast are for informational purposes only.  All information presented on this podcast is for informational purposes and not intended to serve as a substitute for the consultation, diagnosis, and/or medical treatment of a healthcare provider. Consult with your healthcare provider before starting any diet, supplement regimen, or to determine the appropriateness of the information shared on this podcast, or if you have any questions regarding your treatment plan.