Ass kickers! Truth: Up until the last few years, I didn’t really know what it took to be a really good friend. Looking back, there were many times when I acted selfishly and I just didn’t know from a practical standpoint how to nurture meaningful friendships. In my 20’s it was mostly about partying and just having a good time, but when I reached my 30’s things shifted and I realized I wanted to work on being a really good friend.